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Not trying to generalise here, but when advocates for this community speak about integration into society, they usually do it in the form that so and so percentage of the straight population is in the workforce etc. Shouldn’t employment of people be discriminated only based on talent or qualification and not sexual orientation?

Before people start bombarding me with being anti-LGBTQ, this is just a point that I observed and would like to know you lots opinion on.
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(Original post by Anonymous)
Not trying to generalise here, but when advocates for this community speak about integration into society, they usually do it in the form that so and so percentage of the straight population is in the workforce etc. Shouldn’t employment of people be discriminated only based on talent or qualification and not sexual orientation?

Before people start bombarding me with being anti-LGBTQ, this is just a point that I observed and would like to know you lots opinion on.
I’ve never heard of this? Can you provide sources please?
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(Original post by Snufkin)
I never knew it had a double meaning tbh. Learn something new everyday. I personally dislike the inclusion of Q in the 'LGBT' initialism because the word 'queer' to me is a pejorative and I personally don't wish to reclaim the word. But... opinions differ on this.
Fair enough - I know opinions always differ on which slurs should be reclaimed/what words people want to use.
I would say the double meaning is fairly well established though (it's on wikipedia https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/LGBT :lol:) and it is the academic term, so I do think it should get mentioned!
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(Original post by becausethenight)
It's basically an umbrella term for everyone who isn't straight and cisgender. Originally it meant "strange" or "odd" (like when you read a 19th century novel and the narrators goes "how exeedingly queer, I could not see how this had happened!" or something), then it began to be used as a slur against gay people as you say, and was reclaimed in the 1980s. It's currently an accepted academic and community term (eg universities with Queer Studies departments, the Queer Eye for the Straight Guy TV show, or Russell T Davies' Queer as Folk).

There has been a push to kind of turn in back into a slur recently which personally I don't like much - any word for us can be a slur, so reclaimining them is important - and like any label some people don't use it or don't like it.

I identify as queer - "bi nonbinary" is a mouthful, publically saying I'm trans can be scary, and I'm here, I'm queer, and sod you if you don't like it is pretty inspirational to me!
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(Original post by Anonymous)
Not trying to generalise here, but when advocates for this community speak about integration into society, they usually do it in the form that so and so percentage of the straight population is in the workforce etc. Shouldn’t employment of people be discriminated only based on talent or qualification and not sexual orientation?

Before people start bombarding me with being anti-LGBTQ, this is just a point that I observed and would like to know you lots opinion on.
The argument of equality of outcome vs equality of opportunity is a political one that involves many different groups. I don't know any LGBT person who has argued for it personally.
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Do you like Alice In Chains?
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so we are discussing homosexulity in religious studies class on thursday, and its filled with 98 percent religious folk. I don't know what to do. because even when the teacher announced the the topic my classmates made rude comments and I am extremely triggerd. Even before the class, please help.
I think definitely have a conversation with the teacher. It is their role to prevent judgement and hate, and they should make sure to follow up on this. There may well be other people in the class who are questioning / closeted and also feel this way. Although to see queerness and religion together can be interesting (I am a bisexual Christian so it's something I'm into!), it's so important that the conversation remains respectful. :yep:
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How can one be bisexual and pansexual?
The meanings can vary from person to person - Bubbles can expand on this :yep:

From my understanding, bisexuality is attraction to more than one gender. For some people, it can mean attraction to only boys and girls, for others, it can mean any gender. The attraction within this can also vary - for example, there was a time when I was romantically attracted to boys but only sexually attracted to girls.

Pansexuality however, is generally seen as attraction regardless of gender. So it doesn't matter. I suppose in this way, because gender isn't important, love can be found in more than one gender. It depends on what the person identifies with :yep:
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(Original post by parmezanne)
The meanings can vary from person to person - Bubbles can expand on this :yep:

From my understanding, bisexuality is attraction to more than one gender. For some people, it can mean attraction to only boys and girls, for others, it can mean any gender. The attraction within this can also vary - for example, there was a time when I was romantically attracted to boys but only sexually attracted to girls.

Pansexuality however, is generally seen as attraction regardless of gender. So it doesn't matter. I suppose in this way, because gender isn't important, love can be found in more than one gender. It depends on what the person identifies with :yep:
I know this is the common definition, but it gives me such a headache - what does "attraction regardless of gender" mean
I had one person try to define it to me as "pansexuals don't think about the genitals of someone they're attracted to" which just seemed so bizarre, it's not like all the bisexuals are going around thinking "ah yes I like this person's genitals so much I'll date them"
/BTN random ranting over :rofl:
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(Original post by Garnettoi)
I’ve never heard of this? Can you provide sources please?
https://www.jdsupra.com/legalnews/ne...or-lgbt-67702/
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(Original post by DiddyDec)
How can one be bisexual and pansexual?
(Original post by DiddyDec)
I don't believe they are synonymous but I shall await Bubbles.
I'm still not completely sure which I identify as and interchange them. Initially I identified as bi as I didn't know pan was a thing and then I identified as pan because I didn't know that bi didn't just have to mean 2 genders and can/does include transgender people. I believe that pan is more about the person than gender which I do identify but I think bi can be similar too. I think generally people can use the term(s) that they feel they fit/identify best with
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(Original post by parmezanne)
Good question!

I think a lot of bisexual people have faced a lot of stereotypes and assumptions over the years. Whether it be questioning the validity of bisexuality based on your partner, or how it's neither 'fully gay' or 'fully straight' etc. I'm not yet out to anyone who is older than my generation (who would be more likely to question the validity of being able to like more than one gender I think), but I reckon I'll face the same situation when I do.

Just know that you don't have to prove anything to anyone. Even if you only date one gender for the rest of your life, doesn't make you any less bisexual. You know who you are and that's the most important thing. People might tell you to make your mind up, but it only comes out of a place of ignorance and misinformation about how stressful it can actually be to navigate your sexuality. :yep:

Bisexual people always have existed and they always will exist. :hugs:
(Original post by becausethenight)
I'm bi too, and I think that's something most bi people worry about or feel unfortunately :hugs:There can also be an attitude of "well if you're dating someone of the opposite sex you're basically straight" and vice versa which sucks (my parents are very much of this opinion).

The thing is that those people are idiots and they certainly don't know more about you than you do. It can be worth thinking about what you might say if you came out to someone and they reacted like that, and what your coping strategy would be?
Tysm for your replies! And they're so sweet!!! <3
My parents kinda think it's wrong to be LGBTQ+ (they're kinda like im not opposed to it but there's no way me or my children are) which is horrible and for a long time i thought i would just never talk about being bi ever. I told my older sister once, i was crying bc of lots of stress with school etc and generally felt bad bc i felt like i couldnt talk to anyone about it in case my parents found out...but yh i told her and it was the best thing i ever did. We dont talk about it online/over messages in case my parents see (shes at uni now) but occasionally she'll send me loads of rainbow emojis with a question mark to check im okay with everything to do with that .
Ngl, I literally have no clue why im posting this, ig I want to talk about it more and im doing that from the security of an anonymous post hahaha. Anyway, tysm for your messages x
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(Original post by parmezanne)
I think definitely have a conversation with the teacher. It is their role to prevent judgement and hate, and they should make sure to follow up on this. There may well be other people in the class who are questioning / closeted and also feel this way. Although to see queerness and religion together can be interesting (I am a bisexual Christian so it's something I'm into!), it's so important that the conversation remains respectful. :yep:
thank youuu
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(Original post by becausethenight)
That sucks :hugs:
I'm quite tempted to say just skip the class If it would be safe for you to do so, could you talk to the teacher about feeling worried and ask about how they're planning to deal with students being rude? But ultimately you don't have to listen to abuse and if the easiest thing is to fake a stomachache and miss the class, why not.
I'm currently on my period so I can fake a cramp
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Tysm for your replies! And they're so sweet!!! <3
My parents kinda think it's wrong to be LGBTQ+ (they're kinda like im not opposed to it but there's no way me or my children are) which is horrible and for a long time i thought i would just never talk about being bi ever. I told my older sister once, i was crying bc of lots of stress with school etc and generally felt bad bc i felt like i couldnt talk to anyone about it in case my parents found out...but yh i told her and it was the best thing i ever did. We dont talk about it online/over messages in case my parents see (shes at uni now) but occasionally she'll send me loads of rainbow emojis with a question mark to check im okay with everything to do with that .
Ngl, I literally have no clue why im posting this, ig I want to talk about it more and im doing that from the security of an anonymous post hahaha. Anyway, tysm for your messages x
I'm so glad we could help :hugs:

I'm happy you felt comfortable enough to tell your sister - I'm also not out to my parents but I've definitely dropped hints to all my family members. It's lovely you have that relationship with her and I wish you the best of luck for whatever you choose to do in the future!

We created this outlet so people like yourself could find support, I'm so happy it's served it's purpose for you!
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Oh well that is rather silly should just be based on merit
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Just wondering, is (trigger warning) shemale, an acctual condition or somethin
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Just wondering, is (trigger warning) shemale, an acctual condition or somethin
Intersex folks exist but I think calling someone a shemale would be regarded as offensive tbh
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Cuz, there is a word sexually ambiuous im wonderin if thats the same thing
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