LGBTQ+ Q and A Thread

Reply 460

Anonymous #46

How old is too old to be a virgin?

Reply 461

Kathy89

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by Anonymous

How can you tell if you're bi or straight?

It took me a while to realize that.
It is a spectrum thing, it is not really black and white like many people think. Most people are kind of bi to a certain level.
Are you attracted to both male and female? Is there something specific in a person that attracts you?

Reply 462

Anonymous #46

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by Kathy89

It took me a while to realize that.
It is a spectrum thing, it is not really black and white like many people think. Most people are kind of bi to a certain level.
Are you attracted to both male and female? Is there something specific in a person that attracts you?

I am more attracted to females, but not the typically lesbian looking female. (Sorry, don't mean to offend anyone). I am attracted to what most people would think a straight woman looks like.

Reply 463

Lilacfern

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by Anonymous

I am more attracted to females, but not the typically lesbian looking female. (Sorry, don't mean to offend anyone). I am attracted to what most people would think a straight woman looks like.

I feel like I can really relate to this.

Reply 464

Anonymous #46

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by Lilacfern

I feel like I can really relate to this.

Would you describe yourself as straight? Would you or have you ever wished to be the opposite sex? And I am assuming that you are female?

Reply 465

Anonymous #46

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by Lilacfern

I feel like I can really relate to this.

If you are then maybe we are made for each other! Sorry, cringe.

Reply 466

Lilacfern

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by Anonymous

Would you describe yourself as straight? Would you or have you ever wished to be the opposite sex? And I am assuming that you are female?

Definitely female, never questioned that. Im queer, but not sure if I'm bi or lesbian. I feel like I would never want to be in a long term relationship with a male, yet I still don't feel comfortable with letting go of that traditional route completely. I grew up never questioning my sexuality as a kid and as a younger teen, I was always going to get a prince charming and have kids. Now I'm in sixth form I've realised that i want to raise a child, but I don't think I want to spend the rest of my life with a man. My reasonable crushes have all been on women, but occasionally I find myself having some sort of feeling for older guys - however I'm not sure that this is me finding them attractive as it might just be more of a father figure, which I do see in a few of them, even though I have no daddy issues or anything , I had the picture perfect childhood. I feel like sometimes if I do fantasise about males it's more because it's easier and it's the culture I was raised in - like it's more represented in films etc. But my ideal life would be marrying a woman but still rasing a kid. Does that make sense?

Reply 467

phi04

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i’m a lesbian and happy to answer any questions

Reply 468

CatusStarbright

Volunteer Section Leader, Clearing and Applications Advisor

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Original post

by Anonymous

How old is too old to be a virgin?

I don't think there really is any age where someone is 'too old'. It depends entirely on personal circumstances and what the person wants.

Reply 469

Anonymous #47

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by Ethane_the_pug

people tell me that a lot. hasn't happened in a couple months, but i still get anxious about it. you aren't alone (:

Hiya, im bi too but ive never had this specific problem. tbh there's lots of different ways that you can deal with these things really, depending on how much you hype your self up. You can stand up to anyone that is rude to you and argue your points eg. why do you care, I like who i like and being arogant and rude isnt gonna change that (so p1ss off) etc. But always make sure to be the bigger person, dont make urself open to be seen as the bad guy. you could also just tell them that if they've go so much of a problem with it then maybe their just suppressed gay ppl. homophobic ppl tend to take this as an insult and often struggle to find a come back. Good luck!

Reply 470

100133954

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How do I tell a girl I like her if I'm afab and closeted non-binaryyyyyy heeeellppppp

Reply 471

anosmianAcrimony

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by 100133954

How do I tell a girl I like her if I'm afab and closeted non-binaryyyyyy heeeellppppp

Just talk to her like anyone else - ask her about herself, get to know her, suggest nice things to do together. You don't necessarily have to make a big confession and put her on the spot - keep it light and allow your interest in her to become apparent. Good luck, you've got this!

Reply 472

ThatOneEnbyKid

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by Anonymous

Spoiler

I dont think this is triggering content but idk so i put in a spoiler just in case....

To be honest this happens a lot to people, mainly because people can’t wrap their heads around the idea of liking more than one gender, but there might be some comments like that.

Reply 473

ThatOneEnbyKid

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by Anonymous

How old is too old to be a virgin?

There really is no age that is “too old” to be a virgin, especially if you aren’t comfortable with doing it, even if you are, you can wait as long as you like

Reply 474

Jamesx199612

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by parmezanne

Welcome to TSR's LGBTQ+ Q & A Thread!

This thread is designed to answer any questions you might have being queer or as an ally! Although we can't speak for the entire LGBTQ+ community, we will all have some shared experiences, whether it be coming out or questioning ourselves. Feel free to ask for advice, information, experiences or places to find support. :yep:

Below are a number of queer TSR users who are happy to provide advice or answer questions:

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me, @parmezanne - bisexual

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@BurstingBubbles - bisexual / pansexual

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@becausethenight - non-binary / trans / bisexual

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@Stiff Little Fingers - trans

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@1582 - non-binary

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@CatusStarbright - asexual

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@shadowdweller - demisexual / graysexual

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@Elizabeth II - bisexual

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@CoolCavy - gay

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@SarcAndSpark - bisexual / polysexual

Link to the LGBT+ Chat Thread: https://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/showthread.php?t=2529505
Link to this year's Pride Hub: https://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/showthread.php?t=7034240
Q and A Moderation Notes:

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This thread is not intended for debate. Any users inciting debate or being disrespectful will be removed.

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Please be mindful of any triggering content. If you are asking about something that is potentially triggering, please provide a trigger warning and put the question in a spoiler.

So was wondering if I was gay considering I like boys and girls but i mostly want. To have sex with girls

Reply 475

CatusStarbright

Volunteer Section Leader, Clearing and Applications Advisor

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by Jamesx199612

So was wondering if I was gay considering I like boys and girls but i mostly want. To have sex with girls

It's entirely up to you to decide how you want to label yourself, or if you even want to put a label on it at all!

If it helps, what you are describing may fit the term 'bisexual'. However, nobody can definitively tell you whether you think your experience fits with that or is something else.

Reply 476

nonchalant-

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by Jamesx199612

So was wondering if I was gay considering I like boys and girls but i mostly want. To have sex with girls

Bi sexual

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