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#41
(Original post by j-dulas)
Cuz, there is a word sexually ambiuous im wonderin if thats the same thing
Cuz, there is a word sexually ambiuous im wonderin if thats the same thing
if you’re referring to an intersex person non directly then I would just say intersex
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#42
(Original post by j-dulas)
Just wondering, is (trigger warning) shemale, an acctual condition or somethin
Just wondering, is (trigger warning) shemale, an acctual condition or somethin
Around 1-2% of the population is intersex in some way, either by having chromosomal abnormalities or genitalia/hormone profiles that don’t fit our ideas of typically male or female. The medical terminology used is “intersex” or the name of their specific condition (eg Kleinfelter’s). Many intersex people don’t identify as trans, part of the LGBT community, or having a medical condition though.
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#43
What does gender envy feel like?
I identify as female, and I kinda wish I didn’t have breasts? I just,,,feel detached from it. I’m in a weird space of questioning my sexuality as well, so it’s all a bit confusing lol
I identify as female, and I kinda wish I didn’t have breasts? I just,,,feel detached from it. I’m in a weird space of questioning my sexuality as well, so it’s all a bit confusing lol
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(Original post by Anonymous)
What does gender envy feel like?
I identify as female, and I kinda wish I didn’t have breasts? I just,,,feel detached from it. I’m in a weird space of questioning my sexuality as well, so it’s all a bit confusing lol
What does gender envy feel like?
I identify as female, and I kinda wish I didn’t have breasts? I just,,,feel detached from it. I’m in a weird space of questioning my sexuality as well, so it’s all a bit confusing lol
but you've come to the right place for some advice and support! I'm going to pass this one onto becausethenight Stiff Little Fingers and sinfonietta who will have more experience with gender identity than me. 
In terms of your sexuality, what are you finding particularly confusing? I spent an entire year questioning mine so I might be of some help to you if you could expand a little more, if you're comfortable to of course
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#45
(Original post by Anonymous)
What does gender envy feel like?
I identify as female, and I kinda wish I didn’t have breasts? I just,,,feel detached from it. I’m in a weird space of questioning my sexuality as well, so it’s all a bit confusing lol
What does gender envy feel like?
I identify as female, and I kinda wish I didn’t have breasts? I just,,,feel detached from it. I’m in a weird space of questioning my sexuality as well, so it’s all a bit confusing lol
I can't speak about this from the point of view of someone who isn't Cis, but I'm a cis woman and I very much wish I had a more androgynous body type- I think we are so bombarded with images of certain types of bodies, particularly in terms of "high fashion" that it can be normal to dislike or not feel comfortable with certain aspects of "female" bodies.
It's not quite the same thing, as I wouldn't want to not have breasts at all, but I'd like them to be much smaller, and to not really have hips etc etc.
Breasts can be uncomfortable, cause back pain, you have to buy special bras to exercise and it's just a whole thing.
I just wanted to offer the perspective that not being comfortable with all aspects of your body as woman doesn't necessarily mean you're not cis. Although, of course, it might.
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#46
(Original post by parmezanne)
I'm sorry that you're in a bit of a muddle right now
but you've come to the right place for some advice and support! I'm going to pass this one onto becausethenight Stiff Little Fingers and sinfonietta who will have more experience with gender identity than me. 
In terms of your sexuality, what are you finding particularly confusing? I spent an entire year questioning mine so I might be of some help to you if you could expand a little more, if you're comfortable to of course
I'm sorry that you're in a bit of a muddle right now
but you've come to the right place for some advice and support! I'm going to pass this one onto becausethenight Stiff Little Fingers and sinfonietta who will have more experience with gender identity than me. In terms of your sexuality, what are you finding particularly confusing? I spent an entire year questioning mine so I might be of some help to you if you could expand a little more, if you're comfortable to of course
Not really knowing if I am attracted to guys kinda makes it difficult to figure out the whole, do i want to be *with* them or *be* them
(Original post by SarcAndSpark)
Hey,
I can't speak about this from the point of view of someone who isn't Cis, but I'm a cis woman and I very much wish I had a more androgynous body type- I think we are so bombarded with images of certain types of bodies, particularly in terms of "high fashion" that it can be normal to dislike or not feel comfortable with certain aspects of "female" bodies.
It's not quite the same thing, as I wouldn't want to not have breasts at all, but I'd like them to be much smaller, and to not really have hips etc etc.
Breasts can be uncomfortable, cause back pain, you have to buy special bras to exercise and it's just a whole thing.
I just wanted to offer the perspective that not being comfortable with all aspects of your body as woman doesn't necessarily mean you're not cis. Although, of course, it might.
Hey,
I can't speak about this from the point of view of someone who isn't Cis, but I'm a cis woman and I very much wish I had a more androgynous body type- I think we are so bombarded with images of certain types of bodies, particularly in terms of "high fashion" that it can be normal to dislike or not feel comfortable with certain aspects of "female" bodies.
It's not quite the same thing, as I wouldn't want to not have breasts at all, but I'd like them to be much smaller, and to not really have hips etc etc.
Breasts can be uncomfortable, cause back pain, you have to buy special bras to exercise and it's just a whole thing.
I just wanted to offer the perspective that not being comfortable with all aspects of your body as woman doesn't necessarily mean you're not cis. Although, of course, it might.
I don’t have gender dysphoria- I don’t think. I feel semi comfortable in my body- but it’s more like apathy?
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#47
(Original post by parmezanne)
This thread is designed to answer any questions you might have being queer or as an ally! Although we can't speak for the entire LGBTQ+ community, we will all have some shared experiences, whether it be coming out or questioning ourselves. Feel free to ask for advice, information, experiences or places to find support.
Below are a number of queer TSR users who are happy to provide advice or answer questions:
Link to the LGBT+ Chat Thread: https://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/sho....php?t=2529505
Link to last year's Pride Hub: https://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/sho...ht=pride%20hub
Q and A Moderation Notes:
Welcome to TSR's LGBTQ+ Q & A Thread!
This thread is designed to answer any questions you might have being queer or as an ally! Although we can't speak for the entire LGBTQ+ community, we will all have some shared experiences, whether it be coming out or questioning ourselves. Feel free to ask for advice, information, experiences or places to find support.
Below are a number of queer TSR users who are happy to provide advice or answer questions:
- me, parmezanne - bisexual
- BurstingBubbles - bisexual / pansexual
- becausethenight - non-binary / trans / bisexual
- Stiff Little Fingers - trans
- sinfonietta - non-binary / gender non-conforming / bisexual / pansexual
- CatusStarbright - asexual
- shadowdweller - demisexual / graysexual
- Elizabeth II - bisexual
- CoolCavy - gay
Link to the LGBT+ Chat Thread: https://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/sho....php?t=2529505
Link to last year's Pride Hub: https://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/sho...ht=pride%20hub
Q and A Moderation Notes:
- This thread is not intended for debate. Any users inciting debate or being disrespectful will be removed.
- Please be mindful of any triggering content. If you are asking about something that is potentially triggering, please provide a trigger warning and put the question in a spoiler.
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(Original post by jademowry123)
hey my name is jay-jay i have a question to ask xx
hey my name is jay-jay i have a question to ask xx
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#49
(Original post by parmezanne)
sure! go ahead
sure! go ahead
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(Original post by jademowry123)
i am a lesbian but somedays i feel like i dont have a gender what does that mean
i am a lesbian but somedays i feel like i dont have a gender what does that mean
I'm going to hand you over to sinfonietta and becausethenight - I haven't experienced struggles with gender identity so perhaps they'll be better suited to help you
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#51
(Original post by Anonymous)
Uh- I’ve been questioning my sexuality for almost a year now, and came to the conclusion that I’m not straight. I think I’m attracted to men? And probably also women (since I was in denial about having a crush on my female best friend for a good year). I’ve stuck with queer as a label- since I think I’m attracted to all genders, but not quite sure yet. I think I just have impostor syndrome- I question myself relentlessly about whether I’m ‘queer enough’ and worry if I’m kist trying to draw attention to myself/I’m just faking it.
Not really knowing if I am attracted to guys kinda makes it difficult to figure out the whole, do i want to be *with* them or *be* them
I’m not totally flat chested, but I’ve always had small breasts. I kinda just want them.. gone. They don’t really impact my life? Thats sounds weird- but I’ve never had health related issues with them, I can get away with not really wearing a bra and being fine.
I don’t have gender dysphoria- I don’t think. I feel semi comfortable in my body- but it’s more like apathy?
Uh- I’ve been questioning my sexuality for almost a year now, and came to the conclusion that I’m not straight. I think I’m attracted to men? And probably also women (since I was in denial about having a crush on my female best friend for a good year). I’ve stuck with queer as a label- since I think I’m attracted to all genders, but not quite sure yet. I think I just have impostor syndrome- I question myself relentlessly about whether I’m ‘queer enough’ and worry if I’m kist trying to draw attention to myself/I’m just faking it.
Not really knowing if I am attracted to guys kinda makes it difficult to figure out the whole, do i want to be *with* them or *be* them
I’m not totally flat chested, but I’ve always had small breasts. I kinda just want them.. gone. They don’t really impact my life? Thats sounds weird- but I’ve never had health related issues with them, I can get away with not really wearing a bra and being fine.
I don’t have gender dysphoria- I don’t think. I feel semi comfortable in my body- but it’s more like apathy?
But it sounds like there are other things making you question your gender identity a bit? So it may be worth playing with gender a bit to see how that makes you feel?
I think the way you feel about being "queer" is very common too.
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#52
(Original post by Anonymous)
What does gender envy feel like?
I identify as female, and I kinda wish I didn’t have breasts? I just,,,feel detached from it. I’m in a weird space of questioning my sexuality as well, so it’s all a bit confusing lol
What does gender envy feel like?
I identify as female, and I kinda wish I didn’t have breasts? I just,,,feel detached from it. I’m in a weird space of questioning my sexuality as well, so it’s all a bit confusing lol
Dysphoria can be weird, people don't experience it the same way - for some people it doesn't come as discomfort or pain but as apathy towards assigned gender and euphoria at being seen as a different gender. Finding a label can be useful for yourself but you don't need to find a label to start making changes to your presentation based on how you'd like to be seen. Sometimes that can end up telling you more about what labels you might be comfortable with.
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#53
(Original post by parmezanne)
Hi! Thanks for your question.
I'm going to hand you over to sinfonietta and becausethenight - I haven't experienced struggles with gender identity so perhaps they'll be better suited to help you
Hi! Thanks for your question.
I'm going to hand you over to sinfonietta and becausethenight - I haven't experienced struggles with gender identity so perhaps they'll be better suited to help you
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(Original post by jademowry123)
how do i get in touc with them to talk about my expierence
how do i get in touc with them to talk about my expierence
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#56
I feel that I'm faking being part of the LGBTQ+ community / that I'm a cishet person who wants attention :/
(I only found out some labels that fit with my gender/sexuality quite recently and I'm really confused)
I also feel like a hypocrite because I used to be against the community... (but now I am trying to be a good ally)
(I only found out some labels that fit with my gender/sexuality quite recently and I'm really confused)
I also feel like a hypocrite because I used to be against the community... (but now I am trying to be a good ally)
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I think it might be the homophobia / transphobia in my family that makes me think I'm faking being part of the community, but I'm not sure
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#58
(Original post by Anonymous)
I feel that I'm faking being part of the LGBTQ+ community / that I'm a cishet person who wants attention :/
(I only found out some labels that fit with my gender/sexuality quite recently and I'm really confused)
I also feel like a hypocrite because I used to be against the community... (but now I am trying to be a good ally)
I feel that I'm faking being part of the LGBTQ+ community / that I'm a cishet person who wants attention :/
(I only found out some labels that fit with my gender/sexuality quite recently and I'm really confused)
I also feel like a hypocrite because I used to be against the community... (but now I am trying to be a good ally)
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I think it might be the homophobia / transphobia in my family that makes me think I'm faking being part of the community, but I'm not sure
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#59
(Original post by Anonymous)
What's the Q strand for?
What's the Q strand for?
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#60
(Original post by Anonymous)
What's the Q strand for?
What's the Q strand for?
I forgot to add that I don't experience dysphoria, so that's probably why I feel like I'm pretending
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