Poorer mental health at uni accommodation vs at home?

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Hi,

I just need a bit of advice or maybe even just to talk it out to see if it makes sense in my head.

For context, his academic year has been particularly difficult with uni being all virtual but being at private halls of accommodation since at the beginning of the year we were led to believe that some classes were going to be in person.
Also as a result of lockdown I have had to spend time at my parent's house at times of the year when I would usually not do so. Like for example, I had to leave uni accommodation and return home in December earlier than expected and then had to stay there until mid February. Now I've been back at uni but all my lectures are over and all I have left is revision for exams and then finishing the reports for my final year project.

I guess my feeling right now is that I get pretty bored and actually more distracted by being in the same room all day going between the bed and the desk to work, chill, repeat. So in my mind it kinda makes sense to go back home (parent's home) now instead of at the end of the academic year since I'm not taking advantage of anything by being here. But at the same time, the feeling of paying for this place which I have used so little this year makes me feel really bad. Also, of course living independently is nice because I go by my own schedule and no-one is really bothering me but if I went back home of course I'd have more people to deal with which is not too bad, it is just one more thing.

I think this year just feels like a little bit of a failed attempt tbh where I tried to have a normal uni experience since it is my final year but I ended up without any of the benefits and all the losses, like I paid for expensive accommodation but didn't get to use it much and when I did then I was stressed by being in the same place for so long. On top of that I have not been able to secure a job yet which is a bit disappointing since I had the idea of just moving out straight from my uni accommodation to my new job location but that doesn't seem like it will happen.

I guess my question would be, would I be better off just returning home as soon as possible to close this uni chapter of my life as soon as possible? or should I try to push through and finish my academic year here which will be approximately 3 more months?

Thanks for reading!
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Hi,

I just need a bit of advice or maybe even just to talk it out to see if it makes sense in my head.

For context, his academic year has been particularly difficult with uni being all virtual but being at private halls of accommodation since at the beginning of the year we were led to believe that some classes were going to be in person.
Also as a result of lockdown I have had to spend time at my parent's house at times of the year when I would usually not do so. Like for example, I had to leave uni accommodation and return home in December earlier than expected and then had to stay there until mid February. Now I've been back at uni but all my lectures are over and all I have left is revision for exams and then finishing the reports for my final year project.

I guess my feeling right now is that I get pretty bored and actually more distracted by being in the same room all day going between the bed and the desk to work, chill, repeat. So in my mind it kinda makes sense to go back home (parent's home) now instead of at the end of the academic year since I'm not taking advantage of anything by being here. But at the same time, the feeling of paying for this place which I have used so little this year makes me feel really bad. Also, of course living independently is nice because I go by my own schedule and no-one is really bothering me but if I went back home of course I'd have more people to deal with which is not too bad, it is just one more thing.

I think this year just feels like a little bit of a failed attempt tbh where I tried to have a normal uni experience since it is my final year but I ended up without any of the benefits and all the losses, like I paid for expensive accommodation but didn't get to use it much and when I did then I was stressed by being in the same place for so long. On top of that I have not been able to secure a job yet which is a bit disappointing since I had the idea of just moving out straight from my uni accommodation to my new job location but that doesn't seem like it will happen.

I guess my question would be, would I be better off just returning home as soon as possible to close this uni chapter of my life as soon as possible? or should I try to push through and finish my academic year here which will be approximately 3 more months?

Thanks for reading!
I’m going through the exact same thing, payed for a studio flat as I was told I was doing uni face to face then found out I was only in once a week. Im a bit different though because this is my first year of university. My home is small but my accom was much more convenient, but like you, I got really bored and due to covid and living in a studio I haven’t been able to make friends. I also missed my sisters who were practically my only friends lol. My advice to you would be to go home, your mental health will be good and your more likely to do well. Don’t worry about not finding a job that’s absolutely expected during these times. But then again if you go home, you will get bothered at bit more and might get distracted, which will affect your exam results. Just stay focused and socialise with your parents/friends and speak to people. I became exceedingly distant and it affected my mental health when I was living alone. Best of luck x
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I’m going through the exact same thing, payed for a studio flat as I was told I was doing uni face to face then found out I was only in once a week. Im a bit different though because this is my first year of university. My home is small but my accom was much more convenient, but like you, I got really bored and due to covid and living in a studio I haven’t been able to make friends. I also missed my sisters who were practically my only friends lol. My advice to you would be to go home, your mental health will be good and your more likely to do well. Don’t worry about not finding a job that’s absolutely expected during these times. But then again if you go home, you will get bothered at bit more and might get distracted, which will affect your exam results. Just stay focused and socialise with your parents/friends and speak to people. I became exceedingly distant and it affected my mental health when I was living alone. Best of luck x
Hi, thanks for your reply. It's good to hear from people in similar situations. I feel like nowadays it's hard to even just have a casual conversation about things like this because let's be honest it'd be weird to hit up one of your friends about something like this whereas before you could just casually mention it in person.

Yea I think overall it's frustration more than anything, especially since it seems like there are no 'good' options, just the 'least bad' if that makes sense. I think it's also hard to just go home since that almost like confirms that you did make a bad decision by choosing to move out in the first place. But I guess that just happens sometimes and you learn from it.

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I'm really sorry you disliked your final year so much, especially considering it really wasn't your fault

I think most people at this time have the attitude of just closing the chapter and starting a new one but with things reopening soon you might want to say? it's all up to you really but remember not to beat yourself up too much, it's not your fault.
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I'm really sorry you disliked your final year so much, especially considering it really wasn't your fault

I think most people at this time have the attitude of just closing the chapter and starting a new one but with things reopening soon you might want to say? it's all up to you really but remember not to beat yourself up too much, it's not your fault.
Hi thanks for your reply! Yea, honestly I'm happy with the academic side of it, it's just everything around it has been so hectic I honestly want to finish as soon as possible.

Yea that's a good point although realistically that's probably happening soon is it? I mean uni finishes mid June anyway :/

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