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Lately I’ve found myself thinking so much about my past and how much I loved it. I feel inadequate in my current happiness yet I have everything I ever wanted. I’m studying at my dream uni, got my dream internship, the perfect friends and I’m so close with my family. I am so blessed. But why do I find myself longing for my past? I’m 20, going to be 21 next month. Is this how adulthood feels like? Will I always miss my past and will I ever be as happy as I was during my teenage years?
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Probably, tbh. I can't say I reminisce about my teenage years, but I have never been as happy as I was in sixth form and I doubt I even will be. Coming from someone who is nearly 30.
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With mindfulness and meditation.
Mindfulness trains you to stay focused on the present and to be less judgemental.
Meditation shows you how most thoughts are pointless and intrusive.
Mindfulness trains you to stay focused on the present and to be less judgemental.
Meditation shows you how most thoughts are pointless and intrusive.
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I went through a period of feeling like that, so I completely understand what you’re going through. The problem is, our memory often idealises the past. I found myself reminiscing about how happy I was in the sixth form recently, and even though I do have good memories, I had to remind myself that on a day to day basis I was actually tired and frustrated and yearning for school to end. So, at the end of an individual day I used to feel fairly negative, but now that I’ve moved on my brain focuses on all the good bits, which skews my perception.
I think everyone does this to an extent, and not just for their childhood - probably at some point in the future, you’ll look back at the time of life you’re in now with longing too! Try just to make the most of each day and focus on your life in the present rather than dwelling on times gone by. I also advise trying to work out if there are any specific elements that you miss from your past? When I did this, I realised that a key component of my childhood happiness was the sense of wonder and possibility I felt, which was subdued when I got older. So, I have tried to re-ignite my old excitement for learning new things and being creative, and that helped.
Happiness is not limited to youth. I hope you get through this soon! It is definitely possible.
I think everyone does this to an extent, and not just for their childhood - probably at some point in the future, you’ll look back at the time of life you’re in now with longing too! Try just to make the most of each day and focus on your life in the present rather than dwelling on times gone by. I also advise trying to work out if there are any specific elements that you miss from your past? When I did this, I realised that a key component of my childhood happiness was the sense of wonder and possibility I felt, which was subdued when I got older. So, I have tried to re-ignite my old excitement for learning new things and being creative, and that helped.
Happiness is not limited to youth. I hope you get through this soon! It is definitely possible.
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(Original post by Anonymous)
Probably, tbh. I can't say I reminisce about my teenage years, but I have never been as happy as I was in sixth form and I doubt I even will be. Coming from someone who is nearly 30.
Probably, tbh. I can't say I reminisce about my teenage years, but I have never been as happy as I was in sixth form and I doubt I even will be. Coming from someone who is nearly 30.
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(Original post by Anonymous)
With mindfulness and meditation.
Mindfulness trains you to stay focused on the present and to be less judgemental.
Meditation shows you how most thoughts are pointless and intrusive.
With mindfulness and meditation.
Mindfulness trains you to stay focused on the present and to be less judgemental.
Meditation shows you how most thoughts are pointless and intrusive.
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just box it up and continue...focus on the day to day and before you know it you dont think of it anymore, thats what works for me anyway. As long as you focus on self improvement and personal responsibility then you will always be progressing
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(Original post by Rockmeteller)
I went through a period of feeling like that, so I completely understand what you’re going through. The problem is, our memory often idealises the past. I found myself reminiscing about how happy I was in the sixth form recently, and even though I do have good memories, I had to remind myself that on a day to day basis I was actually tired and frustrated and yearning for school to end. So, at the end of an individual day I used to feel fairly negative, but now that I’ve moved on my brain focuses on all the good bits, which skews my perception.
I think everyone does this to an extent, and not just for their childhood - probably at some point in the future, you’ll look back at the time of life you’re in now with longing too! Try just to make the most of each day and focus on your life in the present rather than dwelling on times gone by. I also advise trying to work out if there are any specific elements that you miss from your past? When I did this, I realised that a key component of my childhood happiness was the sense of wonder and possibility I felt, which was subdued when I got older. So, I have tried to re-ignite my old excitement for learning new things and being creative, and that helped.
Happiness is not limited to youth. I hope you get through this soon! It is definitely possible.
I went through a period of feeling like that, so I completely understand what you’re going through. The problem is, our memory often idealises the past. I found myself reminiscing about how happy I was in the sixth form recently, and even though I do have good memories, I had to remind myself that on a day to day basis I was actually tired and frustrated and yearning for school to end. So, at the end of an individual day I used to feel fairly negative, but now that I’ve moved on my brain focuses on all the good bits, which skews my perception.
I think everyone does this to an extent, and not just for their childhood - probably at some point in the future, you’ll look back at the time of life you’re in now with longing too! Try just to make the most of each day and focus on your life in the present rather than dwelling on times gone by. I also advise trying to work out if there are any specific elements that you miss from your past? When I did this, I realised that a key component of my childhood happiness was the sense of wonder and possibility I felt, which was subdued when I got older. So, I have tried to re-ignite my old excitement for learning new things and being creative, and that helped.
Happiness is not limited to youth. I hope you get through this soon! It is definitely possible.
thank you for your overall advice, I will take it on board & also I’m glad you brought me to the realisation of what’s truly holding me back!
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(Original post by neal95)
just box it up and continue...focus on the day to day and before you know it you dont think of it anymore, thats what works for me anyway. As long as you focus on self improvement and personal responsibility then you will always be progressing
just box it up and continue...focus on the day to day and before you know it you dont think of it anymore, thats what works for me anyway. As long as you focus on self improvement and personal responsibility then you will always be progressing
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