My mum opened my letter from the GPWatch
I agree with both of you that the privacy issue needs to be addressed.
But I'm just saying at this point where OP's concern is the ADHD referral being exposed, it's in his/her interest to focus on encouraging the mother to agree w that before escalating to the general issue of lack of privacy (which still should be addressed).
Escalation to general privacy issues is undoubtedly going to be contentious, and I'm sure the mother will take issue w it. Confrontation will involve raised tensions, and that may make her less inclined to be understanding about the ADHD.
The ADHD may be something that she doesn't believe in, but she could be educated using NHS.com and if possible any in-family healthcare workers. In a situation where she's not already angry, she may then be supportive about the ADHD referral. After this, the privacy issue could be addressed
I feel like a family that is anti-mental health due to cultural reasons would not take kindly to the children dictating what rights the parents have.
But I agree lying is bad.
To the OP: Very difficult situation, is there another family member that would empathise with you? A father, relative (especially if anyone in healthcare? I'd want to try and explain the situation to my mother and get her to understand, and showing you have the support of another respected family member may make that possible.
I do think my mum would know I’m lying but I feel like it would be a better alternative to explaining something to them that they won’t accept, I was waiting to confirm it before they found out so it could be a serious convery
You need to nip this appalling behaviour in the bud with them.