Born Loner

I feel like I don't understand relationships...

Since being a child I have always had friends, at least until a few years ago. Never been in a relationship with a woman either.

If I go on dating apps it doesn't feel right to me. It is almost as if I'm kidding myself and faking who I am (because a photo and description can never really show a person who you really are) just to create some kind of relationship, but then I think for what purpose?

Over the past few years of being a 100% loner I feel this weird disconnection. Everything I do for work is really just for myself. I don't use it to create meaningful relationships even though I get on well with people. I take no real thought or notice of relationships now. My future just consists of me progressing and being successful with career, but never relationships. The idea of being in relationships just fades away.

A romantic relationship seems just... weird to me? I feel so disconnected to the thought of a woman liking me that is never seems of reality, more like just fantasy and imagination, something you read or watch in movies, something that happened in somebody else's life, not mine.

It has been so long, that I no longer understand it.

Man up.

deep.

I feel like I don't understand relationships...

Since being a child I have always had friends, at least until a few years ago. Never been in a relationship with a woman either.

If I go on dating apps it doesn't feel right to me. It is almost as if I'm kidding myself and faking who I am (because a photo and description can never really show a person who you really are) just to create some kind of relationship, but then I think for what purpose?

Over the past few years of being a 100% loner I feel this weird disconnection. Everything I do for work is really just for myself. I don't use it to create meaningful relationships even though I get on well with people. I take no real thought or notice of relationships now. My future just consists of me progressing and being successful with career, but never relationships. The idea of being in relationships just fades away.

A romantic relationship seems just... weird to me? I feel so disconnected to the thought of a woman liking me that is never seems of reality, more like just fantasy and imagination, something you read or watch in movies, something that happened in somebody else's life, not mine.

It has been so long, that I no longer understand it.

U might wanna try grinder most people dont want relationships just hook ups

I'm a heterosexual male and not into just hooking up it just seems pretty pointless to me.

I feel like I don't understand relationships...

Since being a child I have always had friends, at least until a few years ago. Never been in a relationship with a woman either.

If I go on dating apps it doesn't feel right to me. It is almost as if I'm kidding myself and faking who I am (because a photo and description can never really show a person who you really are) just to create some kind of relationship, but then I think for what purpose?

Over the past few years of being a 100% loner I feel this weird disconnection. Everything I do for work is really just for myself. I don't use it to create meaningful relationships even though I get on well with people. I take no real thought or notice of relationships now. My future just consists of me progressing and being successful with career, but never relationships. The idea of being in relationships just fades away.

A romantic relationship seems just... weird to me? I feel so disconnected to the thought of a woman liking me that is never seems of reality, more like just fantasy and imagination, something you read or watch in movies, something that happened in somebody else's life, not mine.

It has been so long, that I no longer understand it.

Oh sorry,hmmmmm do you feel hormy or having the desire for sex?

Relationships are not the be all and end all

Yeah I'm not asexual.

But are you sure about that? I'm not sure being alone your entire life is such a good way to go, and that is part of the issue I'm having.

I know someone like u,im simple terms ur an introvert u keep to yourself and dont really need to spend time in relationships but u might want or need a relationship like a friend or something.you dont like to force relationships and that can be hard on a introvert u have to find someone u really enjoy being with which can be hard.

I get you OP, i'm one of those drifters aswell. I think some people are just like that and do well in life in other ways, maybe not in the conventional LTR way but in other ways. Just keep plodding along

For me personally, yeah. I'm happier single.

Hmmm the thing I wonder is this may change as you get older. I'm now mid 30's. I think is I was 25, sure you are just getting started, at 35 you start thinking hang on a moment... so what is my future really going to look like.

Pretty much yeah, I'm a very very honest and "real" person. I don't understand forced relationships at all, though at the same time I'm not picky in the slightest. Being introverted (although weirdly I'm actually very self confident in a lot of ways) certainly had made relationships harder, but it has also been so long and I have no experience, so don't understand them.

Hmmm the thing I wonder is this may change as you get older. I'm now mid 30's. I think is I was 25, sure you are just getting started, at 35 you start thinking hang on a moment... so what is my future really going to look like.

My peers are mostly married and starting to have kids and I still don't really see the attraction. Like if a relationship happens, it happens, but I don't see it as a goal for myself.