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I’m gonna try keep this short but this situation has effected me way worse than I expected it to. I’ll get straight to the point

We’d just finished having sex , and my girlfriend must’ve been talking about mutual friends that we share between eachother. It wasn’t long before she RANDOMLY, without me even asking about this one person, unprovoked, mentioned how there’s this one guy that showed her and her friend his penis during some party in a local park in the summer time. She explained how he took them round the corner to show them his penis (on his phone) which seems so suspect to me. I personally believe she lied to my face and he actually wacked it out in front of them (because why on earth would he need to go round some corner to show them a picture/video of his penis? because I sure as hell know I wouldn’t if I was him unless I had the intention of wacking it out) but she denies it fully.

Anyways fast forward now, she’s now going into detail about how big is penis was and didn’t stop putting emphasis. “It was really really big you know, like really big” just kept on saying whilst getting dressed after us having sex. I’m just sat on the bed nodding my head like some idiot just casually hearing my girlfriend comfortably telling me about how big another mans size like I’m her gay best friend or something. And these times, remember I didn’t even mention or ask so please don’t comment if your gonna say stuff like “well you asked she answered”

So now I’ve just sat there looking at her and she’s asking me why I’m not saying anything. Lol. I sat there for about 5 minutes processing everything and once I did, I felt insecure for the first time for some reason and I couldn’t help it, which caused me to ask her quickly (I regret it) “bigger than mine?” I had to know and she replied “hmm idk maybe the same size” I knew just from that she lied to me to protect my ego but little did she know she’d somehow managed to damage it with the amount of emphasis she put on the size of his penis unprovoked.

I got dressed and left her house. I had nothing else to say to her after that convo I was in rage. We had a big big argument later in the day about it, which she did end up apologising. I wanted to leave her after that comment because why would it even cross her mind for her to tell me such things. I know for certain I’ve never mentioned other girls body parts in front of her, furthermore it’s never ever crossed my mind, remember, I never asked about this guy that she was bragging about. What I’m tryna say now is I can’t get it out my head even weeks later, I’ve tried to forget about it but it keeps coming back. I’ve never been insecure about my penis size my penis is big and she’s even said it’s the biggest she’s had etc.

But it hurt me badly, more the fact that she comfortably told her bf how big a mutual friends penis size was/is I have no idea how she put so much emphasis from a picture/video and still managed to compare it to mine, the maths don’t add up he must’ve gotten it out. I’m not really posting for sympathy I just wanted to see you guys opinion, will it leave my head eventually? Am I being overly insecure? Please don’t tell me “leave her if you can’t get over it” because it’s not as easy as that guys, please. My ego has been struck and it’s made me refrain less from talking about other girls infront of her. (I know it’s bad and petty, come at me for it.. it is what it is) it’s been a few weeks now since she all of that went down, I feel **** everytime I think about it. I can’t help it, I’m human.
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I’m gonna try keep this short but this situation has effective me way worse than I expected it to. I’ll get straight to the point

We’d just finished having sex , and my girlfriend must’ve been talking about mutual friends that we share between eachother. It wasn’t long before she RANDOMLY, without me even asking about this one person, unprovoked, mentioned how there’s this one guy that showed her and her friend his penis during some party in a local park in the summer time. She explained how he took them round the corner to show them his penis (on his phone) which seems so suspect to me. I personally believe she lied to my face and he actually wacked it out in front of them (because why on earth would he need to go round some corner to show them a picture/video of his penis? because I sure as hell know I wouldn’t if I was him unless I had the intention of wacking it out) but she denies it fully.

Anyways fast forward now, she’s now going into detail about how big is penis was and didn’t stop putting emphasis. “It was really really big you know, like really big” just kept on saying whilst getting dressed after us having sex. I’m just sat on the bed nodding my head like some idiot just casually hearing my girlfriend comfortably telling me about how big another mans size like I’m her gay best friend or something. And these times, remember I didn’t even mention or ask so please don’t comment if your gonna say stuff like “well you asked she answered”

So now I’ve just sat there looking at her and she’s asking me why I’m not saying anything. Lol. I sat there for about 5 minutes processing everything and once I did, I felt insecure for the first time for some reason and I couldn’t help it, which caused me to ask her quickly (I regret it) “bigger than mine?” I had to know and she replied “hmm idk maybe the same size” I knew just from that she lied to me to protect my ego but little did she know she’d somehow managed to damage it with the amount of emphasis she put on the size of his penis unprovoked.

I got dressed and left her house. I had nothing else to say to her after that convo I was in rage. We had a big big argument later in the day about it, which she did end up apologising. I wanted to leave her after that comment because why would it even cross her mind for her to tell me such things. I know for certain I’ve never mentioned other girls body parts in front of her, furthermore it’s never ever crossed my mind, remember, I never asked about this guy that she was bragging about. What I’m tryna say now is I can’t get it out my head even weeks later, I’ve tried to forget about it but it keeps coming back. I’ve never been insecure about my penis size my penis is big and she’s even said it’s the biggest she’s had etc.

But it hurt me badly, more the fact that she comfortably told her bf how big a mutual friends penis size was/is I have no idea how she put so much emphasis from a picture/video and still managed to compare it to mine, the maths don’t add up he must’ve gotten it out. I’m not really posting for sympathy I just wanted to see you guys opinion, will it leave my head eventually? Am I being overly insecure? Please don’t tell me “leave her if you can’t get over it” because it’s not as easy as that guys, please. My ego has been struck and it’s made me refrain less from talking about other girls infront of her. (I know it’s bad and petty, come at me for it.. it is what it is) it’s been a few weeks now since she all of that went down, I feel **** everytime I think about it. I can’t help it, I’m human.
Yeah I also find that pretty suspect about the phone/video and it’s clear he showed it to them in real life.

It’s hard to tell what her intentions were without knowing her and her personality but it could have just been stupid post-sex talk that we all engage in and she could have just said it without really thinking or meaning to be tactless. We all have those moments where we’re like “why the hell did I say that??” which is what you did when you impulsively asked whether it was bigger than yours. Moreover, if she only saw it when flaccid it doesn’t necessarily mean it’s bigger than yours when erect, but I realise that even if that’s the case it’s not going to make her having talked about it any less weird. I also think it’s admirable you haven’t talked about other girls’ bits in front of her which I think is very decent and shows that you respect other people’s privacy as well as not being petty and trying to get her back for it.

What has she been like since the incident? I suppose only you’re in a position to know whether your relationship can survive this.
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Yeah I also find that pretty suspect about the phone/video and it’s clear he showed it to them in real life.

It’s hard to tell what her intentions were without knowing her and her personality but it could have just been stupid post-sex talk that we all engage in and she could have just said it without really thinking or meaning to be tactless. We all have those moments where we’re like “why the hell did I say that??” which is what you did when you impulsively asked whether it was bigger than yours. Moreover, if she only saw it when flaccid it doesn’t necessarily mean it’s bigger than yours when erect, but I realise that even if that’s the case it’s not going to make her having talked about it any less weird. I also think it’s admirable you haven’t talked about other girls’ bits in front of her which I think is very decent and shows that you respect other people’s privacy as well as not being petty and trying to get her back for it.

What has she been like since the incident? I suppose only you’re in a position to know whether your relationship can survive this.
She has felt really bad to be honest but recently it’s become a thing in my head about her not telling me the truth if he got out his penis or not, I can’t tell whether she’s taking the truth to her grave (because she fears my reaction) or if she’s being honest. If she’s genuinely being honest then it’s not like I can pressure her into telling me what I want to hear, especially if it’s not the truth if that makes sense I asked her “if was to ask him rn if he backed it out what would he say” , she replied “ I don’t know” that there was my answer given to me but she still proceeded to deny it.
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I’m gonna try keep this short but this situation has effected me way worse than I expected it to. I’ll get straight to the point

We’d just finished having sex , and my girlfriend must’ve been talking about mutual friends that we share between eachother. It wasn’t long before she RANDOMLY, without me even asking about this one person, unprovoked, mentioned how there’s this one guy that showed her and her friend his penis during some party in a local park in the summer time. She explained how he took them round the corner to show them his penis (on his phone) which seems so suspect to me. I personally believe she lied to my face and he actually wacked it out in front of them (because why on earth would he need to go round some corner to show them a picture/video of his penis? because I sure as hell know I wouldn’t if I was him unless I had the intention of wacking it out) but she denies it fully.

Anyways fast forward now, she’s now going into detail about how big is penis was and didn’t stop putting emphasis. “It was really really big you know, like really big” just kept on saying whilst getting dressed after us having sex. I’m just sat on the bed nodding my head like some idiot just casually hearing my girlfriend comfortably telling me about how big another mans size like I’m her gay best friend or something. And these times, remember I didn’t even mention or ask so please don’t comment if your gonna say stuff like “well you asked she answered”

So now I’ve just sat there looking at her and she’s asking me why I’m not saying anything. Lol. I sat there for about 5 minutes processing everything and once I did, I felt insecure for the first time for some reason and I couldn’t help it, which caused me to ask her quickly (I regret it) “bigger than mine?” I had to know and she replied “hmm idk maybe the same size” I knew just from that she lied to me to protect my ego but little did she know she’d somehow managed to damage it with the amount of emphasis she put on the size of his penis unprovoked.

I got dressed and left her house. I had nothing else to say to her after that convo I was in rage. We had a big big argument later in the day about it, which she did end up apologising. I wanted to leave her after that comment because why would it even cross her mind for her to tell me such things. I know for certain I’ve never mentioned other girls body parts in front of her, furthermore it’s never ever crossed my mind, remember, I never asked about this guy that she was bragging about. What I’m tryna say now is I can’t get it out my head even weeks later, I’ve tried to forget about it but it keeps coming back. I’ve never been insecure about my penis size my penis is big and she’s even said it’s the biggest she’s had etc.

But it hurt me badly, more the fact that she comfortably told her bf how big a mutual friends penis size was/is I have no idea how she put so much emphasis from a picture/video and still managed to compare it to mine, the maths don’t add up he must’ve gotten it out. I’m not really posting for sympathy I just wanted to see you guys opinion, will it leave my head eventually? Am I being overly insecure? Please don’t tell me “leave her if you can’t get over it” because it’s not as easy as that guys, please. My ego has been struck and it’s made me refrain less from talking about other girls infront of her. (I know it’s bad and petty, come at me for it.. it is what it is) it’s been a few weeks now since she all of that went down, I feel **** everytime I think about it. I can’t help it, I’m human.
Ngl didn't rlly read the whole thing

but the fact she is talking about how big another man's penis is without you asking especially after sex is very disrespectful and dfisgusting tbh
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She has felt really bad to be honest but recently it’s become a thing in my head about her not telling me the truth if he got out his penis or not, I can’t tell whether she’s taking the truth to her grave (because she fears my reaction) or if she’s being honest. If she’s genuinely being honest then it’s not like I can pressure her into telling me what I want to hear, especially if it’s not the truth if that makes sense I asked her “if was to ask him rn if he backed it out what would he say” , she replied “ I don’t know” that there was my answer given to me but she still proceeded to deny it.
Well I don’t know, as you say, she might not want to admit it because she’s afraid of hurting you and the fact this all happened weeks ago she just might not want to drag the subject up again. I don’t know how important it is for you to know the truth about this single incident but if I was in this situation I would let it go at this point, especially if the relationship with the girlfriend was fairly good and patched up.
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Ngl didn't rlly read the whole thing

but the fact she is talking about how big another man's penis is without you asking especially after sex is very disrespectful and dfisgusting tbh
Believe me bro it’s made take a few steps back in this relationship. I know my stock when it comes to girls. I almost ended it with her because my pride and ego couldn’t bare it. I’m doing my best to move on from it
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Well I don’t know, as you say, she might not want to admit it because she’s afraid of hurting you and the fact this all happened weeks ago she just might not want to drag the subject up again. I don’t know how important it is for you to know the truth about this single incident but if I was in this situation I would let it go at this point, especially if the relationship with the girlfriend was fairly good and patched up.
I will try to brother, thank you for hearing me out
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Honestly she just seems a bit of a **** (no pun intended). I wouldn't tell a girl about someone else's tits or even say "oh yea someone show me their tits in summer on their phone". I don't blame you for being annoyed. I'd finish with the person but that's mainly because I don't think through things and I'd take a comment like the one she made as highly suspicious and wouldn't want to risk there being anything else
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Presuming this monster sighting was before you were together then I would just put this down to some insensitive banter that she has apologised for and move on.
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Believe me bro it’s made take a few steps back in this relationship. I know my stock when it comes to girls. I almost ended it with her because my pride and ego couldn’t bare it. I’m doing my best to move on from it
Hmm yes I'd understand if you ended it like she's ******** all over your dignity but if you see that you could forgive her and that it won't have a massive effect then try to move on but I'm just saying for all yk when you have sex she might not even thinking baout you..
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Hmm yes I'd understand if you ended it like she's ******** all over your dignity but if you see that you could forgive her and that it won't have a massive effect then try to move on but I'm just saying for all yk when you have sex she might not even thinking baout you..
My guy.. don’t even make me start overthinking during my 8 hour shift mannnnn tbh, the relationship has gone bad after she made that relationship because it’s caused me to go on random moods and I can’t even help it. It’s f’ked me up badly but I love her and I know she does too. It just caught me off guard because that’s the first time she’s made a comment like that about another man to me
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Presuming this monster sighting was before you were together then I would just put this down to some insensitive banter that she has apologised for and move on.
It was during our serious talking stage, about a month or two before I made it official
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Am I being overly insecure?
Yes.

You are being massively over insecure.

Read the Nancy Friday books on women's sexual fantasies.

The size of you penis and his penis makes no more difference than the size of your feet compared to his.

Your penis is going inside her vagina, not his.
It's what you do with your penis, fingers, hands, tongue that counts, not the size.
Your girlfriend was being relatively open and honest when she told this anecdote and you've responded to her honesty by giving her a hard time. That's unfair on her. You should have given her a hug and peck on the lips or cheek or forehead and "Thanks for sharing that with me."

You are not in some penis size competition. You never are. It doesn't matter if your penis is the size of a tiny carrot.
And even if it did matter a little bit - the nature of the relationship with your girlfriend is of far more importance than the size of your penis. Your response to this totally triffling and unimportant revelation of hers has soured your relationship.

Your girlfriend has done nothing wrong - as far as we know. It's not like she put his penis between her lips. What she did was the equivalent of looking at porn or a stripper.

So what should do now? Tell her you've had a think about things and sorted yourself out and that you're grateful that she shared this anecdote with you. And give her a big hug and make love to her in a special way (for her) next time you go to bed with her.
And then put it all behind you and forget all about it.

Self secure men are attractive.
Secure men never get phased by their penis size compared to others.
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Yes.

You are being massively over insecure.

Read the Nancy Friday books on women's sexual fantasies.

The size of you penis and his penis makes no more difference than the size of your feet compared to his.

Your penis is going inside her vagina, not his.
It's what you do with your penis, fingers, hands, tongue that counts, not the size.
Your girlfriend was being relatively open and honest when she told this anecdote and you've responded to her honesty by giving her a hard time. That's unfair on her. You should have given her a hug and peck on the lips or cheek or forehead and "Thanks for sharing that with me."

You are not in some penis size competition. You never are. It doesn't matter if your penis is the size of a tiny carrot.
And even if it did matter a little bit - the nature of the relationship with your girlfriend is of far more importance than the size of your penis. Your response to this totally triffling and unimportant revelation of hers has soured your relationship.

Your girlfriend has done nothing wrong - as far as we know. It's not like she put his penis between her lips. What she did was the equivalent of looking at porn or a stripper.

So what should do now? Tell her you've had a think about things and sorted yourself out and that you're grateful that she shared this anecdote with you. And give her a big hug and make love to her in a special way (for her) next time you go to bed with her.
And then put it all behind you and forget all about it.

Self secure men are attractive.
Secure men never get phased by their penis size compared to others.
What kind of bs is this he isn't being insecure ay bro pls dont listen to this bs it's probs one of those feminists who thinks women are always right your not being insecure at all
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My guy.. don’t even make me start overthinking during my 8 hour shift mannnnn tbh, the relationship has gone bad after she made that relationship because it’s caused me to go on random moods and I can’t even help it. It’s f’ked me up badly but I love her and I know she does too. It just caught me off guard because that’s the first time she’s made a comment like that about another man to me
Don't overthink it's simple she disrespected you Im not saying breakup but it's your choice
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So because she mentioned another blokes penis in front of you, you felt bad? Oaky... She then apologised and.... what you’re still mad? 😂 Dude grow up, she even said your the same size, it was after sex chat and yeah it wasn’t great convo but she even apologised after you fought with her about it. Which by the way is so pathetic like man If just because your girl mentioned another blokes **** ,that she saw on a phone in front of you, is enough to break up with her then you need therapy for self esteem issues not advise on TSR. God dude I mean girls have mentioned **** In front of me before because here’s a bit of knowledge ive learnt, girls don’t actually like **** that much, not the same ways guys like tits or anything. She wasn’t make post sex convo, sex involving ***** so hence where the convo relates and you didn’t like it. She apologised, frankly im gonna side with your girl here, I wouldn’t have made my girl apologise over something soo trival but whatever she did so anyway and this point if you “cant forgive” 😂 then she’s better off without a whiny weak man like yourself.
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What kind of bs is this he isn't being insecure ay bro pls dont listen to this bs it's probs one of those feminists who thinks women are always right your not being insecure at all
Has she had sex with this other guy?
Has she even indicated that she wants sex with this other guy?
Is the size of c0nfusions penis when compared to anyone else in the World's of any importance whatsoever? Especially when it comes to its' functions of urinating and providing sexual pleasure for himself and his girlfriend?


What type of guy do you think is more attractive to women - in general? The sort that doesn't give two hoots about what anyone thinks of the size of their penis? Or the sort of guy that gets annoyed / defensive / upset / comes over as insecure when their penis is compared to someone else's?

Do you want c0nfusion to be the overall most attractive man that he can be?
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Yo bro, Your gyal just testing you. All girls do that (in different ways tho not ike this one here lol). Girls do that so they can see how they react. Thye tend to want someone mysterious sounds thats kinda hard to crack ygm. In his situation you failed. Just watch how you and her will drastically start to fall apart. start finding another one or anohter man will find her lol. For example one of my ex's used to this always on ft by saying 'why do I get all this fit lads dm me' and because I did't show any care to wat she sai she even anted me more because the typical lad would be like 'block em startightawya smt like that. To some of you this might seem like real waffle but trust me its not. I only know this because you got to focuse on yourself not focusing on the relationship.
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So because she mentioned another blokes penis in front of you, you felt bad? Oaky... She then apologised and.... what you’re still mad? 😂 Dude grow up, she even said your the same size, it was after sex chat and yeah it wasn’t great convo but she even apologised after you fought with her about it. Which by the way is so pathetic like man If just because your girl mentioned another blokes **** ,that she saw on a phone in front of you, is enough to break up with her then you need therapy for self esteem issues not advise on TSR. God dude I mean girls have mentioned **** In front of me before because here’s a bit of knowledge ive learnt, girls don’t actually like **** that much, not the same ways guys like tits or anything. She wasn’t make post sex convo, sex involving ***** so hence where the convo relates and you didn’t like it. She apologised, frankly im gonna side with your girl here, I wouldn’t have made my girl apologise over something soo trival but whatever she did so anyway and this point if you “cant forgive” 😂 then she’s better off without a whiny weak man like yourself.
Fair enough for you then boss
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Has she had sex with this other guy?
Has she even indicated that she wants sex with this other guy?
Is the size of c0nfusions penis when compared to anyone else in the World's of any importance whatsoever? Especially when it comes to its' functions of urinating and providing sexual pleasure for himself and his girlfriend?


What type of guy do you think is more attractive to women - in general? The sort that doesn't give two hoots about what anyone thinks of the size of their penis? Or the sort of guy that gets annoyed / defensive / upset / comes over as insecure when their penis is compared to someone else's?

Do you want c0nfusion to be the overall most attractive man that he can be?
Ok your missing the point she compared it right after sex without him even asking

Insecure is like when girls get pissed when you like another girls photo that's insecure but when she straight up goes up to him and till him another man has a huge dong especially after sex that's just disrespect

who told you he cared about his penis size? if he was insecure he wouldn't have had sex to begin with cuz he wouldn't want her to see it
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