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No guarantee and even if it does do you I can just join a social club like that? Wake up and "yeah let's join a social club", I wish, its not that simple and if it was I would do it now
Think of some topics you're interested in and search for a club for it. It should be fairly easy.
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I'm 17, but I get how you feel...

My Advice:
- Try having Vitamin D3 tablets or eating bananas daily as it'll eventually reduce depressing thoughts.
- Short guys can definitely get girls, I'm a similar height but I don't feel like it takes anything away from us.
- Social situations is an issue for me as well, I think it's a good idea to interact and express yourself on this site, who knows, you might make a friend or even get into a relationship (has happened numerous times). My social life is similar to yours...
- Crying is good to release stress. Do it when you feel like it, honestly, it's therapeutic in a way.

As your first goal, look for a job (don't think too much about money) that you feel like you're good for. Delivery driving is a fairly simple job that could help your other issues along the way.

Best of luck
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I'm 17, but I get how you feel...

My Advice:
- Try having Vitamin D3 tablets or eating bananas daily as it'll eventually reduce depressing thoughts.
- Short guys can definitely get girls, I'm a similar height but I don't feel like it takes anything away from us.
- Social situations is an issue for me as well, I think it's a good idea to interact and express yourself on this site, who knows, you might make a friend or even get into a relationship (has happened numerous times). My social life is similar to yours...
- Crying is good to release stress. Do it when you feel like it, honestly, it's therapeutic in a way.

As your first goal, look for a job (don't think too much about money) that you feel like you're good for. Delivery driving is a fairly simple job that could help your other issues along the way.

Best of luck
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For the next week or so- write on here what you have achieved each day. This will also motivate you more
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I’m 20 and Im bored in my life just with what's going on. Because of this, I am depressed, lacking motivation and have no goals in life.

I just feel so unhappy with life right now, it's hard to focus properly right now. I have no one to turn to for advice, no one understands and just thinks I am lazy etc.

I live with my parents, but I want to move out , I would much rather be on my own living with mates or a girlfriend but I'm a short guy, I'm 5 foot 5 if that so I will never get a girl plus consideringthe fact I just **** myself in social situations andmy personality sucks. I am ****ing loser , I'm ****ing 20, living at home with parents and unemployed, it's a **** situation to be in but no one understands. If you understood what I went through then you would understand.

Sometimes I just feel like crying. I am a grown 20 year old guy and I want to cry. I have almost zero social life, very few friends because I have grown apart and distanced myself from people, so I pretty much live in solitude 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.

Do I want this life? Of course I don't, but I don't know how to change. Each day, week, month seems to pass so fast and next thing I am a year older with still no direction. Especially in the pandemic.

I am frustrated and annoyed at myself too for not changing, but it's hard when you have nothing worthwhile or good in your life. Very little family, hardly any friends, no girlfriend or even female acquaintances, no job, no career or life goals etc.

What do I do? All I can do is ask questions on here to a bunch of kids who are probably way younger than me , nor care too much, but I have no one else to turn to, so this is all I've got.
Bro idk what to say to you. But man you are two years older than me and are already afraid. It’s okay to feel like this ✨
I’m bad with advice but here goes first of all living with your parents at the age of 20 is normal even if you are unemployed. 2) I understand the unemployment bit especially with lockdown I’ve been applying for jobs since January and haven’t got a response back. So things will get better soon don’t worry. 3) my dad is 5ft 6 around Ish and got married at the age of 22 then divorced then married my mum when he was 27. He’s a short guy 😂 but his ex wife still pines for him after like 20 years 😂 so you’ll find someone dont worry about that. 4) bro I don’t even have any life goals I’m scared that the course I’m planning to do will be hella competitive and I’m gonna have to do something different afterwards.
I never stick to life goals. I can give you three of mine
✨be thankful for the roof over my head and my mum who makes me food for my lazy ass
✨ try to always learn something new along the way
✨never giving up even when times get hard

Hope these kinda help and give you some sort of reassurance. Whenever I get depressed I just watch video essays on YouTube or read psychological thriller manga. It’s fine to rest and enjoy the little things too. Even if you are 20 it’s okay to not have your life all sorted out yet. Plus it’s okay to cry 😢 I cry at night when I remember I’m now an adult and scared to face reality.

I wish you all the best 😌
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Also it’s important to try and reach out to anyone. I’m an introvert so I don’t really message anyone and usually keep to myself, but there are community places you join
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Coming from a 19 year old 5 foot 4 girl, I know height feels like such an issue when u hear people talking about 6 ft lads but girls really don’t care as much as u might think. I have so many girl friends who are 5 foot who literally wouldn’t care for anyone above 5 7.
Also so many people are in ur situation, I’m meant to be living away for uni and I’ve been home all of 2021 coz of the pandemic which meant I had to leave my job and didn’t get furloughed. Lockdown makes u feel like the peak of ur life is passing u by and a few months ago I felt the same, but soon it’ll be back to normal. The best thing to do is divert your negative emotions to something positive- make a plan about what u want out of lockdown or find a goal, join clubs, find new experiences.
If you’re feeling really low, try to confide in someone like a friend or family member.
The best advice for right now honestly is start a routine. Wake up in the morning, do something productive to break up the day as opposed to watching the day fly by in your house.
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No guarantee and even if it does do you I can just join a social club like that? Wake up and "yeah let's join a social club", I wish, its not that simple and if it was I would do it now
what is so complicated about joining a social club ? it is not like applying for Oxbridge
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OK, do you have any suggestions
What about enquiring with your local Sea Cadets to see whether they need any help from volunteers at the local unit?

https://www.sea-cadets.org/units

https://www.sea-cadets.org/volunteer
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You have options. Apprenticeships are a great way of getting into a career and gain qualifications, the money isn't great but you need to start. Only person who can make a change is you. I am 21 and have only just got into a job/career that I really want to do longterm. You have time but make an effort to put yourself out there, best of luck in your future!
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Social clubs don’t mean only youth groups. Join a sports team, cadets, attend gym sessions- you can meet so many people in gym classes.
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I’m 20 and Im bored in my life just with what's going on. Because of this, I am depressed, lacking motivation and have no goals in life.

I just feel so unhappy with life right now, it's hard to focus properly right now. I have no one to turn to for advice, no one understands and just thinks I am lazy etc.

I live with my parents, but I want to move out , I would much rather be on my own living with mates or a girlfriend but I'm a short guy, I'm 5 foot 5 if that so I will never get a girl plus consideringthe fact I just **** myself in social situations andmy personality sucks. I am ****ing loser , I'm ****ing 20, living at home with parents and unemployed, it's a **** situation to be in but no one understands. If you understood what I went through then you would understand.

Sometimes I just feel like crying. I am a grown 20 year old guy and I want to cry. I have almost zero social life, very few friends because I have grown apart and distanced myself from people, so I pretty much live in solitude 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.

Do I want this life? Of course I don't, but I don't know how to change. Each day, week, month seems to pass so fast and next thing I am a year older with still no direction. Especially in the pandemic.

I am frustrated and annoyed at myself too for not changing, but it's hard when you have nothing worthwhile or good in your life. Very little family, hardly any friends, no girlfriend or even female acquaintances, no job, no career or life goals etc.

What do I do? All I can do is ask questions on here to a bunch of kids who are probably way younger than me , nor care too much, but I have no one else to turn to, so this is all I've got.
Bless you this makes me so sad to read this! Many people are feeling this way especially due to the pandemic I know I am, most people haven't had social interactions for over a year even if you would be like this without the pandemic. Can you maybe try and form a better relationship with your parents? And what about finding a job any even in a supermarket you will find it hard to make friends otherwise if you don't go out and work especially in supermarkets where most of them are our age will help you meet new people and where you'll find friends. Stop putting yourself down you're not a loser and most people sh*t themselves in social situations we just know how to hide it well!!! I've lost a lot of friends too because of the pandemic ones I'd normally go out with and now we've just lost touch so I completely understand how you're feeling. You won't feel like this forever and theres also nothing wrong with your height I know most girls want someone taller than them but I'm a 5'5 girl and my boyfriend is the same height as me I always said I wanted someone taller but when I met him everything was perfect so I don't care that he's not taller.
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I’m 20 and Im bored in my life just with what's going on. Because of this, I am depressed, lacking motivation and have no goals in life.

I just feel so unhappy with life right now, it's hard to focus properly right now. I have no one to turn to for advice, no one understands and just thinks I am lazy etc.

I live with my parents, but I want to move out , I would much rather be on my own living with mates or a girlfriend but I'm a short guy, I'm 5 foot 5 if that so I will never get a girl plus consideringthe fact I just **** myself in social situations andmy personality sucks. I am ****ing loser , I'm ****ing 20, living at home with parents and unemployed, it's a **** situation to be in but no one understands. If you understood what I went through then you would understand.

Sometimes I just feel like crying. I am a grown 20 year old guy and I want to cry. I have almost zero social life, very few friends because I have grown apart and distanced myself from people, so I pretty much live in solitude 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.

Do I want this life? Of course I don't, but I don't know how to change. Each day, week, month seems to pass so fast and next thing I am a year older with still no direction. Especially in the pandemic.

I am frustrated and annoyed at myself too for not changing, but it's hard when you have nothing worthwhile or good in your life. Very little family, hardly any friends, no girlfriend or even female acquaintances, no job, no career or life goals etc.

What do I do? All I can do is ask questions on here to a bunch of kids who are probably way younger than me , nor care too much, but I have no one else to turn to, so this is all I've got.
Short guys are hot
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I’m 20 and Im bored in my life just with what's going on. Because of this, I am depressed, lacking motivation and have no goals in life.

I just feel so unhappy with life right now, it's hard to focus properly right now. I have no one to turn to for advice, no one understands and just thinks I am lazy etc.

I live with my parents, but I want to move out , I would much rather be on my own living with mates or a girlfriend but I'm a short guy, I'm 5 foot 5 if that so I will never get a girl plus consideringthe fact I just **** myself in social situations andmy personality sucks. I am ****ing loser , I'm ****ing 20, living at home with parents and unemployed, it's a **** situation to be in but no one understands. If you understood what I went through then you would understand.

Sometimes I just feel like crying. I am a grown 20 year old guy and I want to cry. I have almost zero social life, very few friends because I have grown apart and distanced myself from people, so I pretty much live in solitude 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.

Do I want this life? Of course I don't, but I don't know how to change. Each day, week, month seems to pass so fast and next thing I am a year older with still no direction. Especially in the pandemic.

I am frustrated and annoyed at myself too for not changing, but it's hard when you have nothing worthwhile or good in your life. Very little family, hardly any friends, no girlfriend or even female acquaintances, no job, no career or life goals etc.

What do I do? All I can do is ask questions on here to a bunch of kids who are probably way younger than me , nor care too much, but I have no one else to turn to, so this is all I've got.
That’s so sad and I’ve been depressed before so I know how you feel
Short guys do get into relationships lol but I don’t recommend that you do
Focus on your mental health and developing as a person first so you’re not a burden in the relationship...speaking from experience

Kids are actually way smarter than you think and Lord of kids experience mental health issues similar to depression and loneliness especially in social environments like yourself

You can’t be frustrated if you aren’t doing anything to change. You need to be revolted because frustration won’t change anything. Take all those negative emotions and turn them into something positive. Again you really don’t need a girlfriend at this point in time. If you don’t have any goals currently, make some. If you don’t have a lot of family or friends again, look in your community, there must be something you can do or someone you can talk to.

Well done for coming on here and talking about your problems. I know it’s hard because I don’t like talking about myself too. The first step is acknowledging your problems, the second is taking action. Be the change you want to see.

Write down daily goals and affirmations. When you tell yourself you can do something even if you don’t believe it at first eventually you will. If you don’t change your life no one is else can do it for you tbh.

You weren’t born to feel depressed and it’s not normal to feel depressed. It’s ok to cry but it’s not ok to not be ok. You can’t accept to not be ok because when you do that’s when you stop fighting. Just take it one day at a time and eventually things will get better. Just set yourself one goal a day or try to something different every day because if you do what you’ve always done you’ll get the same result you’ve always got.

Loneliness is such a big issue in society. I’m not surprised you’re depressed tbh bcuz loneliness can lead to depression. Maybe join a youth group bcuz you’re still young? People need people so instead of distancing yourself, try to muse friends and socialise.

You’re not a loser and I’m sure you have a great personality. It all starts in the mind. When you believe you can achieve and when you think positively you’ll act positively.

I know what you’re going through because I went through something similar but I made friends, got closer to my family and I changed my mentality. I’ve also cut off a lot of people because they weren’t good for me but I’m grateful for the few people that o have around me and can count on my fingers.

If I can overcome you can too. I wish you the best.
If you’d like anymore advice, please don’t hesitate to PM me or reply to this post.

C x
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I’m 20 and Im bored in my life just with what's going on. Because of this, I am depressed, lacking motivation and have no goals in life.

I just feel so unhappy with life right now, it's hard to focus properly right now. I have no one to turn to for advice, no one understands and just thinks I am lazy etc.

I live with my parents, but I want to move out , I would much rather be on my own living with mates or a girlfriend but I'm a short guy, I'm 5 foot 5 if that so I will never get a girl plus consideringthe fact I just **** myself in social situations andmy personality sucks. I am ****ing loser , I'm ****ing 20, living at home with parents and unemployed, it's a **** situation to be in but no one understands. If you understood what I went through then you would understand.

Sometimes I just feel like crying. I am a grown 20 year old guy and I want to cry. I have almost zero social life, very few friends because I have grown apart and distanced myself from people, so I pretty much live in solitude 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.

Do I want this life? Of course I don't, but I don't know how to change. Each day, week, month seems to pass so fast and next thing I am a year older with still no direction. Especially in the pandemic.

I am frustrated and annoyed at myself too for not changing, but it's hard when you have nothing worthwhile or good in your life. Very little family, hardly any friends, no girlfriend or even female acquaintances, no job, no career or life goals etc.

What do I do? All I can do is ask questions on here to a bunch of kids who are probably way younger than me , nor care too much, but I have no one else to turn to, so this is all I've got.

Find something you're passionate about. It could be anything, for example football or wildlife etc. If you look hard enough you will find something you're interested in and there will be other people who are interested in it too. You don't have to look too hard to find them - there are facebook groups and discord servers about literally everything and they're all full of people who you already share common interests with and won't find it hard to get along with. What is more, a passion also leads to things like job opportunities that are suited to you, for example working in a museum or some sort of shop or even at a football club. I'm 16 right now but I was similarly a lost cause a couple of years ago, getting really bad grades and feeling sh** all the time. I joined the RAF Air Cadets because I was interested in planes and I really feel like I've got my life back on track, hoping to go to uni in a couple of years to study engineering and get into aircraft design or be a pilot maybe. Trust me, just find something you're interested in and find other people with the same interest and every time you do something towards it it makes life feel like it has a purpose.
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