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I'm currently a grad at med school and I thought in being so I would find it easier to make friends as I had been there and done that etc. I absolutely love my flatmates, but in saying that, they all have their own friends that they get along really well with outside of our flat. I have several acquaintances too but I haven't found a solid group of friends yet like I had at university before. There isn't a go to group for me if I wanted to go out, all of this of course made more difficult because of the pandemic. I'm 26 and sometimes I really feel my age and would love to have some more graduate friends on my course. There are several in my med school but I feel like they've already formed a group, then again it is only the third term of first year so I could perhaps make more effort? I got invited to go out with them during the first term but usually declined in favour of my flatmates. How do I go about getting invited to things again and branching out without looking desperate to make friends? There are people I know I'd get along with but I don't want to be a tag along. I'm usually quite extroverted but I can feel myself becoming less and less confident in socialising.
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Be kind to yourself. We're just only coming out of lock-down. I think a lot of people are quite lonely at the moment and are struggling to make friends. Give it time.
The only advice I'd give is to go along to events (virtual or in person) for things that you enjoy. If you show up consistently to society event then you should make a few more friends.
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Does your university have a medical society? Or equally, a mature students/graduate society? Societies can be great, and often you'll find people in the same situation as you.
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I'm currently a grad at med school and I thought in being so I would find it easier to make friends as I had been there and done that etc. I absolutely love my flatmates, but in saying that, they all have their own friends that they get along really well with outside of our flat. I have several acquaintances too but I haven't found a solid group of friends yet like I had at university before. There isn't a go to group for me if I wanted to go out, all of this of course made more difficult because of the pandemic. I'm 26 and sometimes I really feel my age and would love to have some more graduate friends on my course. There are several in my med school but I feel like they've already formed a group, then again it is only the third term of first year so I could perhaps make more effort? I got invited to go out with them during the first term but usually declined in favour of my flatmates. How do I go about getting invited to things again and branching out without looking desperate to make friends? There are people I know I'd get along with but I don't want to be a tag along. I'm usually quite extroverted but I can feel myself becoming less and less confident in socialising.
Hi,

It sounds like you're doing the right things to form new relationships with people. I would reiterate what others have said about not being too hard on yourself. It can take 6 months to feel 'at home' at unversity. throw in a global pandemic and you'll probably need a year. Give it time, I'm sure in a few more months you'll know more faces, feel closer to more people are feel better about it all. Just remember, you probably knew 0 people when you joined, so you've come a long way already. My advice would be, even if at first it feels like your tagging along, meet your freinds' freinds. 'Friend of a friend' is one of the best ways to meet people i found, but it can take a while to slot in - don't worry, I'm sure we've all done it at some stage

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Hey, why not be proactive and ask the med school for some funding to organise socials for the 2nd years - all within legal parameters of course. That puts you in the centre as the events organiser and everyone will connect with you automatically.
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Be kind to yourself. We're just only coming out of lock-down. I think a lot of people are quite lonely at the moment and are struggling to make friends. Give it time.
The only advice I'd give is to go along to events (virtual or in person) for things that you enjoy. If you show up consistently to society event then you should make a few more friends.
Thank you for this, you’re right I am being way too hard on myself. I know there are people on campus feeling the same so I just need to put myself out there more
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Does your university have a medical society? Or equally, a mature students/graduate society? Societies can be great, and often you'll find people in the same situation as you.
Yeah there is one specifically for my course but due to lockdown we didn’t have any events go ahead. A lot of them seem to know each other already as they live off campus /within close proximity to each other - but I will be going to all the events via the society as soon as they can go ahead me, thank you for this
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Hey, why not be proactive and ask the med school for some funding to organise socials for the 2nd years - all within legal parameters of course. That puts you in the centre as the events organiser and everyone will connect with you automatically.
This is a really great idea actually
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Hi,

It sounds like you're doing the right things to form new relationships with people. I would reiterate what others have said about not being too hard on yourself. It can take 6 months to feel 'at home' at unversity. throw in a global pandemic and you'll probably need a year. Give it time, I'm sure in a few more months you'll know more faces, feel closer to more people are feel better about it all. Just remember, you probably knew 0 people when you joined, so you've come a long way already. My advice would be, even if at first it feels like your tagging along, meet your freinds' freinds. 'Friend of a friend' is one of the best ways to meet people i found, but it can take a while to slot in - don't worry, I'm sure we've all done it at some stage

Good luck

James
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Thanks a lot for this James, this made me feel a lot better. I am definitely the kind of person to be hard on myself even during a global pandemic. Will definitely give it more time and continue what I’m doing
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