My boyfriends parents are racist.Watch
So me and my boyfriend started off as friends at Uni in like 2019, and then eventually started dating a few months later, ever since then we’ve been inseparable and we really really love each other, like so much. He’s Asian (Chinese) and I’m Black. Initially, his parents (according to him) didn’t pay much mind and were dismissive of the fact that he was dating me, a black person. As our relationship progressed, so did their attention and aggression towards me being black. He’s told me that they have convinced him to break up with me BECAUSE I am Black and ask him “how long will you be dating her for” as if I’m some kind of experiment. His mother has continuously said (to him) that “she’s black, you shouldn’t be dating her, what will people think, I didn’t think you’d disgrace us like this” etc. and some other really nasty things. His parents refuse to see me, after my boyfriend brought up the idea of introducing me to them. My boyfriend does love his parents and I’d never wanna get in the way of him and his parents nor would I want him to pick between me and his family but I don’t know what to do. His parents despise me but I really love him and I would just hate to picture a future where he’s disconnected from his family because of ME.
Has anyone been in this situation before?
I really don’t know what to do, breaking up with him sounds like the last thing I’d wanna do in this situation but what do you guys think? What should I do?
Never said you were. I'm just saying that (again generalizing) the whole "experimenting" thing you mentioned seems accepted, if you were to do it then that'd all be fine and well. Casual relationships aren't healthy imo but that's just my own subjective opinion.
I wasn’t stating that you deemed me as one, I was just saying I personally am not interested in casual relationships, they’re very anti-climatic and a waste of time. As a woman who’s been fetishised and used as an experiment in the past, I can say for sure it doesn’t feel good when you come to find out the guy you’re with just wants to “try you out” instead of actually be with you long term and doesn’t want a future with you. Ever since then I’ve always stated what I want in a relationship early on to avoid wasting my time.
Times like these I'm glad I'm a dude who has no personal interactions with people, except my partner that is. Haven't met any scumbags like those yet and I hope to keep it that way. I wish you luck with the hunt for a perfect romance.