Brother does not care for mum's feelings :/

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My brother is getting married soon and is moving out. My mum, however, wants to live with him. This is very common in ethnic minority families; have a joint family. My parents are divorced so she won't have anywhere else to go after I get married too but my brother is dead set on her not moving in, at least not now. Because our dad was so toxic, she suffered and sacrificed a lot for us, so she feels quite betrayed. My brother is only 22, turning 23, and it's not as if he found the love of his life that he is getting married, but because he wants intimacy. His reasoning behind marriage isn't great in my opinion. If I got married, I'd want my mum to live with me (she's 55, so she'll probably be 60 then and I definitely do not want her living alone with all the issues she has), but that would be dependent on where I live after marriage (if I live in a joint family for example).

I honestly don't know what to do. I tried talking to my brother but he won't budge. He has the right to live his life, but it's sad to see that my mum has done so much, more than I can write here, but he doesn't care- he essentially wants to get married for sex to be very honest, despite not having much (money wise etc).

Because of this, my mum has become noticeably more sad and depressed. He's the only son and the eldest.
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Who does she live with now?
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(Original post by GabiAbi84)
Who does she live with now?
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Then what does it matter that your brother would move out? She would still be in the house with you guys...
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