is he worth staying around for? - please help

No, 5-8 days means he's not interested

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Original post by Krsto

No, 5-8 days means he's not interested

not even as a friend? - cuz really that's what I want, rather than a relationship

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Anonymous #1

if everything else is looking good and its just the replies and he seems apologetic then i think yes? although depends if he is leaving you on delivered or opened
sometimes i end up leaving people on delivered for a while because snapchat can be overwhelming when I'm stressed n stuff but its nothing personal

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Original post by Anonymous

if everything else is looking good and its just the replies and he seems apologetic then i think yes? although depends if he is leaving you on delivered or opened
sometimes i end up leaving people on delivered for a while because snapchat can be overwhelming when I'm stressed n stuff but its nothing personal

its just delivered - we're talking on insta and im also too scared to ask for his snap (I also hate talking on snapchat too)

and honestly replying to people sometimes is really overwhelming

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Original post by maddie13

not even as a friend? - cuz really that's what I want, rather than a relationship

I'm not sure, maybe as a friend but depends how long you've known each other I guess. Sometimes good friends won't reply for a while, maybe a couple of days but certainly not for five and not regularly lmao. It's up to u but as a guy I can tell he's not that interested

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Original post by Krsto

I'm not sure, maybe as a friend but depends how long you've known each other I guess. Sometimes good friends won't reply for a while, maybe a couple of days but certainly not for five and not regularly lmao. It's up to u but as a guy I can tell he's not that interested

we're known each other for about 7-8 months I think... I've got a few friends who I've known for over a year and one of them has left me on delivered for 5 weeks and another for 2 so 🤷*♀️
its nice to have a guys perspective on this cuz the only people that know I like him are girls lol

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Original post by Krsto

I'm not sure, maybe as a friend but depends how long you've known each other I guess. Sometimes good friends won't reply for a while, maybe a couple of days but certainly not for five and not regularly lmao. It's up to u but as a guy I can tell he's not that interested

the thing is he's even flirted with me a couple times and reciprocated when I've flirted back which thinking about it now is just hella confusing

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Original post by maddie13

we're known each other for about 7-8 months I think... I've got a few friends who I've known for over a year and one of them has left me on delivered for 5 weeks and another for 2 so 🤷*♀️
its nice to have a guys perspective on this cuz the only people that know I like him are girls lol

Yeah I guess that's true, sometimes ppl leave u on delivered for longer just coz of personal stuff or whatever and it's no big deal. But guess it depends if he's sending u messages too (like initiating) or is it only u...coz that would be a big sign imo

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Original post by Krsto

Yeah I guess that's true, sometimes ppl leave u on delivered for longer just coz of personal stuff or whatever and it's no big deal. But guess it depends if he's sending u messages too (like initiating) or is it only u...coz that would be a big sign imo

a lot of the time he's initiated new conversations following on from the ones that we're having and like brought up some personal stuff and stuff about uni... we are also having like 3-4 different convos all at once in different messages so idk if that's a sign?

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londonmyst

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Not as a potential hookup or date.
He's probably bored or chatting with a lot of other girls.
Maybe as a sort of online penpal but not if you are looking for a friend that you can rely on.

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Original post by maddie13

a lot of the time he's initiated new conversations following on from the ones that we're having and like brought up some personal stuff and stuff about uni... we are also having like 3-4 different convos all at once in different messages so idk if that's a sign?

Ok lol that sounds more promising than ur original post, I'd just see how it goes and if ur getting good vibes then definitely continue to be friends at least. Maybe after lockdown you'll also be able to see him more often

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Original post by Krsto

Ok lol that sounds more promising than ur original post, I'd just see how it goes and if ur getting good vibes then definitely continue to be friends at least. Maybe after lockdown you'll also be able to see him more often

yeh ahaha they whole situation is kinda hard to summarise I have to say... I'm possibly seeing him on Monday if he's working/rock climbing when I go to the wall so fingers crossed
the vibes are definitely there, I think he's probs busy and juggling a lot with school and everything

dude ur the best thank you!

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Original post by maddie13

yeh ahaha they whole situation is kinda hard to summarise I have to say... I'm possibly seeing him on Monday if he's working/rock climbing when I go to the wall so fingers crossed
the vibes are definitely there, I think he's probs busy and juggling a lot with school and everything

dude ur the best thank you!

Np!

Yeah ur right tbf it will depend on the guy, I was speaking personally like I wouldn't keep a girl waiting that long for a reply if I genuinely liked her but ofc you have actual experience dating guys lol

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OP

yeh I know some guys who reply really quickly and then others who take ages!
thank youuuu

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Original post by Krsto

Np!

Yeah ur right tbf it will depend on the guy, I was speaking personally like I wouldn't keep a girl waiting that long for a reply if I genuinely liked her but ofc you have actual experience dating guys lol

just fingers crossed it all works out well

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daisychain44

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Hi Maddie13, if you're really looking for a friendship with him (and feeling mutual) then the delay in his response would not be unusual but perhaps also would not result in your feelings in response to his distance. From my limited experience, he might be feeling some uncertainty about the significance/meaning of your connection, to be brutal not that into you in a romantic sense or busy etc. But the last point rather indicates the middle one as if he was that in to you he would make time for you and you'd be a priority. Personally, and this is a cliché but I'd move on, plenty more out there who will value you, with whom you'll replicate your connection with this one and will want to reply more frequently than 5 days or so.

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