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Me at my best friend of 10 years fell out 6 weeks ago. It was a minor disagreement I left it about 4 weeks and then messaged her but was ignored. I then messaged her again today to say sorry even though I’ve got nothing to apologise for but she’s just ignoring me. I would talk to her in person but we were only in college together 1 day and even though there is no other class time for the subject she can switch to she somehow has managed to get college to allow her not to go in for that lesson. (she still goes in for other subjects I’m not in) I don’t understand what she could have said to them considering barely anything happened. At this point I don’t know what to do? Is she now an ex best friend? is it time to let go?

She keeps going out with other people 24/7 like she’s moved on and posting snarky posts on Facebook about “removing negative people from your life” I’m the least negative person ever btw aha. She’s also removed me of insta and is reposting our group Spain holiday booking form with my name crossed out and replaced with someone else. I’ve now lost my deposit as I’m not the lead passenger so I can’t do anything about it.
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Baby girl, I haven’t even read everything but 👏🏾 ITS👏🏾TIME👏🏾 TO 👏🏾LET 👏🏾HER 👏🏾GOOOO👏🏾 it will be hard to let her go but you have to to be able to have peace and happiness. It will be hard no doubt but it would be worth it. ❤️
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(Original post by Heavenly.Ella_)
Baby girl, I haven’t even read everything but 👏🏾 ITS👏🏾TIME👏🏾 TO 👏🏾LET 👏🏾HER 👏🏾GOOOO👏🏾 it will be hard to let her go but you have to to be able to have peace and happiness. It will be hard no doubt but it would be worth it. ❤️
I thought as much. She was my only friend if I’m totally honest (she has taken our friendship group away from me). I have other friends at college but they are literally just people who I sit in lesson with and I’d never make plans with outside college. All my friends in secondary went to a different college but me and my ‘best friend’ decided to go somewhere else for a fresh start. I basically now have no one now and it’s hard considering we had so much booked Leeds, park life, Spain, Alton towers and london. I now have 0 plans and have no one to go out with and seeing everyone posting stuff on Snapchat is hard. I have uni in September so I’m sure I’ll make friends. It will just be a hella boring summer.
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(Original post by Heavenly.Ella_)
Baby girl, I haven’t even read everything but 👏🏾 ITS👏🏾TIME👏🏾 TO 👏🏾LET 👏🏾HER 👏🏾GOOOO👏🏾 it will be hard to let her go but you have to to be able to have peace and happiness. It will be hard no doubt but it would be worth it. ❤️
why black hands clapping :confused:
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Very immature, she sounds tiresome. I wouldnt message her again, she can either get herself together and deal with the disagreement like an adult or you dont need to be texting her.
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why black hands clapping :confused:
Why not? if Heavenly.Ella_ is black why can’t she use black hands? How about responding to my post, if not then don’t bother commenting. Have a nice day
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Very immature, she sounds tiresome. I wouldnt message her again, she can either get herself together and deal with the disagreement like an adult or you dont need to be texting her.
I have no other friends, they all went to a different college. We have been friends 10 years and have never fell out she’s never been like this before. I know I need to let go it’s just hard. So difficult when you miss someone so much but you know they don’t miss you.
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I have no other friends, they all went to a different college. We have been friends 10 years and have never fell out she’s never been like this before. I know I need to let go it’s just hard. So difficult when you miss someone so much but you know they don’t miss you.
She misses you, if she didnt she wouldnt be putting petty nonsense all over her social media. She's just obviously angry about something.
Its hard ending a decade long friendship but theres no point holding onto it if both people in it arent happy. You'll meet other great people at university.
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She misses you, if she didnt she wouldnt be putting petty nonsense all over her social media. She's just obviously angry about something.
Its hard ending a decade long friendship but theres no point holding onto it if both people in it arent happy. You'll meet other great people at university.
I don’t think she does miss me to be truthful I’m looking through my camera roll sobbing looking at the thousands of pictures we had together over this decade. It’s hurting me so bad I don’t think she realises. I act all tough and all 10 years she’s never seen me cry and I’m here balling my eyes out. People might think I’m being dramatic but I can’t live without her she was like my sister more than my actual sisters and I love her so much. I need to let go but I just can’t. But she won’t contact me so I have no choice
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I don’t think she does miss me to be truthful I’m looking through my camera roll sobbing looking at the thousands of pictures we had together over this decade. It’s hurting me so bad I don’t think she realises. I act all tough and all 10 years she’s never seen me cry and I’m here balling my eyes out. People might think I’m being dramatic but I can’t live without her she was like my sister more than my actual sisters and I love her so much. I need to let go but I just can’t. But she won’t contact me so I have no choice
You dont know she doesnt. If she was crying too, you wouldnt know about it.
Give her two weeks to reply, she could be busy or collecting herself, or debating whether to text you back. You dont know it's officially over, perhaps shes just going through something..
If she doesnt end up replying, have a week or two to cry about it and from then do your best to take your mind off it. Talk to some new people and take part in your hobbies. You could try reconnecting with your old friend group if thats possible, reaching out could be worth a shot even if you get a 'no'.
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Unless your lying about the minor disagreement, she sounds like an awful friend and you dodged a bullet
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I thought as much. She was my only friend if I’m totally honest (she has taken our friendship group away from me). I have other friends at college but they are literally just people who I sit in lesson with and I’d never make plans with outside college. All my friends in secondary went to a different college but me and my ‘best friend’ decided to go somewhere else for a fresh start. I basically now have no one now and it’s hard considering we had so much booked Leeds, park life, Spain, Alton towers and london. I now have 0 plans and have no one to go out with and seeing everyone posting stuff on Snapchat is hard. I have uni in September so I’m sure I’ll make friends. It will just be a hella boring summer.
Girlfriend, see this as a sign to meet plenty of new people. I’m certain there are people out there destined to meet you and add on to your life in any way, shape or form but they wouldn’t be able to if you were still friends with your ex bestie. Count it a blessing this has happened cause now, you’re about to glow even more! And you’re about to meet new people that’s exciting🥰 don’t worry about having a boring summer, you could always change that to do things you love and socialise more xx. You could always add my snapchat or insta accounts if you’re willing to talk or make new friends ( but I’m not in the UK 😅) my snap is @ellaslife99 and insta is @ellaaa.ax
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why black hands clapping :confused:
Because I’m a black girl 😂 dw
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Why not? if Heavenly.Ella_ is black why can’t she use black hands? How about responding to my post, if not then don’t bother commenting. Have a nice day
Aww xx tyy 😂❤️
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Me at my best friend of 10 years fell out 6 weeks ago. It was a minor disagreement I left it about 4 weeks and then messaged her but was ignored. I then messaged her again today to say sorry even though I’ve got nothing to apologise for but she’s just ignoring me. I would talk to her in person but we were only in college together 1 day and even though there is no other class time for the subject she can switch to she somehow has managed to get college to allow her not to go in for that lesson. (she still goes in for other subjects I’m not in) I don’t understand what she could have said to them considering barely anything happened. At this point I don’t know what to do? Is she now an ex best friend? is it time to let go?

She keeps going out with other people 24/7 like she’s moved on and posting snarky posts on Facebook about “removing negative people from your life” I’m the least negative person ever btw aha. She’s also removed me of insta and is reposting our group Spain holiday booking form with my name crossed out and replaced with someone else. I’ve now lost my deposit as I’m not the lead passenger so I can’t do anything about it.
You'' have to be the one to decide based on ur time together because yes she sames like she's being a ***** but I'd never let my best friend go like that I'd try to regain him based on all the time we had together and the great moments
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You'' have to be the one to decide based on ur time together because yes she sames like she's being a ***** but I'd never let my best friend go like that I'd try to regain him based on all the time we had together and the great moments
Yeah but the bestie sounds toxic. Would never encourage someone to stay in a toxic relationship like that no matter WHAT or the length of the friendship. Beings besties with someone for God knows how long doesn’t and shouldn’t justify the reason for someone’s toxic traits beginning to appear. As she had stated, they got into a little argument and since then the ex bestie has been matured enough to reconcile and on top of that, she’s ignored her even after she’s tried reaching out to her. Sounds as though the ex was planning to leave and just needed the smallest thing to occur so she leaves. If not, the ex bestie may be enjoying the attention she’s getting from anonymous and I’m certain anonymous has better things to do with her time 😭
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Yeah but the bestie sounds toxic. Would never encourage someone to stay in a toxic relationship like that no matter WHAT or the length of the friendship. Beings besties with someone for God knows how long doesn’t and shouldn’t justify the reason for someone’s toxic traits beginning to appear. As she had stated, they got into a little argument and since then the ex bestie has been matured enough to reconcile and on top of that, she’s ignored her even after she’s tried reaching out to her. Sounds as though the ex was planning to leave and just needed the smallest thing to occur so she leaves. If not, the ex bestie may be enjoying the attention she’s getting from anonymous and I’m certain anonymous has better things to do with her time 😭
Ok ngl didnt read all of it

all I got to say it maybe that the bestie is only acting dumb and they aren't normally like this hence ending the relationship isn't worth it
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I can’t be bothered to make a new thread so I’ll just ask on here. Nothing has changed since I posted she never replied. I feel in an even worse state of mind than I did a week ago what do I do now? Should I try adding her back on Snapchat?
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Me at my best friend of 10 years fell out 6 weeks ago. It was a minor disagreement I left it about 4 weeks and then messaged her but was ignored. I then messaged her again today to say sorry even though I’ve got nothing to apologise for but she’s just ignoring me. I would talk to her in person but we were only in college together 1 day and even though there is no other class time for the subject she can switch to she somehow has managed to get college to allow her not to go in for that lesson. (she still goes in for other subjects I’m not in) I don’t understand what she could have said to them considering barely anything happened. At this point I don’t know what to do? Is she now an ex best friend? is it time to let go?

She keeps going out with other people 24/7 like she’s moved on and posting snarky posts on Facebook about “removing negative people from your life” I’m the least negative person ever btw aha. She’s also removed me of insta and is reposting our group Spain holiday booking form with my name crossed out and replaced with someone else. I’ve now lost my deposit as I’m not the lead passenger so I can’t do anything about it.
Unfortunately friendships fall apart as you get older as you change, and the friends you have at the moment probably won't stay the same forever. My advice would be to drop this friend because she's acting very immaturely. I've been in similar situations before with people who I thought were once my friend but then started being really horrible
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I can’t be bothered to make a new thread so I’ll just ask on here. Nothing has changed since I posted she never replied. I feel in an even worse state of mind than I did a week ago what do I do now? Should I try adding her back on Snapchat?
I know you guys have been friends for over a decade but let go because she seeks toxic. You can add me on socials if you want to, pm me. Ngl the way someone acts at the end of a friendship reveals their true colours. It’s better for you to have no friends than to have a friend who would end a friendship just like that and even be petty about it after being friends for a decade. Maybe try talking to one of her friends or family members? If she’s in the wrong and you’ve done your best to “win” her back then there’s nothing more you can do tbh. Some ppl are meant to leave your life so that new and better ppl can come.
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