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Poll: What factors affect your mental health the most right now? 2021 edition

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Reply 20

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by Joel Alan
Mental health isnt real. its just made up by snowflakes to get free pity.

Hello there. So if people think they have a really bad mental health but aren't talking about it to anyone, which is the case of many people, what's the point of it if "mental health is made up to get free pity"?

Reply 21

Interesting to see that the least voted options are about concerns of people getting ill or the easing of lockdown which we're supposed to be so scared of.

Reply 22

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by Anonymous
Not great.
I'm really stressed about my A level grades. I have a conditional offer for which the grade requirements are pretty high, and I know that I'm capable of achieving them but I'm really concerned about my further maths grade. I did a further maths mock last week, and I haven't got it back yet but it went dreadfully. I have another one next week, which I'm really stressed about. I need at least an A in further maths to meet the grade requirements, and I don't want to risk telling my teacher that I'm so stressed about it because we're obviously not allowed to ask what grades they're going to give us, and I don't want it to look like I'm trying to beg for higher grades if that makes any sense.
I also have social anxiety disorder which has got worse over the pandemic as I've spent the majority of it in my room by myself. My parents aren't helping - if I say I'm scared to do something because of my anxiety they'll usually tell me that I'm being stupid (am I very aware that most of my fears are irrational already), and the other day my father decided to call me r**arded when we were arguing over one of these fears. I called him out for using the r word because it's a literal slur used against people with intellectual disabilities, which made him even angrier. He started shouting stuff like "you are mentally disabled" "you're a slur on my life" "I'll just you a freak instead, because that's what you are." Which really didn't help my self esteem. He hasn't apologised for it.
And despite being stressed about my grades I have very little motivation. I am revising a bit, but it's really poor quality revision. I have this fear that I'm not achieving enough but I have no motivation to actually do anything.

Your dad's anger during the argument is probably due to him being defensive and he doesn't realise the impact it is having on you. It is not about you it's about him, so don't blame yourself. Your motivation should be: work hard to get the grades so you can live an independent life at Uni. Things will get better. Trust in yourself that you can achieve this and don't let the stress take over. I personally don't see an issue talking to your teacher about it, of course, not to beg for grades but they may have some advice about things you can do revision wise that could help you.

Reply 23

Being banned by mods, when all I want is to remain active on TSR. :frown:

Reply 24

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by Callicious
jesus christ why not just give us an "All of the above" button xD

I mean it would be useful

Reply 25

Life is a mistake.

Reply 26

None of those are mental health issues.

Reply 27

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by TheStupidMoon
None of those are mental health issues.

Well, they are factors affecting mental health issues... What would you consider mental health issues?

Reply 28

feel so lonely and empty. no friends, feeling more and more at a cross roads wth what i want to do with my life and feeling pretty inadequate at everything. struggling to concentrate and can procrastinate for england.
It is always the same: the biggest factors those change my mental health for worse are the purposes and motivations for my own life and the anxiousness being alone one day. And these things poisoned my mentality long before covid and still do!

Reply 30

for me its fking bad i hate maths and the stress it gives me i'd rather write essays than numbers.
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by kolme
Interesting to see that the least voted options are about concerns of people getting ill or the easing of lockdown which we're supposed to be so scared of.


I am so glad that no one who is close to me got ill in the last weeks. It would be suddenly changed when they are seriously ill, both mentally and physically.

Reply 32

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by JDINCINERATOR
To improve your mental health I think it's important to lower your expectations of the world around you. Having high expectations can open you up to a lot of disappointment and when you aren't getting what you're expecting over and over again it builds and builds up-which can really become a problem for your mental health.

so so so true holy sh&#, only realised this on my own today after a mental breakdown thats been brimming for the past month, finally spilled over, was having suicidal thoughts - first time in ages. felt like I had nothing to offer the world. then I convinced myself slowly not to take a rash decision and what finally ended the meltdown for me was realizing that I do have something to offer the world: anything I put into it. I keep comparing myself to my childhood goals, and unattainable grand childhood goals are just that. They're what kids think. And rarely do kids who dreamed of being astronauts actually grow up to be astronauts. I finally felt a little bit more stable and then decided next week I'll go sign up for the local foodcycle (volunteering group). so that I can feel like my life means something if it's someone else's lifeline.

of course, this isn't an epiphany and I'll probably fkn forget every little conclusion to my emotions i've came to today and repeat this entire meltdown a year from now. lol. but at least i got through the day.

Reply 33

Hope all of you who are feeling down get better soon

Reply 34

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by Anonymous
so so so true holy sh&#, only realised this on my own today after a mental breakdown thats been brimming for the past month, finally spilled over, was having suicidal thoughts - first time in ages. felt like I had nothing to offer the world. then I convinced myself slowly not to take a rash decision and what finally ended the meltdown for me was realizing that I do have something to offer the world: anything I put into it. I keep comparing myself to my childhood goals, and unattainable grand childhood goals are just that. They're what kids think. And rarely do kids who dreamed of being astronauts actually grow up to be astronauts. I finally felt a little bit more stable and then decided next week I'll go sign up for the local foodcycle (volunteering group). so that I can feel like my life means something if it's someone else's lifeline.

of course, this isn't an epiphany and I'll probably fkn forget every little conclusion to my emotions i've came to today and repeat this entire meltdown a year from now. lol. but at least i got through the day.

Also recognise that happens is real but what you think should happen is not real. I'm glad that what I said has helped you but it isn't my idea or concept it's from Jacque Fresco and his YouTube video on expectations.

Reply 35

I wouldnt say it's either way. My physical health is at an all time low, I have zero idea whats going on with my academics, feeling overall demotivated and the easing of restrictions has been very overwhelming but Im not doing terribly. Im not dealing with my frustration well but my mental health is better than it was around this time last year.

Reply 36

Hmmm whilst it probably falls under 'loneliness' personally its the lack of being able to see my family anymore. It being de facto illegal (or at least such an administrative headache to make it little different).
Not to mention it having blown up a long term relationship, although, on the flipside, a nice new one was found.. swings an roundabouts from this series of odd years :smile:

Reply 37

Aweful. Genuinely hating on my life at the moment, and its the worst. I have done the biggest mistake of my life by deciding I should do an A level in biology, and its only my first year! Already I'm failing, and despite my father trying to motivate me in his 'unique' way, it just ends up reminding me what a failure I am, and it's hard to swallow. Because I tried to focus a lot on biology, the a levels i was good at (psychology and chemistry) are suffering, so now all my grades look like they were fished out of a dumpster.

Just wanna say thanks for covid for coming along and making our lives harder.

Reply 38

Original post
by kaiana
Well, they are factors affecting mental health issues... What would you consider mental health issues?

Why do you think they are mental health issues? Do you think they are more important than other ignored health problems?

Reply 39

Original post
by TheStupidMoon
Why do you think they are mental health issues? Do you think they are more important than other ignored health problems?

They can affect your wellbeing for a long period of time, through anxiety or depression for example. At a small dose (and depending on an individual's personality), they are usually just a common negative thought, but at extremes it can significally impact your life. No, worrying about a past opportunity of going to a weekend trip somewhere probably won't affect you, but constantly worrying that you missed a past opportunity of a job/career breakthrough that might've changed your life and achieve your dreams that you may never fulfill now, that's different, you may always think about the "if only"s and be convinced that your life will never get better than that, emphasize all the negative things in your life that would've disappeared with this opportunity, be convinced that you failed your life and not make any efforts anymore. No, worrying "my kid may get covid and be sick for a few days" won't affect you, but worrying every single day "if anyone in the family goes out they could catch covid and they could die so we'll just stay stuck inside for two years and never ever go out" will. Same thing with the other answers of the poll, all of them together can end up messing with your head.

For the second question, it really depends on the extent of the mental health issues and the other ignored health problems. If they're ignored, they're likely not very visible or do not affect your life dramatically, and may start affecting you if you keep ignoring them. In that case, usually you stop ignoring physical health problems, but mental health problems often remain ignored even if they can still physically affect your body (intense fatigue, appetite, skin problems, shortness of breath... and also suicide in the most extreme cases, let's not forget). So yeah, long answer just to say "it depends" haha, severe depression vs "I didn't take care of this toe problem and now I need to temporarily wear a special sock so it doesn't hurt", I think the depression is more important, "I didn't get to see my friends for a long time so I'm kinda sad and lonely" vs cancer tumors, well, you get the point.
Oh and last thing, depression may lead to ignore physical health problems so yeah, everything's linked. Okay I'll stop talking now!

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