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Whenever I’m in a romantic mood he always becomes moody n says to talk about something else
When I ask him how much he misses since I’m doing exams n spend less time wd him he never answers
He avoids it
Sometimes I ask/beg him to say something to cheer up my mood if I’m down or just in general to feel better
It’s as good f I’m only putting in all the effort
N he said he wants to marry me n he’s also told his parents
But y is he being like this?
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What has this got to do with International lounge??
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Thats a hard one to answer without knowing either of you or your situations but if there is anything I have learned in my life it is that some people like the idea of having a partner than the actual person. Ask yourself why he doesn't like to be romantic and why when you are feeling down you have to ask or beg for him to say something to make you feel better, he says he wants to marry you but if he doesn't want to put the effort in now that's not a good foundation. I would say sit down and have an open and honest conversation about why he is acting this way and if he really wants this relationship, if he blows you off again I would say maybe you have your answer and should move on and maybe find someone who would trip over themselves to cheer you up and be romantic with you?
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(Original post by P I S S O F F)
What has this got to do with International lounge??
Sorry I was just upset n pressed anything 😞
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Thats a hard one to answer without knowing either of you or your situations but if there is anything I have learned in my life it is that some people like the idea of having a partner than the actual person. Ask yourself why he doesn't like to be romantic and why when you are feeling down you have to ask or beg for him to say something to make you feel better, he says he wants to marry you but if he doesn't want to put the effort in now that's not a good foundation. I would say sit down and have an open and honest conversation about why he is acting this way and if he really wants this relationship, if he blows you off again I would say maybe you have your answer and should move on and maybe find someone who would trip over themselves to cheer you up and be romantic with you?
Thank u 😞
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(Original post by Rosalina 123456)
Whenever I’m in a romantic mood he always becomes moody n says to talk about something else
When I ask him how much he misses since I’m doing exams n spend less time wd him he never answers
He avoids it
Sometimes I ask/beg him to say something to cheer up my mood if I’m down or just in general to feel better
It’s as good f I’m only putting in all the effort
N he said he wants to marry me n he’s also told his parents
But y is he being like this?
Maybe it's because he views your grammar as substandard, and he therefore cannot create inference from your messages.
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Maybe it's because he views your grammar as substandard, and he therefore cannot create inference from your messages.
What do u mean?
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Thats a hard one to answer without knowing either of you or your situations but if there is anything I have learned in my life it is that some people like the idea of having a partner than the actual person. Ask yourself why he doesn't like to be romantic and why when you are feeling down you have to ask or beg for him to say something to make you feel better, he says he wants to marry you but if he doesn't want to put the effort in now that's not a good foundation. I would say sit down and have an open and honest conversation about why he is acting this way and if he really wants this relationship, if he blows you off again I would say maybe you have your answer and should move on and maybe find someone who would trip over themselves to cheer you up and be romantic with you?
He just said to me I pray no boy has a gf like u
Then I told him if I’m that bad y doesn’t he let me go n he’s saying that’s also impossible.
I’m literally being hurt wd what he says now
Then since he’s very religious (he’s a Muslim) he sweared on god he loves me
But then y will he say this n other things to hurt me
I can’t tell everything exactly what he’s said but idk what to do ☹️☹️☹️
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He might have a different sort of love language. For example; he may show he does take it in consideration and does love you by maybe hugging or kissing or maybe it’s buying gifts.
Some people don’t do well with words and that, so it’s important to discuss this within your relationship!
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He might have a different sort of love language. For example; he may show he does take it in consideration and does love you by maybe hugging or kissing or maybe it’s buying gifts.
Some people don’t do well with words and that, so it’s important to discuss this within your relationship!
Kk ty
But the thing is when we first met it wasn’t like this, I’m just scared of he’s losing interest in me
If I ask it becomes a huge problem so I need clarification from others n so far everyone is being helpful
Tysm 🙏🏼
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(Original post by Rosalina 123456)
He just said to me I pray no boy has a gf like u
Then I told him if I’m that bad y doesn’t he let me go n he’s saying that’s also impossible.
I’m literally being hurt wd what he says now
Then since he’s very religious (he’s a Muslim) he sweared on god he loves me
But then y will he say this n other things to hurt me
I can’t tell everything exactly what he’s said but idk what to do ☹️☹️☹️
I feel awful saying this to you because I know it isn't what you want to hear, but I feel like I need to because I have been in a similar position myself. Nobody should treat you that way. Somebody who loves you would never say that to you or act in that way, he should be proud to have you in his life! how can he say he loves you while saying he doesn't like the person you are? I guess at the end of the day it comes down to one thing...do you spend more time feeling good or bad in your relationship?
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(Original post by Rosalina 123456)
Thank u 😞
No matter what happens I hope you are okay and remember you deserve to be supported and loved and I really hope everything works out for you x
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(Original post by Rosalina 123456)
Whenever I’m in a romantic mood he always becomes moody n says to talk about something else
When I ask him how much he misses since I’m doing exams n spend less time wd him he never answers
He avoids it
Sometimes I ask/beg him to say something to cheer up my mood if I’m down or just in general to feel better
It’s as good f I’m only putting in all the effort
N he said he wants to marry me n he’s also told his parents
But y is he being like this?
hey I tried to message you back but it says you don't allow private messages
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(Original post by Llink1994)
Thats a hard one to answer without knowing either of you or your situations but if there is anything I have learned in my life it is that some people like the idea of having a partner than the actual person. Ask yourself why he doesn't like to be romantic and why when you are feeling down you have to ask or beg for him to say something to make you feel better, he says he wants to marry you but if he doesn't want to put the effort in now that's not a good foundation. I would say sit down and have an open and honest conversation about why he is acting this way and if he really wants this relationship, if he blows you off again I would say maybe you have your answer and should move on and maybe find someone who would trip over themselves to cheer you up and be romantic with you?
Beautifully said, I agree with this
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