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I've been going out and doing things more lately and have noticed how hard it is to make friends, genuine or otherwise these days with most people. This usually comes from people being stuck in their own social groups and might be polite enough to say hi, but otherwise aren't bothered and seem to be content with others they already know well, even after knowing them for some time. This was the same in sixth form, uni and now even through hobbies or online, it's close to impossible to build close connections or even find a relationship especially if you're starting from scratch with barely any friends or not in any social groups of your own. I've tried to invite people to things or follow/message them on social media if I've come into contact with them before but I'm either left on read or the person isn't interested but goes out with their other friends.

Don't mind doing things alone, as there's plenty of times I prefer my own peace of mind but it gets frustrating doing absolutely everything without anyone else to chat or make a joke to.
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I’m not an expert in advice but try to talk to them Dave do face instead of online? If they’re working around you whether it’s a work place or uni, try to find ways to help them in order to build a connection but
Avoid being their follower who ends up being taken advantage of!!
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Look online to see if anybody is looking for friends
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I've been going out and doing things more lately and have noticed how hard it is to make friends, genuine or otherwise these days with most people. This usually comes from people being stuck in their own social groups and might be polite enough to say hi, but otherwise aren't bothered and seem to be content with others they already know well, even after knowing them for some time. This was the same in sixth form, uni and now even through hobbies or online, it's close to impossible to build close connections or even find a relationship especially if you're starting from scratch with barely any friends or not in any social groups of your own. I've tried to invite people to things or follow/message them on social media if I've come into contact with them before but I'm either left on read or the person isn't interested but goes out with their other friends.

Don't mind doing things alone, as there's plenty of times I prefer my own peace of mind but it gets frustrating doing absolutely everything without anyone else to chat or make a joke to.
I'd recommend the website Meetup. There's so many online groups available through Zoom on there, tailored to a wide range of interests. I find it's pretty easy to make friends when you have mutual interests. I think I've even seen some groups on there even designated to making friends / developing social skills. One group I'd really recommend though (if it aligns with your interests) is 'London Online Philosophy Group', which meet on Zoom every Monday at 7pm. You don't need any experience in philosophy and they use breakout rooms (as there are usually about 50 members in total) so you can choose whichever topic interests you. There's usually between 5-10 people in each breakout room so it's pretty easy to talk and get to know people etc. There's also a range of ages, often a few uni students, several in their 20s, 30s and many older too. After the main talk is up they switch to 'pub mode' where people just chat casually about anything and everything in small groups (you choose a breakout room once again), which could be quite good if you're looking to make friends
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Look online to see if anybody is looking for friends
I guess you can on here or other sites but I've tried in the past and it never seems to work out
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I’m not an expert in advice but try to talk to them Dave do face instead of online? If they’re working around you whether it’s a work place or uni, try to find ways to help them in order to build a connection but
Avoid being their follower who ends up being taken advantage of!!
Hard at the moment-when things start easing more I'll do more face to face stuff. I'm not in uni or work but trying to be more proactive when I do come across situations where people might want to talk or need help.

Yeah being a follower online or offline never helps from past experience.
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I guess you can on here or other sites but I've tried in the past and it never seems to work out
Have you tried sites that are specifically there to look for friends?
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Have you tried sites that are specifically there to look for friends?
Yeah I signed up to meet-up a few months ago. Also tried some uni chats as I’m thinking of heading back to uni
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