how do i get a boyfriend??

so i am 17 and i've not had a boyfriend or even talked to a guy romantically for almost 2 years. everyone around me is in a relationship now and i've been feeling so lonely and i really want a boyfriend. i'm not desperate for one i just wish i could meet a cute guy.

i'm not unattractive because alot of people tell me i'm pretty, but no guy has even talked/flirted with me since i started sixth form. how am i meant to ever get a boyfriend, it's not like i can just go up to random guys. i just feel so lonely

Reply 1

TJ1997

Don't worry, you have plenty of time for a boyfriend especially if you're heading to uni. Things atm aren't helping anyone with their love life but hopefully only a matter of time before you can get out again and do activities/meet more people.

Try dating apps and also establish what you want (a casual or proper relationship for example) as well as any dealbreakers. I'm 22 and never been in a relationship myself and know plenty of people the same age who are single, some actually much older too so you aren't alone in your situation. If you have friends, maybe they can introduce you to people or if not, just wait to see what opportunities uni or work will throw up as sixth form is pretty dire in general for relationships..

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Reply 2

Theloniouss

Universities Forum Helper

Original post by Anonymous

it's not like i can just go up to random guys.

Why not?

Reply 3

Dunnig Kruger

So, all these 17ish year female old friends of yours?
Are they actually happier as people now that they've got boyfriends?

Are they any less lonely? Or have they just transfered talking to and doing things with their family and friends to doing it with their boyfriends?

Are they sexually satisfied? Or is the sex rather ho hum? With sometimes sketchy use of contraception?

What about drama in their lives? Do they have more drama now that they have boyfriends? Due to arguing / breaking up with them?

Have their studies been adversely affected? From the distraction?

And looking at the years above you, how many of them split up within a couple of years, especially when they went off to university?

Look at the sort of boyfriends that your friends have. Most, if not all of them will be too immature to be good boyfriends. Some of them will come in good looking wrappers, but under the skin they are still boys, not men.

There's also logistical issues, such as having parents that will allow you to sleep together.

Having a boyfriend when you are 17 isn't all that. It's perfectly fine if you wait till you are at uni to get your first sexual partner. And then when you are there: fill your boots.

Reply 4

SlaveofAll

Wanting to have a significant other is a natural desire, as we're all born "empty" of things that can satisfy us. I mean, what good does lacking a spouse or a significant other can offer anyone? A long lifespan? Unlikely. Respectability? Forget about it.

I as a man have been hearing about stories about women having difficulty having significant others, although they do nothing to wipe out the loneliness that I feel due to fact that being male never gives me the ability to be a "chick magnet" with little to no effort.

Still, the OP can make the best of whatever being single has to offer.

Question to the OP: how many boyfriends did she use to have? Semantically speaking, referring to someone or oneself as single despite having a record of having past relationships will muddy the conversation.

Reply 5

ANM775

Original post by Anonymous

Why can't you?

It's 2021, I thought you ladies wanted gender equality?

There's nothing stopping you from approaching random guys apart from your mindset.

Reply 6

SlaveofAll

Original post by ANM775

Why can't you?

It's 2021, I thought you ladies wanted gender equality?

There's nothing stopping you from approaching random guys apart from your mindset.

I concur. Does the male sex have to take all the burden when it comes to relationships? This has to change!

Reply 7

username5655466

Honestly you should meet more people, be sociable and put yourself out there. Yes you can go ask guys out yourself too lol. Good luck 💯

Reply 8

Anonymous #2

All you need to do is be open with others and socialise. Then if you really really do want a boyfriend you can force it by asking someone out, tell them you like them.

The vast majority of women can essentially just snap their fingers and get a man if they want.