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If your father touched you as a kid and you’re mom doesn’t know ,but he died a year later should you tell your mom now that you’re older? Or keep it to yourself
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If your father touched you as a kid and you’re mom doesn’t know ,but he died a year later should you tell your mom now that you’re older? Or keep it to yourself
Oh my goodness. I hope you are okay now. I don’t know what advice I could give you as I think you’re also considering your mothers grief and how her perspective would change and how it could make her break down even more. And maybe you might also feel greedy or selfish to destroy the good memories your mom might have had with your father, but I think she deserves to know if your relationship with her is strong. I feel like she might also be in denial if you do tell her as it’s so sudden, but just know that you are not alone and many people have gone through your situation before. I couldn’t say as I’ve never been in your shoes but you have my full support.
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If your father touched you as a kid and you’re mom doesn’t know ,but he died a year later should you tell your mom now that you’re older? Or keep it to yourself
Tell her. Regardless of whether he’s dead or alive it’s still wrong and disgusting.
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Oh my goodness. I hope you are okay now. I don’t know what advice I could give you as I think you’re also considering your mothers grief and how her perspective would change and how it could make her break down even more. And maybe you might also feel greedy or selfish to destroy the good memories your mom might have had with your father, but I think she deserves to know if your relationship with her is strong. I feel like she might also be in denial if you do tell her as it’s so sudden, but just know that you are not alone and many people have gone through your situation before. I couldn’t say as I’ve never been in your shoes but you have my full support.
This happened around 10 years ago. I did recently tell my close cousin and told her not to tell anyone because it’s not her thing it’s say. She ended up telling her mom (my aunt) behind my back and my aunt said I was lying and I was too young to understand. That’s why I don’t want to tell my mom.
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This happened around 10 years ago. I did recently tell my close cousin and told her not to tell anyone because it’s not her thing it’s say. She ended up telling her mom (my aunt) behind my back and my aunt said I was lying and I was too young to understand. That’s why I don’t want to tell my mom.
Respectfully, your aunt and cousin has no say in this matter. If you want to tell your mom, tell her as she may have a different say. Just know it’s not ur fault this happened. You’re aunt also saying that you were lying? Crazy.
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hey, I’m so sorry you had to go through this. if you ever need someone to talk to, I’m happy to dm! I think it’s a really difficult situation and that there’s no right or wrong answer, but no matter what you choose to do, you are not the bad guy. I would say, however, that it’s an incredibly traumatic thing to go through, and it might be useful to talk to someone? that might be your mum if you feel that’s right, but if not a therapist (I know I’ve been ) ) or even a hotline might be better than bottling it up. I hope you’re doing okay, it’s an awful situation, but it’s amazing that you’re still trying to figure out the kindest thing to do. 💕
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