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Anyone having bit more respect in school?

hey!!

Anyone notcing a bit more respect in school!!! I used to be taunted in my Further maths class by these two boys for over a year. After i got an offer, and they both got rejections, i've noticed that i've been getting more respect - not in the sense of worship, but a stop to the taunting etc. Even amongst the teachers!! They all use to think i was thick, but they respecting me too!!!

Getting an oxford offer has been more influential than i first thought :biggrin:

Thanks Oxford :p:

Reply 1

goneaway56

6

Phil23

hey!!

Anyone notcing a bit more respect in school!!! I used to be taunted in my Further maths class by these two boys for over a year. After i got an offer, and they both got rejections, i've noticed that i've been getting more respect - not in the sense of worship, but a stop to the taunting etc. Even amongst the teachers!! They all use to think i was thick, but they respecting me too!!!

Getting an oxford offer has been more influential than i first thought :biggrin:

Thanks Oxford :p:

Actually teasing has increased to some in my school who got oxbridge offers -mainly due to jealously. More ugly/stupid jokes than ever.

Reply 2

Helenia

20

My headmaster suddenly remembered who I was, having passed over me for Head Girl and Prefectship, all of a sudden it's "Oh look, Helen's got into Cambridge, that'll get the school some publicity. Never mind I've ignored her for over a year, we like her now!" :rolleyes:

My friends were normal about it.

Reply 3

idiopathic

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Nima

Yes, everybody has suddenly taken an interest, in that the best ones at my school got rejected and they're like "WTF?!".

thankfully the crap one at my school who got an offer has no "More" respect, because they realise he's totally mediocre anyway.

sounds like blatant jealousy from you. get over it. be a good sport at least.

Reply 4

username9816

14

lame

sounds like blatant jealousy from you. get over it. be a good sport at least.

I'm jealous of him yes, because I was a better candidate but got rejected, and he'd admit that. I don't dislike the guy at all, he's sound, but I wouldn't say he deserves an offer relative to some of the people who did get rejected.

My last sentence was probably harsh, and was more aimed at the students at my school rather than him - What I meant is that I didn't get "hahaha, so and so is better than you" comments, which is pleasing.

Reply 5

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Nima

I'm jealous of him yes, because I was a better candidate but got rejected, and he'd admit that. I don't dislike the guy at all, he's sound, but I wouldn't say he deserves an offer relative to some of the people who did get rejected.

My last sentence was probably harsh, and was more aimed at the students at my school rather than him - What I meant is that I didn't get "hahaha, so and so is better than you" comments, which is pleasing.

you are just jealous of people with an inferior intelligence to your own, lol - hey remember grades aren't everything.

Reply 6

RxB

1

Nima - please, please don't judge Oxfordites by Phil23.

(Also, is ingerior even a word?)

Reply 7

goneaway56

6

Phil23

you are just jealous of us Oxford people with an ingerior intelligence to your own, lol - hey remember grades aren't everything!!!!! :aetsch:

The jealously is strong from Nima, but it may be justified. From reading earlier threads, its seems Nima was unluckly to be denied a place.

Nima, actually a friend of mine was rejected for maths at Corpus (Oxford). On his feedback form, they actually stated that he was deserving of a place, and would have gained one in previous years, but for the incredibly strong competition that year. That may well be the case with you.

The selection process is falliable.

Reply 8

InterCity125

1

Helenia

My headmaster suddenly remembered who I was, having passed over me for Head Girl and Prefectship, all of a sudden it's "Oh look, Helen's got into Cambridge, that'll get the school some publicity. Never mind I've ignored her for over a year, we like her now!" :rolleyes:

My friends were normal about it.

Sounds familier...

Reply 9

RxB

1

Nima

Huh, why would I do that?

I was just making sure...

Reply 10

pedy1986

13

Theres those who have got in who were very good anyway - simple congrats and get on with it

Theres those who didn't really deserved (BASED ON CURRENT ABLITY) to get in - congratulations, whining internally and getting on with it.

and rejection people, some deserved it, some didn't - simple comissrerations and get on with it.

It really hasn't been such a big deal, its all over and done with now and its not the end of the world.

by deserved, I mean in the majority of my school's opinion

Reply 11

Charlottie

12

Helenia

My headmaster suddenly remembered who I was, having passed over me for Head Girl and Prefectship, all of a sudden it's "Oh look, Helen's got into Cambridge, that'll get the school some publicity. Never mind I've ignored her for over a year, we like her now!" :rolleyes:

My friends were normal about it.

Oooh, that reminds me of someone...

I wanted Head Girl, didn't get it. The girl who did was championed as the school's hope for Oxbridge, despite other people having better grades. At open days, she'd be introduced and talked up... quite sickening really. She was turned down, myself and another girl who was overlooked for Head Girl heard back in a more positive way... I have an offer, and the other girl is in the pool. Random teachers who I have never had reason to speak to have stopped to congratulate me. I'm finding it a bit embarrassing really, and I could do without the pressure. As I keep telling them, I'm not in yet, I need the grades. My friends have been normal, thank God.

Reply 12

fishpaste

InterCity125

Sounds familier...

Yep. I went to a huge sixth form (like 1000 in each year), so I wasn't particularly miffed when the principal didn't mutter a word to me once during the two years I was there. Then when I went back to prize giving ceremony, and he started talking to me, knew my life history and everything. Was quite unnerving.

Reply 13

inactive__user

Was a bit different when I got back to school, lots of people saying congrats but I really don't think people respect me any more than before. I think they see it as they know how good people are more than the tutors and therefore just because someone didn't get in it doesn't make any difference, there have not really been any suprises in terms of people getting in who people didn't think would. There were people who didn't get in who people thought would but everyone knows they are good anyway so there is no change in respect.

Also I think people realise that getting into Oxbridge is incredibly unimportant in terms of how much you respect someone, my school is the sort of school where someone who will go to not such a good uni but works REALLY hard will get more respect than someone who doesn't work really very hard but did get into Oxbridge. We ourselves cannot change how naturally intelligent we are, but we can decide how hard we try to succeed, which at my school is seen as more important. Not only this but how nice people are and how they conduct themselves really is more of a factor in how much respect someone gets than what university they have been accepted to.

Reply 14

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RA87

Not only this but how nice people are and how they conduct themselves really is more of a factor in how much respect someone gets than what university they have been accepted to.

really wish people in my school were like that. They are evil and there is a lot of snobbery around - eg people with high GCSE grades think they are above everyone, and even the teachers give the high GCSE achievers more atention than average achievers - its discriminating! anyone experienced the same anywhere.

What happened with me was that cos i only got 4A*'s at GCSE and other people got like 8 and 10 of them, the teachers would tell us (three or 4 of us) not to apply to oxbridge, cos our GCSE grades wern't gd enough.

What really sickened me was when i saw, blatently, in front of my face, the amount of attention the 'top' students were getting :mad:

- they should make it school law to stop discrimination based on grades or something :smile:

P.S. Nima, that last post of mine was not meant to offend you ro anyone - El Stevo told me people were offended :frown:

- sorry! Its just from experience - people in my school are jealous and make their views known: "you shouldn't have got in when i am smarter" etc - and that sort of sentiment really peeved me off, lol :smile:

- forget about it :wink:

Reply 15

InterCity125

1

Phil23

really wish people in my school were like that. They are evil and there is a lot of snobbery around - eg people with high GCSE grades think they are above everyone, and even the teachers give the high GCSE achievers more atention than average achievers - its discriminating! anyone experienced the same anywhere.

What happened with me was that cos i only got 4A*'s at GCSE and other people got like 8 and 10 of them, the teachers would tell us (three or 4 of us) not to apply to oxbridge, cos our GCSE grades wern't gd enough.

What really sickened me was when i saw, blatently, in front of my face, the amount of attention the 'top' students were getting :mad:

- they should make it school law to stop discrimination based on grades or something :smile:

This worries me. At my school anyone without A/A* at GCSE and less than all As at AS was told not to apply. Only a very few went against this adive, and f they did they had to decline the grades (which I think is dishonest)

Reply 16

selkie222

3

In my school they allow anyone to apply, but I know the teachers have a list (at least some idea) of who they think will get in or not. I happened to see an internal memo which contained lists of names with headings: "Disappointments", "Didn't work hard enough" and (rather harsh I thought) "Surprises".

Attitude-wise I'd say both students and teachers stays the same as their guesses of who's getting in or not is pretty accurate.

Reply 17

xyro

currently, i´m just concentrated on getting those damn grades so i dont really realize whats going on around me :smile:

anyways, i think my teachers reacted from surprised to not surprised/interested at all. friends have been quite normal, which is good.

Reply 18

priya

14

all my friends were normal with me. but on the day all the offers had been confirmed, i couldn't go down the corridor without being congratulated by teachers who hadn't spoken to me in ages, or who barely knew me. same happened at certificate evening, when random teachers would say "well done!" to me. hmmm

Reply 19

hazzie1

1

that would be nice, but no-one seems to know or care. My politics teacher said 'yeah, I heard' and my history teacher said I had alot of work to do. Thanks alot! Don't get me wrong, getting in was enough to make me smile manically for several more months, but it would be nice to get a bit of support from the school that didn't even expect me to get an interview. :bootyshak

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