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24, never had a boyfriend, never been kissed... will the first guy I date run a mile when he finds out or like that he is the first?
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I wouldn’t be bothered, but I can’t speak for everyone. Out of interest, what about the other way round?
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I'm not that experienced myself so wouldn't care, but generally if they like a person then one's virginity/lack of it is irrelevant.

Most guys would probably be happy to be your first.
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24, never had a boyfriend, never been kissed... will the first guy I date run a mile when he finds out or like that he is the first?
Nope. Personally, I quite like that - although I don't have an active preference for it.

Pretty much no guy is going to be upset if you're a virgin.
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If I was in to a woman then I'd overlook it. I don't have a preference for virgins though. I'd worry about hurting them/ruining their idea of sex.
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24, never had a boyfriend, never been kissed... will the first guy I date run a mile when he finds out or like that he is the first?
Girls that are virgins>>>>>>girls that aren't virgins

I'm a guy who's also a virgin and yeah I'd really prefer a girl who's never had sex either. Just think it's more attractive.
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24, never had a boyfriend, never been kissed... will the first guy I date run a mile when he finds out or like that he is the first?
No chance he'll run lol. Generally guys would be pretty happy to be your first etc dw about it 🙂
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I wouldn’t be bothered, but I can’t speak for everyone. Out of interest, what about the other way round?
Tbh, it think it depends on the girl. If she's a sweet girl looking for something serious then she would like it... there is something endearing about an inexperienced guy. Shows he has standards and wit everything going around these days....most girls wouldn't be bothered ir even prefer it
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No I don't think it matters much. I wouldn't prefer it but wouldn't mind either, there's a first time for everything
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Varies between guys.
Some guys have a preference, others don't.
Many guys who are social conservatives, religious traditionalists or plan to wait until marriage are only willing to consider dating girls who are virgins.
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I don't think guys care that much.
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I wouldn’t be bothered, but I can’t speak for everyone. Out of interest, what about the other way round?
Personally I'd want to be with someone who's a virgin or has a low body count, otherwise it's likely we're not going to have the same ideas about sex and love (I need to be extremely comfortable with someone and very much in love with them before having sex and for me sex is more just a fun thing that can be done in a relationship than any kind of focus). I can imagine that to someone with a lot of experience I'd be rather annoying. I don't actually even think I've been into someone who's not a virgin, as I tend to be into the more introverted type and also I'm nineteen, but I couldn't see it being a dealbreaker if someone I was with had sex a couple of times so long as they didn't expect anything from me.
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24, never had a boyfriend, never been kissed... will the first guy I date run a mile when he finds out or like that he is the first?
To me that would be better tbh
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24, never had a boyfriend, never been kissed... will the first guy I date run a mile when he finds out or like that he is the first?
most inexperienced guys prefer virgins because it means they won't be judged or compared to anyone. personally the thing i don't like about virgin girls is the hesitation and boringness in bed rather than the virginity itself
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Personally I'd want to be with someone who's a virgin or has a low body count, otherwise it's likely we're not going to have the same ideas about sex and love (I need to be extremely comfortable with someone and very much in love with them before having sex and for me sex is more just a fun thing that can be done in a relationship than any kind of focus). I can imagine that to someone with a lot of experience I'd be rather annoying. I don't actually even think I've been into someone who's not a virgin, as I tend to be into the more introverted type and also I'm nineteen, but I couldn't see it being a dealbreaker if someone I was with had sex a couple of times so long as they didn't expect anything from me.
That’s fair. I guess I have similar views.
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This post makes me feel a bit more relieved haha - I'm also a 24F virgin and never been in a relationship! The last year has been tough as I've not had a chance to meet anyone. I'm dreading my 25th birthday lol
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This post makes me feel a bit more relieved haha - I'm also a 24F virgin and never been in a relationship! The last year has been tough as I've not had a chance to meet anyone. I'm dreading my 25th birthday lol
UGH me too girl... me too!! My birthday is really soon and I feel like I don't want to reach 25 without having even kissed anyone... but I've waited too long to waste that first experience on someone who doesn't deserve it. Out of curiosity how come you've never been in a relationship do you think?
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UGH me too girl... me too!! My birthday is really soon and I feel like I don't want to reach 25 without having even kissed anyone... but I've waited too long to waste that first experience on someone who doesn't deserve it. Out of curiosity how come you've never been in a relationship do you think?
It's my birthday pretty soon too. I think there's quite a few reasons... Always been shy and didn't socialise with friends much at school, also went to an all girls school so didn't have a chance to mingle with guys when younger. Then I was hoping things could change at uni, but I got put into an all girls flat (possibly my biggest regret in my life that I didn't try to get moved). I went on a few mights out during uni where I finally had my first (drunk) kiss and then a few more with randomers lol but drunk kisses don't really count.
I'm still living at home which I think Is the worst factor. I also think I have too high standards, and then if I do meet someone I have my walls up and might appear as not interested/ feel awkward to even make the smallest move eg touch him. I think it takes me very long to become comfortable with someone, but once I do I'd be super affectionate. Finally everyone says you need to love yourself first which i guess is something I need to work on. So yeah that's my story... shyness, not having enough opportunities, fear of opening up and being hurt, and needing to work on myself/ need some hobbies to sound more interesting.
What about you? Not even a kiss?
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It's my birthday pretty soon too. I think there's quite a few reasons... Always been shy and didn't socialise with friends much at school, also went to an all girls school so didn't have a chance to mingle with guys when younger. Then I was hoping things could change at uni, but I got put into an all girls flat (possibly my biggest regret in my life that I didn't try to get moved). I went on a few mights out during uni where I finally had my first (drunk) kiss and then a few more with randomers lol but drunk kisses don't really count.
I'm still living at home which I think Is the worst factor. I also think I have too high standards, and then if I do meet someone I have my walls up and might appear as not interested/ feel awkward to even make the smallest move eg touch him. I think it takes me very long to become comfortable with someone, but once I do I'd be super affectionate. Finally everyone says you need to love yourself first which i guess is something I need to work on. So yeah that's my story... shyness, not having enough opportunities, fear of opening up and being hurt, and needing to work on myself/ need some hobbies to sound more interesting.
What about you? Not even a kiss?
Nope not even a kiss! haha Tbh its very much a similar story. I was shy in school but also bit of an ugly duckling so I never got any male attention... I had my glow up around my second year of uni when I started to get a lot of male attention but the guys were never really for me (I too have high standards and it takes me a while to be comfortable around someone), also I really want someone to be intentional with me and not just lust after my body. Like it sounds silly but I want that movie moment where I am just so emotionally connected to someone that everything else comes naturally. Im. not gunna lie, I've been clubbing myself and have definitely been approached by a lot of guys and really thought about just 'getting it over with' but I could just never bring myself to do it. The longer I wait the more important it becomes that I wait for the right person.

I don't really have a large friend group so I don't have male friends either which I think makes things more difficult for me because I haven't had a chance to get to know someone as a friend first, only met guys that have approached me in random situations. and I would never approach a guy first i'm way to scared of rejection... I think that has stayed with me since school, even though I am told I am pretty a lot I find it difficult to believe. I am always shocked when someone asks me out. I need someone to match me intellectually, spiritually etc... and im not saying that im going to marry the first person I date of course im not that naive but I want them to be intentional and it if doesn't work out it doesn't work out... I just don't want to be left regretting anything. Guys can treat girls like play things and im really not into that. We deserve so much more respect. If I had met someone and it was like a short term thing and I knew it wasn't going to last for whatever reason but we connected then I wouldn't mind kissing them, im not opposed to it or waiting until marriage or anything, just want it to mean something at the time even it the romance itself is fleeting

Sorry long essay!!
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