It is said by some scholars and high leaders of Islam that you can be a bit gay or leaning towards the same gender in Islam. Though this forbids you from ever acting upon your feelings ie sensual relations or any intimate relation with the same sex. It is prohibited to act gay. As this is considered a sin brother. I would recommend you to ask allah for guidance and taqwa. As also, do not share with your family. They will never accept it and that’s the truth. Do not share your sins. Ask Allah for help in your situation. Fear God. And remember that this life is simply a test and the after life is what we desire. So abstain from doing wrongfully. As to say, be obedient to your family, the only time you can oppose is when they are completely wrong about something or when they don’t follow the teachings of Islam. Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) said once that the easiest way to Jinnah (paradise) is through the obedience of the parents and making them happy.
In conclusion brother, you should really find your passion and find Allah through praying especially in these crucial last days. Do Not Have a gay relation ship, it is completely haram. Coming out would make the situation worse in my opinion, keep it to yourself. If Allah has kept it a secret then you should too. That concludes what I wanted to say. I hope you have a bright future and Allah award you paradise. Hopefully you are guided and loved by Allah. I hope you emerge yourself more in Islam. And allah will hopefully listen to you duaa. Allahuma help you inshallah. Please stay strong brother. Have a great day. Please. Read Quran and understand it’s teachings