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I feel uncomfortable when my gf posts pics of herself on ig. Am I overreacting? She get lots of likes from guys and girls. She went to pub with friends, came back and posted a selfie of herself from pub.
She then went really overboard on me saying how much she missed me and being really over top about saying she loved me etc. I don't get it. Am I just being insecure ?
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Anonymous #2
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Yes you're being insecure. Absolutely nothing wrong in posting selfies.
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Yes. Cheating is a random conclusion to come to from simply posting pictures of her time at a pub.
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Sounds very controlling possessive behaviour
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Yeah, just a bit unless she's posting half naked/almost fully naked pictures I don't see the issue. I'd be careful with this kind of thing, because it's the kind of thing that could push her away.
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(Original post by Anonymous)
I feel uncomfortable when my gf posts pics of herself on ig. Am I overreacting? She get lots of likes from guys and girls. She went to pub with friends, came back and posted a selfie of herself from pub.
She then went really overboard on me saying how much she missed me and being really over top about saying she loved me etc. I don't get it. Am I just being insecure ?
tbh it all depends on the type of selfies, and that is something you guys need to wrestle with yourself, some people are very bohemian and have open relationships whilst others care about what the other wears, it all depnds on your relationship
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Yeah, just a bit unless she's posting half naked/almost fully naked pictures I don't see the issue. I'd be careful with this kind of thing, because it's the kind of thing that could push her away.
Honestly growing up witnessing a very controlling and possessive marriage this is the kind of stuff that would scream red flags to me.
Starts with being insecure at posting selfies it can easily escalate to not allowing you to have male friends or wanting to know your location at all times.
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Are you uncomfortable about the obsession many people under 35 have with selfies and posting publicly available content about their private lives on accessible social media?
Or jealous/angry/insecure about the attention that her selfies get?
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This just screams insecure and controlling. I'd understand being jealous if she was posting pictures of herself in bikinis and ****, but she's literally just posting a picture of herself at the pub with her mates, grow the hell up.
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Thanks everyone. I really don't want myself to be deemed controlling. I'm just not used to it really as my previous ex would always say to me that if I post pics of myself I'm looking for attention and losing interest in her. I guess it stems from that and now my new gf is the opposite the thoughts previously pop into my head.
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I'd be concerned if anyone was posting selfies whilst in the pub (it's an invitation to say I am not at home, please burgle me), but if it is once back home, don't see the issue.
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(Original post by Anonymous)
I feel uncomfortable when my gf posts pics of herself on ig. Am I overreacting? She get lots of likes from guys and girls. She went to pub with friends, came back and posted a selfie of herself from pub.
She then went really overboard on me saying how much she missed me and being really over top about saying she loved me etc. I don't get it. Am I just being insecure ?
Over-reacting. It's her instagram. Her social media. She can do what she likes on it.
You're probably being a little insecure, and that's okay. We all do the same.
But we also crave attention from others on a daily basis.
Think about it: You're going 'LIVE' on social media, showing off a new talent, or funny skit at a comedy show.
But you're not getting any views in the first 2 mins. You're going to be thinking 'but what I'm posting is funny as, why is no one watching this?'
So you share it on other social media, using hashtags that everyone else is using, to get reach and an audience.
It works, you get 10K people tune into your 10 min video, you feel like a celeb.

That moment of 'fame' dies down after a bit. You should calm down also.
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