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Happens quite a lot to me, whether its friends or just people who I try and strike up conversations with. In my mind I'm a little socially awkward but not creepy so don't get why I get ignored most of the time. It makes me want to give up on socialising because no one is willing to put in any effort so there's little there to change the situation.
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Can you give me an example of how the conversations usually go ?
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Can you give me an example of how the conversations usually go ?
Online I might mention their story or post and something relevant to that. Like "I really thought that last album was great, my favourite song is this. Have you seen them live?". Conversation will go on for one or two sentences before getting ignored.

Irl it's mainly small talk but it's like I'm carrying the whole conversation and leading so I just drop it or the person says something and walks off.
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Online I might mention their story or post and something relevant to that. Like "I really thought that last album was great, my favourite song is this. Have you seen them live?". Conversation will go on for one or two sentences before getting ignored.
It might just be that what you last sent is not worthy enough for a reply.

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Irl it's mainly small talk but it's like I'm carrying the whole conversation and leading so I just drop it or the person says something and walks off.
Hmmm. What are the talks usually about?
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It might just be that what you last sent is not worthy enough for a reply.



Hmmm. What are the talks usually about?
Could be but sometimes it'll be a question or something that I'd think would get a reply. Maybe they don't see it like that I'm not sure

Anything really. If I'm introduced to a person I find they won't really talk to me and even in small groups I usually get talked over
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(Original post by Anonymous)
Could be but sometimes it'll be a question or something that I'd think would get a reply. Maybe they don't see it like that I'm not sure
Give an example.

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Anything really. If I'm introduced to a person I find they won't really talk to me
They might just have nothing to say at that point in time.

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and even in small groups I usually get talked over
If this is the case, it looks like your friends don’t really appreciate what you have to say. Have you spoke to them about this?
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Online I might mention their story or post and something relevant to that. Like "I really thought that last album was great, my favourite song is this. Have you seen them live?". Conversation will go on for one or two sentences before getting ignored.

Irl it's mainly small talk but it's like I'm carrying the whole conversation and leading so I just drop it or the person says something and walks off.
small talk is something a lot of people don't like and imo its a really bad way to start a conversation. its not super interesting, it usually feels pointless and as soon as something more important comes up its preferable to drop it just like how that awkward person at the party in a movie gets left alone as someone else walks along

i don't really know what your solution is, but a good conversation should always start with something interesting/personable or otherwise worth hearing
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Give an example.



They might just have nothing to say at that point in time.



If this is the case, it looks like your friends don’t really appreciate what you have to say. Have you spoke to them about this?
I can't think of a good one off the top of my head but might be something like "are you still doing - " or "Strange, I haven't seen them around in a while". I guess it's up to them in the end.

Indirectly but a lot of the time I feel like my opinion doesn't matter and a lot of the time I'm listened to if something I'm saying goes with what everyone else says or believes.
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