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This is not me wanting sympathetic comments or replies. I just need some advice. Perspective? Likewise experiences?

Born into a poor family with no Dad. Mother barely survived(es) to always provide for us and keep a roof over our head. Constantly belittled and have had a harder life compared to majority of our other extended family. (I still share a room with my sibling)

Further on, despite having poor achievements in school, I decided to turn my life around from there. Thankfully, I did well for myself in College. Went to Uni. Every year I was diagnosed with some illness which naturally took soo much time away from studying. Despite this, I tried my best and achieved satisfactory results overall. Following this, I decided to study a post graduate. I really wanted to turn the tables round this time. Again, met with unfortunate circumstances again and passed with satisfactory results.

Now, I'm out here looking for graduate schemes/ entry level jobs. Everyone who graduated around me has landed great schemes and jobs, even during this pandemic.

I don't understand what or where I am going wrong?? I have been the most determined, and hard-working to achieve a slightly better life than it's always been. I don't seem to succeed even the slightest... Compared to others around me, I have genuinely applied to over 5 times the amount of jobs/ schemes they have applied for. Constantly upgrading/ updating and looking for innovative ways to improve my CV, Covering letter and interview approaches. I even help people/ friends improve their CV's, covering letters and interview approaches they can use. Yet, there seems to be no resolve for my self to succeed and even improve my current situation the slightest.
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(Original post by broccoli_soup)
This is not me wanting sympathetic comments or replies. I just need some advice. Perspective? Likewise experiences?

Born into a poor family with no Dad. Mother barely survived(es) to always provide for us and keep a roof over our head. Constantly belittled and have had a harder life compared to majority of our other extended family. (I still share a room with my sibling)

Further on, despite having poor achievements in school, I decided to turn my life around from there. Thankfully, I did well for myself in College. Went to Uni. Every year I was diagnosed with some illness which naturally took soo much time away from studying. Despite this, I tried my best and achieved satisfactory results overall. Following this, I decided to study a post graduate. I really wanted to turn the tables round this time. Again, met with unfortunate circumstances again and passed with satisfactory results.

Now, I'm out here looking for graduate schemes/ entry level jobs. Everyone who graduated around me has landed great schemes and jobs, even during this pandemic.

I don't understand what or where I am going wrong?? I have been the most determined, and hard-working to achieve a slightly better life than it's always been. I don't seem to succeed even the slightest... Compared to others around me, I have genuinely applied to over 5 times the amount of jobs/ schemes they have applied for. Constantly upgrading/ updating and looking for innovative ways to improve my CV, Covering letter and interview approaches. I even help people/ friends improve their CV's, covering letters and interview approaches they can use. Yet, there seems to be no resolve for my self to succeed and even improve my current situation the slightest.
Please do not take this the wrong way, but despite your perceived struggles, the harsh reality is that everyone has their own story to share. Just because you may feel you have had a harder time of things is neither here or there. The employer only really cares about your soft skills, your technical skills and your experience.

Note however that getting a rejection when applying to a graduate scheme is in no way any real indication of your ability. Finding a graduate job is really like playing the lottery. At some point, once you have done all the standard tricks (e.g. improving your CV, building up extra curricular activities, learning the STAR based approach etc) it just becomes a game of chance.

If you have some form of mental health issue or disability, suitable allowances and adjustments can be made but this is only to put you on a level playing field with other people - it does not guarantee a job. Unfortunately, there are some companies that despite their claims, they may discriminate against you if you mention your mental health and/or disabilities. You should therefore be wary of what you choose to disclose if indeed you do fall under this category.

I can only close by saying I sympathise with your current situation. I have been jobless for two years and my future also feels at present quite bleak. All I can suggest at this point is to take a break from applications and go again afterwards. It is not the advice you want to hear but unfortunately that is all you can really do. You may also want to consider perhaps doing some extra-curricular activities, volunteering work, MOOC courses or some hobbies. Employers will look favourably on these things, they will help you keep your mind active and they will also give you something positive to look forward to during this difficult period in your life.
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(Original post by broccoli_soup)
This is not me wanting sympathetic comments or replies. I just need some advice. Perspective? Likewise experiences?

Born into a poor family with no Dad. Mother barely survived(es) to always provide for us and keep a roof over our head. Constantly belittled and have had a harder life compared to majority of our other extended family. (I still share a room with my sibling)

Further on, despite having poor achievements in school, I decided to turn my life around from there. Thankfully, I did well for myself in College. Went to Uni. Every year I was diagnosed with some illness which naturally took soo much time away from studying. Despite this, I tried my best and achieved satisfactory results overall. Following this, I decided to study a post graduate. I really wanted to turn the tables round this time. Again, met with unfortunate circumstances again and passed with satisfactory results.

Now, I'm out here looking for graduate schemes/ entry level jobs. Everyone who graduated around me has landed great schemes and jobs, even during this pandemic.

I don't understand what or where I am going wrong?? I have been the most determined, and hard-working to achieve a slightly better life than it's always been. I don't seem to succeed even the slightest... Compared to others around me, I have genuinely applied to over 5 times the amount of jobs/ schemes they have applied for. Constantly upgrading/ updating and looking for innovative ways to improve my CV, Covering letter and interview approaches. I even help people/ friends improve their CV's, covering letters and interview approaches they can use. Yet, there seems to be no resolve for my self to succeed and even improve my current situation the slightest.
Sounds like a similar situation to mine, graduated last year, searching for grad job or at least something better than retail as what I was doing before. I have asked for advice, had my CV checked, done the right thing by asking companies for working experience etc. Do appear to be getting interviews for some places, others ignore. Maybe its personality, but you cant just magically change yourself.
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Maybe its personality, but you cant just magically change yourself.
Yes, this is something I have wondered about myself. I wonder whether I give off bad first impressions or whether I have poor body language - but these are not things that are necessarily very easy to change.
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Thank you 0le and route255 for your replies. I took some time off from technology/ devices and just tried to wind down. This has helped slightly. I am mentally in a better position right now compared to how I was when I wrote my original post.

0le, you really have made me realise my current shortcomings and potentially the reason why employers are overlooking my potential candidacy. The industry that I am trying to enter does require a significant level of demonstrable projects/ portfolio. My current portfolio status does lack substance so I will definitely work towards this as this might be the root cause. Other MOOC courses that you have mentioned have also made me realise that I have been lacking the drive to complete those professional qualifications I had in mind to complete after graduating.

I've come to a realisation that my depleted sense of both drive and motivation comes solely from being cooped up in my room for a long period of time. Especially because of COVID measures. Now, since everything in the UK will start to open up, I have decided to give my self a day or two to completely forget about my employability status/ current financial position by submersing myself into long country drives/ exercising/ writing and potentially socialising.

I genuinely hope things start looking up for all of us soon! And hopefully we can help each others morales through this platform more often!
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