Flatmate tells me I'm disrupting his sleep, what should I do?

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I've been living in my student house since October 2020 with a guy, and our other flatmates have essentially come for a short while and returned home for extended periods. Anyway, we quickly figured out that the walls are stupidly thin (like, I can hear the people in the house next to us). Problem is, as my flatmate has the room below mine, we can hear each other sometimes and the stairs can be quite loud in both our rooms.
This isn't much of an issue during the day but at night we've had problems from essentially day 1. He likes to go to sleep earlier than me and wake up earlier. However, my degree requires me to put in long hours and I tend to work better at night, so I am always asleep after him. This can be as early as 12ish am to as late as 3am. Of course, I'm not making loud noises, essentially I am usually typing on my laptop, walking round my room occasionally, and using the stairs to use the bathroom on the floor below me (no bathroom on my floor). He had complained to me a lot of times and recently he's been complaining every night. I'm already creeping round my room, moving things gently and as little as possible to prevent noise, and creeping down the stairs to avoid them being too loud. However, he still complains that he's not sleeping well. I don't really know what else to do except go to bed when he does, but I feel like I'm doing plenty on my side and I shouldn't have to do that when I pay as much as he does for the house (essentially, it's my room so I should be able to do what I want, within reason). I'm pretty fed up right now and I'm fed up of pandering to him. What would you do if you were me?
Note to add: I also get disrupted by him playing music during 9-5 hours sometimes and a lot more frequently after 5 when I'm trying to work, but I don't complain about it because I feel like he should be able to do what he wants in his room and I can usually work through it as its not too loud. Would I be petty if I kept complaining to him about his music in retaliation? Also, I'm not living with him again next year and will never be living with him again so I'm not concerned about ruining a future house dynamic.
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Could one of you swap rooms with one of the other housemates to that you are as far away from each other as possible?
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^^ that.

Also maybe tell him to get some earplugs? It’s not like you are being inconsiderate or unreasonably loud. You shouldn’t have to adjust your sleeping schedule to fit his. Most student flats have thin walls, it’s just something everyone needs to put up with.

If the music is bothering you then you can bring it up. Hopefully he will realise that he’s also not the perfect housemate and both need to compromise.
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Tell him to move out
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