My friends make bets on meWatch
I don’t really know how to feel about this... I know I’m flirty but it’s almost like my girl mates are making me out to be some sort of massive **** (I’m 18 and have a body count of one who was a long term ex, so I don’t know how this can be) rather than defending me - in a way it’s worse, because “boys will be boys” and at least they joke about it WITH me, rather than behind my back.
I really don’t know how to feel about this??? I don’t mind the joke with the others, because I’m involved and it can be funny... however I feel slightly uncomfortable with my girl mates doing this behind my back?
They’ve taken it from an in group joke to something *****y. Next time it’s joked about amongst friends I’d mention hey guys let’s stop now because I feel uncomfortable. If they respect you and are just generally having a laugh you’ll see who stops. Those who continue are being snidey.
It’s difficult. As I said in my post, it’s easy to excuse the boys because “boys will be boys” (🙄) and they don’t take the joke as deep. Once the joke is made, they leave it at that. With my girl mates, their opinion of me matters to me & when you take that out of the context of the joke, and discuss it behind my back that’s what stresses me out....
Agreed. "Boys will be boys" is for when guys decide to skateboard down a staircase or wrestle in the mud. It shouldn't be used to justify sexual harrasment.