Why am I so undateable?

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So i’m 23 and never made it out the talking stage. Iv had 3 serious talking stages which ended up with the girl just getting bored of me and cutting me off.

I try my best to be the best person I can etc. I try to be there for the girl if she needs, I try to make her laugh and smile, I assure her i’ll never cheat or even look in another girls direction. I take them on nice dates and treat them nice etc. But after 2 months ish they just lose interest and dispose of me like a play thing and it really hurts.

What could I possibly be doing so wrong for this to happen to me?
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Maybe you just talk too much.
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Do you get one-itis, where you meet a girl and decide she's the one and put her on a pedestal? Yeah. We date people who are our equal. If you do that, you won't be seen as super-attractive.

Do you get shy and wait weeks to make a move, then shyly say 'I like you'. Because they will not go for that. (Ignore the inevitable two people who say 'I do!' as your experience shows that it isn't so)

Or it could just be you don't know how to flirt. No shame in that - You learned how to ride a bike, you can learn how to flirt.

Honestly, asking randos on the internet this question isn't super-helpful. Ask someone you trust who you know will be honest with you.
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(Original post by ThatOldGuy)
Do you get one-itis, where you meet a girl and decide she's the one and put her on a pedestal? Yeah. We date people who are our equal. If you do that, you won't be seen as super-attractive.

Do you get shy and wait weeks to make a move, then shyly say 'I like you'. Because they will not go for that. (Ignore the inevitable two people who say 'I do!' as your experience shows that it isn't so)

Or it could just be you don't know how to flirt. No shame in that - You learned how to ride a bike, you can learn how to flirt.

Honestly, asking randos on the internet this question isn't super-helpful. Ask someone you trust who you know will be honest with you.
You said asking rando won’t be helpful but that was done solid advice there thanks
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I'm probably wrong but my first thought when I read your post was that you may come across as desperate by saying stuff as "I assure her i’ll never cheat or even look in another girls direction."
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