Can you help me to find out if I’m trans?

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Ray2445
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Bros, can you help me?
I don’t know if I’m trans guy or nonbinary or even cis girl.
When I was a kid I always had boys as friends, I wanted to be one of them but I always was also feminine.
I was a weirdo and kids always laugh on me but I didn’t give a **** about them.
In older age I thought for a year that I’m a boy and always said that to myself .
But I also liked cute things.
Also, In the break on the elementary school, I always whacked the boys and wanted be there.
I thought it was because I wanted to impress them.
I don’t know if I’m a trans guy or not because I think I’m scared.
Another reason; I don’t want hair body or hair in my face. But I want the boys part (you know) and deep voice.
Sometimes I really think that I’m a woman but I think It’s a lie.
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Do not decide that you need to put yourself through life altering medical procedures that will have a significant impact on your physical health because some strangers on the internet tell you that it's a 'good idea'.

(A) puberty is traumatic for a lot of females

(B) Socialising with males is easier than socialising with females. Give autism a Google.

(C) You say that you like cute things. No style of thing inherently belongs to either sex. Gender is nothing more than a social construct.
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Sounds to me like you just happen to get on better with male peers and are focusing on personality traits rather than identity traits.

If you weren't aware of all these extra labels, would you even see yourself as a male? how do you know you want biologically male physical features if you've never had them before? Most transsexual (different to transgender) folk report feeling very detached from their own natural, biological features - not that they want the other gender's.

Liking 'Cute things' isn't 'more' feminine, it's just a social construct that you can choose to ignore - you don't need to swap identities just to better fit into social constructs/norms surrounding gender.
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Only you can really know :dontknow:
Personality traits don't dictate whether you're trans or not, so hanging out with boys and liking cute things is kind of meaningless. It's more about deeply disliking your sex characteristics.

You might get better advice here, by the way
https://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/sho....php?t=6977167
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(Original post by Ray2445)
Bros, can you help me?
I don’t know if I’m trans guy or nonbinary or even cis girl.
When I was a kid I always had boys as friends, I wanted to be one of them but I always was also feminine.
I was a weirdo and kids always laugh on me but I didn’t give a **** about them.
In older age I thought for a year that I’m a boy and always said that to myself .
But I also liked cute things.
Also, In the break on the elementary school, I always whacked the boys and wanted be there.
I thought it was because I wanted to impress them.
I don’t know if I’m a trans guy or not because I think I’m scared.
Another reason; I don’t want hair body or hair in my face. But I want the boys part (you know) and deep voice.
Sometimes I really think that I’m a woman but I think It’s a lie.
i'd recommend hanging around trans forums or communities to see if anything resonates with you. your gender identity doesnt have to be set in stone, and like others have said your interests and personality traits dont necessarily have to align with it, but just because something is a social construct doesnt mean it cant matter to you!
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i'd recommend hanging around trans forums or communities to see if anything resonates with you...... but just because something is a social construct doesnt mean it cant matter to you!
Even if OP did find that they resonate with some of the things that are said on trans forums, it's doesn't mean that they would gain any long term benefit/ happiness from identifying as transgender.

Very very questionable things happen on some of these forums. It may be illadvised for OP to go on them as it may open them up to exploitation.

Medical procedures aren't social constructs.
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