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I'm a really boring guy, I basically go to work, I work at least 10 hours depending on the workload (I have a business), come back, shower, make dinner, read a book (or watch a flick) and go to sleep. If I had more time, I'd probably lift weights and get a dog. I do not as I'm working and want to do a degree part-time.

Im 5'7'' and I am not good looking.

I feel like the only reason any girl has to even talk to me is money. I have spoken (and spoken is the right word - we just talked) to cam models in the past because I was lonely. Threw hundreds of pounds away. I don't feel like I am worthy of any other kind of relationship, I can't imagine having someone interested in me.

Does anyone else feel like this? is it a symptom of depression or am I right in thinking like this? I have no attractive qualities and no woman has ever expressed interest in me.
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I am similar in some respects, but not all. I would never spend money on cam girls, for example.

Aspects of what you say could potentially be in keeping with depression, but it would be difficult to say for sure over the internet.

Sadly, I do find that when men talk about loneliness/depression etc in this way, they tend to be blamed and shamed by others.
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I am similar in some respects, but not all. I would never spend money on cam girls, for example.

Aspects of what you say could potentially be in keeping with depression, but it would be difficult to say for sure over the internet.

Sadly, I do find that when men talk about loneliness/depression etc in this way, they tend to be blamed and shamed by others.
I understand.

I have only talked about this to 2 cam girls but obviously they don't really care (they pretend to but I'm not dumb, just lonely and not feeling well). They at least don't judge which is refreshing for me. I have no one else to talk to apart from professionals. My family is very judgemental and so are my friends. I work 6 days a week tho so I don't have much time to...be judged anymore.
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Well let's diagnose your issue properly first. You're a hard working guy who likes to read. Sounds like something women list when they make those lists of things sexy guys do. To me I think your issue is loneliness, and I think it is made worse by your job / life not offering enough social interaction. You don't feel great because much of life is all about the emotions we experience with other people, you need to put yourself out there more outside of work, or switch to a job where you can get that feeling.
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Take the red pill.
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(Original post by tashkent46)
Well let's diagnose your issue properly first. You're a hard working guy who likes to read. Sounds like something women list when they make those lists of things sexy guys do. To me I think your issue is loneliness, and I think it is made worse by your job / life not offering enough social interaction. You don't feel great because much of life is all about the emotions we experience with other people, you need to put yourself out there more outside of work, or switch to a job where you can get that feeling.
I do not enjoy socialising apart from work. I meet lots of people at work but I'm a professional so I don't get personal with them (nor do I want to). It is awkward.

I am currently reading a book about income inequality in Europe and the US (comparison). It is not directly related to my work but I like to read empirical economics. Really not a ''sexy'' topic and most of the books I read are of this nature. Accounting, economics, business, sociology. I don't read fiction or something that can be used as a talking point.
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Take the red pill.
I do not understand what you mean. I used to be on antidepressants but the side effects are unbearable and I didn't see any significant improvement.
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Sounds like you might define your self-worth by your money, a little too much.

I would never spend any slightly more significant (£10+) amount on someone unless I already at least suspected I liked them. Because it is not how I want to define my self-worth, and it is certainly not how I want to attract people into my life either. I can afford far more than that, but I don't like people to know it, for those reasons.

Could I "plug the gap" with cam models? Probably, for a short amount of time. But my common sense has always stopped me, because I know that there is absolutely no ROI on spending my money this way.

Also... I think if you find a way to relate the topics which you read about, to daily life and things that people see in the news, that is a lot more interesting.
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I used to think the same as you OP the only decent qualities I could offer were loyalty, financial security, companionship. Then I got into shape, became athletic, and spent time learning how to be more confident, how to carry myself better, and researched what male models do to look good and applied some of those things to myself.
Now I am not short of options and certainly feel I have lot to offer to the right person and I have no shortage of interrest, however I haven't yet found someone that I am completely interrested in.
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