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I have loads of friends and I'm the most sociable person all my friends know. With lockdowns and loads of self isolation I feel like I have forgotten how to socialise like the conversations are so dead and maybe because I have stopped gossiping as well because its jus a bad habit
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I'm sure many people are in the same boat
As things begin happening again like going out, seeing each other, you'll have more to say and talk about! I've stopped messaging many friends because we had nothing to say and I felt like I was bugging them with nothing to offer, but as things have changed I can still have conversations just less often. It's probably why you feel the conversations are dead. My friends used to call every night in lockdown 1 and not a single time in lockdown 3, stuff has just changed.
Socialising is like riding a bike! Over lockdown, I've reconnected with a friend that was my best friend for about 7 years, then at uni she changed. I invited her over once and my housemates asked me not to invite her back, like it was bad. And then I went to see if she was around and she changed again and the conversation was a bit stiff when we started meeting up but now it flows (met up 2 times with stiff convos, meet up 4 times with great convos, most recently our bets one yet, felt like old times) which shows to me its like riding a bike and we will get there again. I hope this offers you some encouragement.
In summary it's going to take time, but we are nearly there I hope!
Gossiping is a bad habit and it's a good thing you've kicked it!
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heyy! i can defo relate you you alot especially since i turned into more of an introvert during lock down hahah but its okay to feel sort of out of place and insecure about it. Its a big adjustment! take it as a good change and you growing as a person, becoming more independent as well. Weve all changed some way or another during this pandemic. maybe its a good thing that the gossping isnt really there anymore cause at the end of the day COVID has really shown us who are your real friends or not but trust me everything will be okay i promise, if you want to talk or rant hahah i got you
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It's a good job gossiping has stopped. That's a sure-fire way to lead to losing a lot of your friends, which would make the situation worse.

Regarding socialising, well you've likely gotten used to being inside a lot. You'll be able to adapt to how things were when life becomes more normal again. Over the past few years, I became far less social because I (unknowingly) slowly started isolating myself from people I knew. I was just super busy with a lot of things and didn't realise what I was doing. However, when I put an active attempt to be better at socialising, it comes back to me like it was natural (shame I don't do the active attempts much..!). So just fake it until you make it, you'll be back to normal once again. Also, don't discount the fact that many others likely feel the same.
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I have loads of friends and I'm the most sociable person all my friends know. With lockdowns and loads of self isolation I feel like I have forgotten how to socialise like the conversations are so dead and maybe because I have stopped gossiping as well because its jus a bad habit
any advice
It's like riding a bicycle. Once you can do it you never forget.
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(Original post by Dunnig Kruger)
It's like riding a bicycle. Once you can do it you never forget.
wdym
and our paths cross again lol
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wdym
and our paths cross again lol
I mean:
You've already learnt how to socialise well. It's not something that you will forget how to do.
You'll be fine when it comes to you socialising again.

You may be a little bit wobbly or saddle sore at first, but you'll soon get into your stride.
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