I´ve got the hots for my doc - Don´t judge, just advise

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(Original post by Anonymous)
Like I said, I´ll change doctors ASAP so I won´t be his patient anymore, hence it would be 100 percent legal
Nope. Doctors are advised by the GMC not to date anyone who has ever been their patient. Even if he is attracted to you, he will not date you if he has any sense.
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(Original post by Kovalensky)
Someone telling you not to get involved with your doctor isn't ''judgement'', they can get into trouble. Don't you respect that?
I think you're forgetting that other than being a doctor, he's also an adult male - surely if he managed to get through med school, he's smart enough to decide for himself whether or not he wants to date a patient/ex-patient

(Original post by Anonymous)
He told me he´s single ^^ Thanks, that´s literally the only response that answers my question. I know he´s single, I get the feeling he´s interested (although random people on the internet who weren´t there obviously know better than me lol); so, just thinking about how to go about it - maybe tell him I found he was a good doctor? Make a joke that if he wasn´t my doctor, I would totally have gone for a drink? idk
even if you know he's single, I'd still bring up a girlfriend/wife in a casual way if the opportunity strikes, just because it sends a message that you're interested if you want to go for it then you can also say what u mentioned, or if you ever talk about restaurants/pubs etc, you could casually say "too bad you're my doctor cause I'd love for you to show me X (a place)"
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Nope. Doctors are advised by the GMC not to date anyone who has ever been their patient. Even if he is attracted to you, he will not date you if he has any sense.
discouraged/advised not to =/= forbidden

"Green light for doctors to date former patients so long as they use their 'professional judgement' to decide if it is appropriate"

"In the United Kingdom, the General Medical Council once discouraged physicians from having romantic relationships with any former patient. That changed in 2013, however, though the council did update its guidelines to include factors a doctor should consider before going down that path".
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discouraged/advised not to =/= forbidden

"Green light for doctors to date former patients so long as they use their 'professional judgement' to decide if it is appropriate"

"In the United Kingdom, the General Medical Council once discouraged physicians from having romantic relationships with any former patient. That changed in 2013, however, though the council did update its guidelines to include factors a doctor should consider before going down that path".
he would still be daft to date a former patient
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You’ve got the hots for him-it’s a crush.
He is just trying to do his job.

If you want to change doctors feel free but do Not expect him to return your infatuation with anything more than a thank you and/or awkward goodbye.
Just leave him be.
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he would still be daft to date a former patient
I mean it's literally not that deep people can date whoever they want as long as it's consensual
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I mean it's literally not that deep people can date whoever they want as long as it's consensual
a bit more complicated than that if you are a doctor
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I mean it's literally not that deep people can date whoever they want as long as it's consensual
Not without consequences they can’t.
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(Original post by Anonymous)
I think you're forgetting that other than being a doctor, he's also an adult male - surely if he managed to get through med school, he's smart enough to decide for himself whether or not he wants to date a patient/ex-patient


even if you know he's single, I'd still bring up a girlfriend/wife in a casual way if the opportunity strikes, just because it sends a message that you're interested if you want to go for it then you can also say what u mentioned, or if you ever talk about restaurants/pubs etc, you could casually say "too bad you're my doctor cause I'd love for you to show me X (a place)"
Yeah, everyone acts as though I would force him to do something, I think he has a mind of his own. I could test the waters and just ask him a bit about what he’s already told me (where he studied etc) and ask whether he and his wife moved her because..or something like that
I guess he’ll take the hint especially if he remembers our first conversation)
Or maybe I could make a joke that I’m indeed always kind of nervous for some weird reason although that’s super direct haha
Do you have any other suggestions, from a mans perspective? I don’t want to be too blunt but he should get the hint I’m interested, but only in something physical, no relationship
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a bit more complicated than that if you are a doctor
maybe, unnecessarily.

(Original post by GabiAbi84)
Not without consequences they can’t.
yes they can? there are no consequences if something is legal (and even if there were, there shouldn't be cause again, people should be allowed to date whoever they want as long as it's consensual)
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(Original post by GabiAbi84)
You’ve got the hots for him-it’s a crush.
He is just trying to do his job.

If you want to change doctors feel free but do Not expect him to return your infatuation with anything more than a thank you and/or awkward goodbye.
Just leave him be.
So what, if he’s not interested and I TOTALLY misread the situation, life goes on; at least I won’t regret it - I’m not gonna change my mind; all these posts don’t answer my questions how to subtly show interest; if you’ve got another opinion that’s fine but doesn’t answer my question
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maybe, unnecessarily.


yes they can? there are no consequences if something is legal (and even if there were, there shouldn't be cause again, people should be allowed to date whoever they want as long as it's consensual)
Again, not as simple as you think. You have no idea what might happen to the former patient in the future - they might claim the doctor raped them, or claim they were manipulated, or a load of other possibilities. It's just not worth it.
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yes they can? there are no consequences if something is legal (and even if there were, there shouldn't be cause again, people should be allowed to date whoever they want as long as it's consensual)
Firstly you said consensual and not legal,

And secondly there are many situations in which people can legally date but there are still consequences for them doing so. Losing a job being one of them.

And if you just mean consensual then there are even more situations in which people *can* date but there are consequences for doing so.
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Again, not as simple as you think. You have no idea what might happen to the former patient in the future - they might claim the doctor raped them, or claim they were manipulated, or a load of other possibilities. It's just not worth it.
Yeah right I have nothing better to do than to accuse him of something that hasnt happened and set feminism back 50 years.
It’s his choice not yours and also we are all adults here and not some bitter teenager;
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So what, if he’s not interested and I TOTALLY misread the situation, life goes on; at least I won’t regret it - I’m not gonna change my mind; all these posts don’t answer my questions how to subtly show interest; if you’ve got another opinion that’s fine but doesn’t answer my question
Well then do as you please.
Do it as you would any other conquest you want to sleep with.
I just feel sorry for the poor guy.
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Yeah right I have nothing better to do than to accuse him of something that hasnt happened and set feminism back 50 years.
It’s his choice not yours and also we are all adults here and not some bitter teenager;
I'm not talking about you specifically. And yes, his choice, but if he has any sense, he would not date a patient.
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Wow that’s actually judgemental and disrespectful on a feminist level - are you implying I’m a * for having a interest in him? That’s just sad. Have a look at yourself and reread my question I don’t care about your judgement; just go to another question
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Yeah, no, you’re bonkers :bird:
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Yeah, no, you’re bonkers :bird:
Yeah no, you’re unhelpful
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Yeah no, you’re unhelpful
Good. You don’t seem to be understanding everyone else’s reaction and response anyways.
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