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    I have just got back from my second date with this girl, who i am really REALLY keen on. She seems very keen on me too, kissing me and things... but tonight whilst we were eating dinner she tells me she is also seeing someone else, but its nothing serious and the other person has said she can date and meet other people. She asked me what i thought and i was just speechless, i have never come across this situation before. Im not sure what to do as i really like this girl and i want to be with her... any ideas? Anyone been in this situation before?

    Cheers...

    Keeping anonymous as not sure if she uses this or not.
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    Well you'll just have to decide if it bothers you enough to not want to continue seeing her.
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    if you want her too yourself then you need to tell her that. find out if she will stop seeing this other person and just be with you
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    That's just not on! :eek: steer clear OP!
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    Doubt so early on in a relationship is never a good platform for continuation...

    Do as you please, but try and probe her as why she wants to embark on such ventures, it may help explain psychological issues in later life.
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    (Original post by dh00001)
    if you want her too yourself then you need to tell her that. find out if she will stop seeing this other person and just be with you
    The problem with this is that:

    • The other guy got there first.
    • The other guy has probably had sex with her already.
    • The OP hasn't.
    • The other guy probably doesn't have to buy her dinner to get her attention.

    given ^^^^^^^:

    Other guy>>>>>>>OP

    Therefore he can't make that demand.

    OP: don't fall for chicks that aren't single.
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    (Original post by mr-breaker)
    The problem with this is that:

    • The other guy got there first.
    • The other guy has probably had sex with her already.
    • The OP hasn't.
    • The other guy probably doesn't have to buy her dinner to get her attention.

    given ^^^^^^^:

    Other guy>>>>>>>OP

    Therefore he can't make that demand.

    OP: don't fall for chicks that aren't single.
    all true but its worth a go still.
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    Correct me if im wrong but..... isnt that the norm for americans???

    they can date whoever they like (eg. as many people that they want) and its not untill you have that "converstation" to make it exclusive that they do so. makes sense really, as you need to get to know people first before starting any thing more.

    eg. the difference between dating and a relationship.
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    Even though i really like her, im not sure whether it is better to keep on persisting and hope it turns into something great... or whether its better just to quit now and draw a line under it incase i end up getting hurt in the future if she choses the other guy etc?
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    Open relationships FTL
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    Ftl???
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    Yeha its complicated and some always gets hurt
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    (Original post by Mr. Orange)
    That's just not on! :eek: steer clear OP!
    :ditto: X10000000
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    Speaking from experience Bass-Belle?
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    I just got off the phone with her and i said that i dont feel comfortable with her dating someone else too as it is unfair. I said that as he was on the scene first then maybe she should see where it goes with him first of all, and if it doesnt develop into anything then give me a text as i really like you and if i am not seeing anyone at the time, maybe we can see each other again...

    ...she chose to stay with him and see what happens.

    My reasoning behind saying this is i thought that if i walk away, she might decide she wants me, and ends up just seeing me, but then if she isnt that interested in me then she will stay with him and i will have got a lucky escape. Maybe i did get a lucky escape, but i am bummed about it When she has told me about it, he seems like such an idiot, and is going no where... oh well!
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    Any advice? Do i just leave it now and wait for her to get in contact... if she ever does?

    On a second note, its annoying because i really liked the girl and thought we were going somewhere!
 
 
 
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