I’m in my second year of uni and have lived with my friends for almost two years: 2 guys and one girl. One of the guys is seriously socially awkward, let’s call him Ben, he has lived a sheltered life he’s a virgin and has never even kissed a girl, had no friends in his life before us, doesn’t really care about the way he looks (just wears hoodies doesn’t shower or do anything with his hair), had never drunk anything before us, has his parents do everything for him. I’m closer to the other boy and girl (let’s call them Max and Lisa) because we’ve had more similar things in common growing up as Ben is a bit of an outcast to society type thing. Ben has had severe depression the first year of uni so we were worried about him, but he’s a nice guy he’s just extremely sensitive and strange.
He doesn’t really know how to socialize normally with people his age either like he has said some cringe jokes infront if our friends which seem quite child-like for our age group (we are 20). The issue is him staring at me creepily, he will look me up and down and I don’t think realises that I can see it out of the corner of my eye. It doesn’t even matter what I’m wearing, like the other day me and Lisa were hanging out downstairs and Lisa had a revealing top and I had a normal T-Shirt with jeans and he immediately looked me up and down and didn’t look at Lisa at all! Lisa has bigger boobs than me and more of a attractive body than me so it’s just weird since I’m pretty flat.
Not only this, only yesterday we were at a restaurant and I had my head turned but at the corner of my eye I saw Ben slowly look me up and down really creepily - I had a hoodie on! He will also just stare at me blankly and I really hate it, gives me the creeps majorly and I don’t know if he realizes how obvious it is. Max has never once looked at me inappropriately but he always gets girls so maybe that’s why? Whereas Ben has never even kissed a girl or had any female attention. I don’t know if I’m paranoid because of these stares but our kitchen is super narrow and every time Ben passed me by he will turn his body inwards so it’s close to my back and I just hate how close he gets because I’m paranoid but it could just be cuz our kitchen is so narrow. I’ve talked to Lisa about it and she says she hasn’t seen him looking at me yet but it’s because she’s usually very distracted but has noticed how he hovers in the kitchen.
I don’t know what to do about it but it really grosses me out, i just know he would be extremely upset if he was called out and embarrassed and I wouldn’t want to cause him mental stress because he is a nice guy but it’s just so creepy.