That's like me being unable to find my elbow xD
so i had my ‘first time’ but it wasn’t exactly sex. we didn’t end up doing penetration exactly because i couldn’t find my hole, ik where it is but i just don’t see how his **** could fit in there so we just did other things instead. my question is how can i get my vagina to kind of get used to it? i’ve been able to fit in one finger and tried two once, and have tried with my dildo but it hurts sooooooooo much. ik sex is meant to hurt the first time, but it just feels so tight and has a slight burning sensation sometimes.
First times will hurt, but it should ease, maybe your anxiety is making you nervous and causing you problems when it comes to penetration? Seeing a doctor would definitely help (if that's something you can do), there's no shame in talking with a professional! They can have some great advice!
Hope this helps!
My usual advice is, communicate extensively with your partner, be experimental, do what feels good and keep letting your partner know what that is. But from your OP, it seems like that's basically what you were doing. Have fun