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so i had my ‘first time’ but it wasn’t exactly sex. we didn’t end up doing penetration exactly because i couldn’t find my hole, ik where it is but i just don’t see how his **** could fit in there so we just did other things instead. my question is how can i get my vagina to kind of get used to it? i’ve been able to fit in one finger and tried two once, and have tried with my dildo but it hurts sooooooooo much. ik sex is meant to hurt the first time, but it just feels so tight and has a slight burning sensation sometimes.
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You couldn't find it?

That's like me being unable to find my elbow xD
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@wazza778 wow such a genius why did i never think of that
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You couldn't find it?

That's like me being unable to find my elbow xD
haha no that’s not exactly what i meant i mean more of i felt like it was too tight so didn’t want to really go through with it (sorry my original post was badly worded)
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Sex shouldn't hurt the first time, other than moderate discomfort (for like a minute or two you might need to just stop to adjust but burning definitely doesn't sound like something that should be happening). Is your body comfortable, as in you've done enough foreplay to become very aroused and you're feeling excited rather than nervous? Are you using lube (even if you have condoms with lube on them)? What kind of position are you in and who's in control? Is it easy for you to stop when things hurt and are you trying to move right away? Also fitting in two fingers is not enough to really get used to any kind of penetration, you'd need to work your way up (gradually) to getting your whole hand in there. And if you're feeling pain or like you don't want to go through with it any more, by all means stop, it's not worth hurting yourself over.
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so i had my ‘first time’ but it wasn’t exactly sex. we didn’t end up doing penetration exactly because i couldn’t find my hole, ik where it is but i just don’t see how his **** could fit in there so we just did other things instead. my question is how can i get my vagina to kind of get used to it? i’ve been able to fit in one finger and tried two once, and have tried with my dildo but it hurts sooooooooo much. ik sex is meant to hurt the first time, but it just feels so tight and has a slight burning sensation sometimes.
Hi! If you're getting hurt when penetrating with more than just fingers, maybe taking it slower would be great. Nothing wrong with going very slow! Have you tried lube? It's a great way to ease penetration and increase pleasure, it can also lessen the pain a bit.

First times will hurt, but it should ease, maybe your anxiety is making you nervous and causing you problems when it comes to penetration? Seeing a doctor would definitely help (if that's something you can do), there's no shame in talking with a professional! They can have some great advice!

Hope this helps!
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As above - lube is very important. Also, make sure to do plenty of foreplay and get thoroughly turned on before trying any kind of penetration.

My usual advice is, communicate extensively with your partner, be experimental, do what feels good and keep letting your partner know what that is. But from your OP, it seems like that's basically what you were doing. Have fun
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Same girl. It’s too tight and painful
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