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If a girl cheats on her BF once, when she's drunk, and she regrets it...

If a girl continuously sleeps with the same guy, even when not drunk.



Are these scenarios different at all?
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If a girl cheats on her BF once, when she's drunk, and she regrets it...

If a girl continuously sleeps with the same guy, even when not drunk.



Are these scenarios different at all?
First one you could say was a mistake because she was drunk, but if she’s continuing it not drunk that’s full on cheating. Either way her bf should know about this
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First one you could say was a mistake because she was drunk, but if she’s continuing it not drunk that’s full on cheating. Either way her bf should know about this
What if she hasn't told him?

has she fallen out of love?
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What if she hasn't told him?

has she fallen out of love?
It’s selfish of her not to tell him and still be in a relationship with him. She’s breaking his trust, he deserves to know.

I don’t know if she’s fallen out of love with him, but if she really loved him she wouldn’t have cheated
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Cheating is cheating. Being drunk is not a valid excuse. There's very few valid excuses for being disloyal.
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There's very few valid excuses for being disloyal.
Like what?
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Yes, the scenarios are very different.
The first one has the most chance of being perceived as a drunken mistake by most people.
The second one suggests something of a habit arising from either: no appetite for a monogomous lifestyle, lack of sexual attraction to the bf or intense feelings of negativity towards the relationship- accompanied by premeditation, dishonest intentions and probably telling blatant lies/dodgy excuses.
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Like what?
To save someone's life.
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They're both unforgiveable but the second one is much worse as it's premeditated.


It's like manslaughter vs murder. Someone is still dead at the end of it.
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Yes, the scenarios are very different.
The first one has the most chance of being perceived as a drunken mistake by most people.
The second one suggests something of a habit arising from either: no appetite for a monogomous lifestyle, lack of sexual attraction to the bf or intense feelings of negativity towards the relationship- accompanied by premeditation, dishonest intentions and probably telling blatant lies/dodgy excuses.
Maybe also, for the second scenario, she might have developped feelings for the other guy?
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They're different, yes, but the consequences are just as bad. The second situation is arguably worse as it's an ongoing thing but being drunk isn't an excuse either.
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They're different, yes, but the consequences are just as bad. The second situation is arguably worse as it's an ongoing thing but being drunk isn't an excuse either.
I agree.

The second is worse, because it's a full-on affair, and I believe there are likely feelings involved.
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Maybe also, for the second scenario, she might have developped feelings for the other guy?
There is no need for the constant dishonesty.
She could tell her bf that she is not looking for a relationship based on commitment or monogomous sexual exclusivity.
Clarify to both guys that she only wants casual sex, a fwb arrangement or a polyamorous relationship.
Then those who are not interested or incompatible will know where they stand and be able to move on without feeling betrayed/tricked/treated like a fool.
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