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I find it difficult to study and make friends through secondary school, they were many attempts, as a result most of them found it creepy (I can admit that) and I've been in England for 11 years, overall I'm still living with no friends even through college. I guess it's something to do with being bullied years before I arrive to the country. Right now its getting harder for me to communicate and getting along with people.

Do I deserve not having friends, even a group? If not, when?
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I only have 2 friends. Same ones for 10 years. I am no good at making friends. I don't have much to offer, personality wise I am boring and broke. I don't go clubbing either.

It is ok. I hardly feel lonely
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I think loneliness is something within. If you are happy with your life, you will never feel lonely
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It just feels a bit depressing for me tbh, and I will be happy when I have a massive group of friends
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I only have 2 friends. Same ones for 10 years. I am no good at making friends. I don't have much to offer, personality wise I am boring and broke. I don't go clubbing either.

It is ok. I hardly feel lonely
yours are loyal , there people who make 2 or 3 friend a week or a month but they always left them behind
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yours are loyal , there people who make 2 or 3 friend a week or a month but they always left them behind
We went to the same primary school. We still talk even though we are at university. It is because we are very similar in views, personality, looks, height. That is why we get along.
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It just feels a bit depressing for me tbh, and I will be happy when I have a massive group of friends
Get a boyfriend. It will make you less lonely.
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Dating apps are a good start . You can make a boyfriend or girlfriend or even friends
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Get a boyfriend. It will make you less lonely.
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Dating apps are a good start . You can make a boyfriend or girlfriend or even friends
You mean girlfriend (not boyfriend)? I could get a gf, but it could get complicated as well if she finds out that I never had friends. I could start approaching women out in a public place, such as going to a city
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You mean girlfriend (not boyfriend)? I could get a gf, but it could get complicated as well if she finds out that I never had friends. I could start approaching women out in a public place, such as going to a city
A woman will never accept someone who approached in the street or public place. Maybe a bar or a pub or even club
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A woman will never accept someone who approached in the street or public place. Maybe a bar or a pub or even club
Are you saying that as an overall of the women? Most of all women will accept and most women never. I also wonder... have you ever approached women?
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Are you saying that as an overall of the women? Most of all women will accept and most women never. I also wonder... have you ever approached women?
Approach in a club or bar or pub.


Don't approach in the street
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are there no nice social rejects around? i have people in my year who are pretty nice but unpopular due to looks or habits
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Approach in a club or bar or pub.


Don't approach in the street
Depends on what personality and attitude you currently have.

Yes or No


Have you ever tried approaching a woman in the streets before?
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are there no nice social rejects around? i have people in my year who are pretty nice but unpopular due to looks or habits
Not mainly on your looks is what I understand, never felt rejections before (based on social situations)
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are there no nice social rejects around? i have people in my year who are pretty nice but unpopular due to looks or habits
the term Social reject is an exaggeration. There are unpopular kids with few friends but calling them social rejects is too far
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It just feels a bit depressing for me tbh, and I will be happy when I have a massive group of friends
You won't be happy with anyone else, friendship or relationship, until you are happy with yourself. Learn to enjoy your own company and what is appreciated by other people in terms of approach, conversation and other behaviour.

Get some hobbies or volunteer and meet like-minded people that way. If you want a girlfriend, make friends with girls first. Don't go randomly approaching women on the street.
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