Girl I am seeing sleeping with her exWatch
I started talking to this girl about 5 weeks ago and we instantly hit it off, more than I've ever hit it off with a girl before - It felt natural and things were progressing.
She was used to taking things quite quickly frankly, due to her health (private issue), so I had to encourage her to slow down to a pace that I thought was more healthy for a blossoming relationship. This was the first red flag but she understood and was accepting - she even said she thought it was going well even after slowing it down.
We weren't exclusive, and still aren't but I was under the impression that neither of us were seeing anybody else. There was talk of 'special connection', 'not interested in anyone else' and 'wanting to explore a future with you' going between us.
Then, after having sex with her last week, I found out that she had actually slept with her ex 3 times since we started talking. What do I make of this?
She very much regrets her actions and wants to fix things and has told me she has completely blocked her ex out of her life in order to try and make things work.
Is this a sign of future pain (trust)? Am I overreacting seeing as we weren't together? Other thoughts?
TL;DR - Girl I have been seeing for 5 weeks has told me we have something special, I agree, but she has been sleeping with her ex.
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I mean, did she say she wasn’t seeing him at the very start of the talking stage? If not, it’s totally acceptable to block him and then say she wasn’t seeing someone else. (Technically she isn’t obligated to be entitled to you at all). Although, it would’ve been helpful and honest to tell you that before sleeping with you, so there’s a red flag there. Clearly.
Now, I don’t think you’re overreacting per say but what I have said seems as though what has happened. Definitely could be a break of trust.
Then again, you’ve only been talking to her for 5 weeks which is an awfully short amount of time. Maybe she just wanted a simple hookup, ngl.
But personally it's a big no from me. If I find out a girl that's been flirting with me is doing the same thing with other men I lose all interest and respect for them. I literally cannot be attracted to them anymore.
You want someone who's going to treat you as #1. This girl is treating you as an option while she shags her other options. In my view, people like this don't view you as an equal human being, you're just a commodity that they're using for their own pleasure. They have no respect for you.