3rd Year struggles

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Hi,

I'm in my final year of study at uni. And its something I've had to repeat in the past. My first time my boyfriend suddenly died a month before going into my 3rd year and it sent me into a deep depression and pressure so I asked to retake the year which I was allowed to do so that I could focus on getting treatment for my depression a battle I am still fighting today. So I set about doing the year again but Covid has been an issue and caring for my father who can not walk and needs consent care because of illness. We both got Covid and he was hospitalised and I was isolated in my home but it still took months to recover and uni said they would allow me to retake the year yet again. And so I did but I'm struggling my depression is a beast that I am struggling to beat and my dad's health has continued to get worse I have to care from his constantly I have EC's in place but I am struggling my head inset in the game to study and finish work and I can't sleep because it and, I'm scared. Really scared about my dad and scared about my grades. I really hoped this year would be the year I got to be a 3rd year student but I've had to do all classes online due to the pandemic, and my dad's health has been very much on edge as he is all I have and its my job to be his carer and I'm alone on that. My dad is strong and stubborn and wont give up but I'm struggling.
I'd do anything to do the year again but I doubt the uni would want me (And I'm too scared to ask) , and I don't know if I could get funding from SFE as I am by no means rich or can afford anything like that. I'm just so burnt out and so worried about everything. I just want a year where I could be a student for real without my depression without sickness. But its hard and I don't know what to do.
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I am so sorry to hear about this!
Perhaps to take the stress off you from being your dad's carer speak to adult social car and see if they can arrange for someone to take care of him for a little bit to allow you some relief. If you dad refuses outside help, have an honest conversation with him that it's not just help for him it's help for you. You are struggling and want to do well and need it.
Speak to your doctors about your depression and perhaps they can sdjust some medication or suggest a group you can join to help you cope. They might know some really beneficial sleeping strategies.
Ask the uni to redo 3rd year, but perhaps a part-time 3rd year would be the most beneficial, it takes longer but it's less work at once so you can focus on getting better and looking after you dad.
You should be able to get either universe credit or disability allowance or carer allowance which should help with financial worries. Speak to shelter (a charity) which specialises in helping young people in your position! They help with MH, young carers, financial and education worries. Email sfe and ask their advice as well.
If you want a year free of it all you have to ask people to take on responsibility for your dad so you can get better
You will get there and you can do all of this via email so you don't even have to speak to people of you sre worried about phone calls!
I hope things get better for you! 💖
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(Original post by Roasted Potato)
I am so sorry to hear about this!
Perhaps to take the stress off you from being your dad's carer speak to adult social car and see if they can arrange for someone to take care of him for a little bit to allow you some relief. If you dad refuses outside help, have an honest conversation with him that it's not just help for him it's help for you. You are struggling and want to do well and need it.
Speak to your doctors about your depression and perhaps they can sdjust some medication or suggest a group you can join to help you cope. They might know some really beneficial sleeping strategies.
Ask the uni to redo 3rd year, but perhaps a part-time 3rd year would be the most beneficial, it takes longer but it's less work at once so you can focus on getting better and looking after you dad.
You should be able to get either universe credit or disability allowance or carer allowance which should help with financial worries. Speak to shelter (a charity) which specialises in helping young people in your position! They help with MH, young carers, financial and education worries. Email sfe and ask their advice as well.
If you want a year free of it all you have to ask people to take on responsibility for your dad so you can get better
You will get there and you can do all of this via email so you don't even have to speak to people of you sre worried about phone calls!
I hope things get better for you! 💖
Thank you for the message. I've had a look at carer sites to see if things can be helped. I would love to try the year again if I could but I don't know if SFE would suport me and if the Uni would want me and I'm really too scared to ask. But thank you
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Thank you for the message. I've had a look at carer sites to see if things can be helped. I would love to try the year again if I could but I don't know if SFE would suport me and if the Uni would want me and I'm really too scared to ask. But thank you
Please just email sfe and your academic tutor or your fave lecturer and ask. If they say no, you haven't lost anything. If they said yes you've gained immensely!
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