Had huge fight with boyfriendWatch
I feel like today I made a step in how I deal with things, normally I completely shut off and won't speak to anyone, where today I spoke to him for a bit and told him why I was upset and let him say his peace and then asked for space and I told him this, on the phone after the 5 hours when I was explaining this to him he then replied with 'yeah but you've done it to me before' and I just feel like I'm not being heard? He smokes weed and I feel he can be paranoid and I do feel like a lot of the time I give in to arguments because I know it won't go anywhere other than it being my fault. On valentines day I got him a cute card and box of chocolates and he wasn't happy with this and was extremely hostile all night to me and marched me around a shop to show me all the things I could have bought him instead, this was the day before my nans funeral.
I don't know, I feel like he was in the wrong this morning with the way he reacted towards the situation as its very delicate, but after hours of speaking, I feel like we've got no where in the conversation and he's not owned up to his part only twisting things round on me saying the way I don't speak to him (when I ask for space) is treating him like ****?
I feel like I need some outside perspective please!! Thanks
How can he be angry about your poor sick dog. A supportive boyfriend would understand that is important to you a pet is like family to some of us.
If he gets paranoid moments cause of weed and gets angry at your gifts cause he doesn't like them... then he doesn't appreciate you and isn't making an effort to communicate properly. He seems less mature than you. Don't see how it works
He sounds very selfish the thing about your nan's funeral makes that really clear. And as user above said quite immature, he must have some issues which he needs help with, i don't think you should be the one to try and solve them for him. Does he make you feel low in confidence and like you can't win?
He does boost my confidence in a way he tells me I'm the nicest person he's ever met and to not worry about my body and he loves me for me but when it comes to arguing, then yes I feel like I can never win and its easier to just give in its like tonight we had a 5 hour conversation that he insisted on and we weren't anywhere close to resolving it because he dragged up new things like me not treating him right or making him feel like **** and saying what about his feelings, I tried to tell him I just wanted to go to bed but then he started saying oh see you just want to shut it down and sweep it under the rug, whereas I'm just really drained with it all and I just need to sleep!!
you both need to talk honestly and openly about what you're not happy with in the relationship and work it out
but u have to be there for each other if a pet is ill or family member died. No excuses on that... and appreciate gifts... that's basic love and respect.