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Hi, so I'm sure there are many people in a similar position so I am just looking for some advice. I am supposed to be moving away for uni this September (said uni is 1 hour and a half away) and I do not feel ready at all so am considering deferring a year. Combined with this I am in a year long relationship, however my boyfriend is in year 12 so obviously won't be going to uni this year. I sort of want to defer anyway but I know the fact I want to save my relationship is playing a big part in whether I stay or go. I am just looking for advice really, do you think the relationship will be okay no matter if I stay or go? Will deferring help me as an individual? I honestly have no idea so someone help please, thanks so much!
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Hi, so I'm sure there are many people in a similar position so I am just looking for some advice. I am supposed to be moving away for uni this September (said uni is 1 hour and a half away) and I do not feel ready at all so am considering deferring a year. Combined with this I am in a year long relationship, however my boyfriend is in year 12 so obviously won't be going to uni this year. I sort of want to defer anyway but I know the fact I want to save my relationship is playing a big part in whether I stay or go. I am just looking for advice really, do you think the relationship will be okay no matter if I stay or go? Will deferring help me as an individual? I honestly have no idea so someone help please, thanks so much!
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Only you really know whether or not your relationship might be long lasting but long-term it's probably not going to be a significant part of your life.
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Don't sacrifice your education for a relationship, remember books not boys
and honestly living only 1 and half hours away isn't actually that big a distance
so honestly won't even be that big a deal if you go to uni, you'll still be able to see him
"Will deferring help me as an individual?" no it won't
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Whilst you can always do university at any stage in life, you'll feel like you fit in if it's with people who are of similar age to you.
eg: 18-21.
So I would say: Go to uni while you have the chance too!
Relationships can work in addition to the uni lifestyle.
But make sure the institute is the right one for you. Attend open days (as many as possible) and enjoy it!
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What if you broke up with your boyfriend on the first week of term? You'd feel pretty silly deferring then. Go to uni, if the relationship is meant to be you can make it work.
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