Men and Woman's virginity

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If u tell a man you're a virgin , will they be more focused on that rather than the relationship?

Movies make it seem like a yes , but ofc this is real life but since im anxious about it being true, especially going to uni this year , and it's nerve wracking.
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virginity is a social construct. don’t worry about it. i worried so much about mine. it really doesn’t matter at all. try to have sex for the first time with someone you really love and care for / trust. this will make the experience so much better
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It depends on the specific guy or girl.
Their specific attraction dealbreakers, relationship preferences and values.
I wouldn't date a virgin guy but a few of my heterosexual female friends are only willing to date or marry fellow virgins, often because they are religious traditionalists and support sexual abstinence until marriage.
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I don't think most guys care so much anymore, if anything in my experience it's been a barrier because guys don't want the 'responsibility' that comes with it. It didn't mean as much to the person i was with (serious relationship) simply as virginity mattering is usually a religious thing and the biological part is really not that meaningful on its own.
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(Original post by Anonymous)
virginity is a social construct. don’t worry about it. i worried so much about mine. it really doesn’t matter at all. try to have sex for the first time with someone you really love and care for / trust. this will make the experience so much better
I dont have a problem with thinking that way , but people go on about how precious it is , which it is but i dotn want to keep it forever
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(Original post by londonmyst)
It depends on the specific guy or girl.
Their specific attraction dealbreakers, relationship preferences and values.
I wouldn't date a virgin guy but a few of my heterosexual female friends are only willing to date or marry fellow virgins, often because they are religious traditionalists and support sexual abstinence until marriage.
I totally understand all the different factors affecting it and its their choice if they want to save themselves till marriage, with me is not the case , thats what im kind of more anxious about as there might be some people that would go with a virgin just to say at the end of the day - i stole her v-card and claim to be the alpha and **** like that. That type of people im afriad to meet .
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Just say the truth. There is really no point to pretend someone you are not. Some people may have a preference for virgins or experienced indiviguals but you shouldnt go out with someone who wouldnt go out with you if you actually said the truth about your history.
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I don't think you as a woman have any reason to worry if men reject you if you say you're a virgin.
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Just say the truth. There is really no point to pretend someone you are not. Some people may have a preference for virgins or experienced indiviguals but you shouldnt go out with someone who wouldnt go out with you if you actually said the truth about your history.
I wasnt planning on not telling that fututre someone , but yeah i get it .
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I don't think you as a woman have any reason to worry if men reject you if you say you're a virgin.
Im not worried about the rejecting thing , its more like - look at what i said for #6 , thats what i mean , maybe its just in my head or movies played a big role in it but as i said this is real life not films and stuff
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Anonymous #1
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So basically the whole virginity thing is not real, wow never thought it wouldnt be but that does make me a bit better
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I wasnt planning on not telling that fututre someone , but yeah i get it .
(Original post by Anonymous)
Im not worried about the rejecting thing , its more like - look at what i said for #6 , thats what i mean , maybe its just in my head or movies played a big role in it but as i said this is real life not films and stuff
I see.
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I don't think most guys care so much anymore, if anything in my experience it's been a barrier because guys don't want the 'responsibility' that comes with it. It didn't mean as much to the person i was with (serious relationship) simply as virginity mattering is usually a religious thing and the biological part is really not that meaningful on its own.
Thats nice to know that most dont care anymore, i felt like before it was a huge thing but i guess it changed and im glad
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