Why do people become distant all of a suddenWatch
So I’ve been speaking to this guy for a few months. Obviously it was all great at the start. He lives an hour away which is doable. I’m currently 18 years old and live with my parents so yeah it’s a little harder to be spending 24/7 with him... but we see eachother twice a week which I think is great. His communication would be great. We’d message all day everyday. He’d reply within minutes to my messages. But all of a sudden I’ve seen a huge change in the past week. His reply’s are getting longer and blunter. I’ve just shook it off as maybe he’s busy... but after 2 weeks of patience, I couldn’t ignore it anymore. So I decided to confront him by asking him about the communication lately and that I felt as if I was annoying him in some way. He instantly apologised for the impression that he was giving. I finally calmed down. I thought maybe things would’ve changed after that. But no. His reply’s stayed the same, if not worse. I don’t know what else to do. I’ve asked him if anything is going on or if I need to give him space but he continues to say nothing is wrong. I told him if he wanted to end things I would not be offended or angry at all.... but still nothing. It’s been going on far to long and I don’t know what to do
Not here for the nasty replies. I’m just curious if anyone else has experienced this and what they did
Maybe you should think about your behaviour here. You keep nagging him and expecting instant replies 24/7, well guys don't do that stuff normally. You're just annoying the heck out of him probably so he's becoming even less inclined to respond. Maybe he's going through some personal / mental stuff, stop making this about you all the time don't be so selfish. You should be trying to help him out not push him away.
But I’m trying to help him.... It’s not nice when someone changes with you without any reason. I’ve asked him twice. I’ve told him I’m here no matter what’s wrong and he can speak to me about anything. Whenever I try to give him space he doesn’t let me.
There could be all sorts of reasons for his change in behaviour and he might not even know. My advice would be to give him space and be distant back(although that will be difficult), once he realises he’s pushing you away/losing you he might change his behaviour or realise how much he does like you and doesn’t want to stop seeing you.