Virgin at 30 help

I've manged to get to my 30th birthday without ever having sex or getting a girlfriend. I haven't met anyone through hobbies and interests and I have had no success online dating either. I worry that I'm running out of time to experience sex and love while I'm still young and that I won't ever get married and have children.

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I've manged to get to my 30th birthday without ever having sex or getting a girlfriend. I haven't met anyone through hobbies and interests and I have had no success online dating either. I worry that I'm running out of time to experience sex and love while I'm still young and that I won't ever get married and have children.

from what you have said in this thread you don't really match the 30 yr old virgin stereotype which is odd as id assume from the info you have given that at least someone would express interest. So I ask this. When u approach a girl what is your general approach? what sort of things do you say or do when they reject u? finally do you have any idea urself why u haven't got laid yet?

I am a 38 years old male. I did not have sex until the age of about 32. You are not alone in that.

I'll just say hi and then engage in conversation. I'll ask open questions about them and if they then seem interested I might flirt with her. I'll then ask her out for a coffee or ask would you like to go for a drink. If they reject me I'll just say that's ok hope you have a nice day.

I guess I've just never had the opportunity because no one has been interested in me. I don't know how I'm any different to most guys. Out of interest what do you think sets me apart from the virgin stereotype?

I'm glad that you at least manged to have sex at 32. Was this with a prostitute or was it with a one night stand/girlfriend? Have you had girlfriend(s) since?

I'll just say hi and then engage in conversation. I'll ask open questions about them and if they then seem interested I might flirt with her. I'll then ask her out for a coffee or ask would you like to go for a drink. If they reject me I'll just say that's ok hope you have a nice day.

I guess I've just never had the opportunity because no one has been interested in me. I don't know how I'm any different to most guys. Out of interest what do you think sets me apart from the virgin stereotype?

I've manged to get to my 30th birthday without ever having sex or getting a girlfriend. I haven't met anyone through hobbies and interests and I have had no success online dating either. I worry that I'm running out of time to experience sex and love while I'm still young and that I won't ever get married and have children.

basically me except im a few years younger than you and im not a virgin

arranged marriage will do the trick

I’m at a bit of a loss. What I mean when I say that u don’t fit the stereotype is that from what you have said before you 1 care about your physical appearance ( going gym and getting regular haircuts) 2 don’t seem to blame women for your failures like these incel guys do 3 said that you don’t have social anxiety and is confident. Honestly u seem like a pretty decent guy which is why i don’t understand why u haven’t gotten laid yet. Your approach doesn’t have any overly bad signs either.

My advice is just to be persistent and don’t give up hope. Keep trying to interact with women irl or on dating apps ( I’d say irl is always a better bet tho but keep ur options open) when u approach girls try not to come off too friendly, make it clear that you see them as a potential sexual partner not just a mate. So flirt when U can basically. Try and be confident when you do this, act like u got no insecurities (even if u do) girls like confident men that take charge of situations. Despite what women will insist don’t be afraid to tease her or make fun of her (NOTE: I’m not saying be an ******* make some light jokes to show her that ur not gonna worship her like most other guys do) this helps u come off as more of a exciting guy instead of the simp type guy who is too scared to offend their queen because they think she will not like them. Try and be a little unpredictable to again keep things exciting and not stale. Don’t compliment them too much as it’s usually a turn off for them. If u do then try not to compliment her looks rather her character because you will seem like most other guys otherwise. U could maybe tease a bit then throw in a compliment, again, to be a little exciting and seem like more of an interesting guy. Other than that just accept the fact that even if u play everything perfectly things sometimes don’t go ur way. Just move on to the next one and keep ur chin up. Oh and one last thing. I see u talking a lot about marriage and stuff which is cool but I’d say keep things kinda light and casual (at first) and don’t bring it up as it may be a turn off. If she’s the one then things will naturally build up. Hope this helps.

Well arranged marriage is'nt part of my culture - I'm White British.

I am a 34 year old virgin I don't care that much

I am a 34 year old virgin I don't care that much

How come? It really bothers me. I suppose I want to get married and have children in the future and that's important to me. Do you not want a girlfriend?