My boyfriend makes sexual jokes with other girls am I right to be mad

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Little.Rosie
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I have been dating him for 5 years now and ever since about a year in he will make ongoing sexual joke to “female friends” like for example he will make a sex joke of sorts with them then say it’s a joke “unless” then side eye them, I can’t directly tell you all the ones he does but it’s all similar and he will let other girls sit on his lap and if we are out and their is a girl who is a friend he will choose them the whole time we are out and I will just be left to follow along and be quiet. Their have been times when I’ve said I don’t like it in fact I hate it he says “it’s just my personality” or call me “manipulative” then over react about at me then block them and go is that what you wanted huh then get angry at me but less than a day later he secretly unblocks and continues
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Ask him if he would be happy for you to behave the same way around other guys?

I wouldnt be ok with it either - it’s not just you…
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drop this mf
We have took a break over the fact he wanted to sleep with her and even tried justifying it but he promised he wouldn’t gain but now he is ded feet about it and to him I just “don’t trust him”
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Ask him if he would be happy for you to behave the same way around other guys?

I wouldnt be ok with it either - it’s not just you…
Thank you Anna i said we would have a talk later so I will ask about it then thank you
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hey. every person has different boundaries when it comes to romantic relationships. follow your gut. if your bf’s behaviour makes u feel uncomfortable —and u have every right to feel this way— and after voicing ur feelings to him he gets defensive, flips the situation on you or tries to push it under the doormat, perhaps it’s time to give ur relationship a second thought. it sounds like he is not respecting ur feelings, and u deserve someone who does. sending hugs your way❤️
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Yeah, kinda dishonest of him to block them in your face then secretly unblock them. He clearly doesn’t respect you at all to be doing that, and even if you are being protective, he seems to not care about your enthusiasm for the relationship. End it pronto.
From experience, I had a friend who did similar stuff to girls but then tried saying it’s his personality. It’s not. It’s called being disloyal.
Especially with the whole making sexual jokes about his female friends when he knows that you don’t like it yet he still continues, blatantly.
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Dump, he doesnt respect you.
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(Original post by twinklelittlstar)
hey. every person has different boundaries when it comes to romantic relationships. follow your gut. if your bf’s behaviour makes u feel uncomfortable —and u have every right to feel this way— and after voicing ur feelings to him he gets defensive, flips the situation on you or tries to push it under the doormat, perhaps it’s time to give ur relationship a second thought. it sounds like he is not respecting ur feelings, and u deserve someone who does. sending hugs your way❤️
I absolutely agree!
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No, you’re not alone! I wouldn’t like this either - Do not allow anyone who makes you feel uncomfortable to tell you that you’re the one in the wrong! I would go absolutely batshit
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(Original post by Little.Rosie)
I have been dating him for 5 years now and ever since about a year in he will make ongoing sexual joke to “female friends” like for example he will make a sex joke of sorts with them then say it’s a joke “unless” then side eye them, I can’t directly tell you all the ones he does but it’s all similar and he will let other girls sit on his lap and if we are out and their is a girl who is a friend he will choose them the whole time we are out and I will just be left to follow along and be quiet. Their have been times when I’ve said I don’t like it in fact I hate it he says “it’s just my personality” or call me “manipulative” then over react about at me then block them and go is that what you wanted huh then get angry at me but less than a day later he secretly unblocks and continues
It's called banter I think you are overreacting
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It's called banter I think you are overreacting


Making a joke then saying “unless” is banter? Deliberately doing it when he know his girlfriend hates him doing it? Girls sitting on his lap is banter? Not socialising with his girlfriend when their outside is banter? Blocking the girls in front of his girlfriend then unblocking them behind her back is banter?

You’re delusional.
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(Original post by Little.Rosie)
We have took a break over the fact he wanted to sleep with her and even tried justifying it but he promised he wouldn’t gain but now he is ded feet about it and to him I just “don’t trust him”
This is enough evidence to show he has little respect for you. Take control, be strong, make the first move and leave that man! Nothing but pain awaits you.
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He is belittling you and emotionally abusing you so that you will allow him to sleep with this friend
Zero respect
Being a jokey person is one thing but this is the limit op
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(Original post by CaptainDuckie)
Making a joke then saying “unless” is banter? Deliberately doing it when he know his girlfriend hates him doing it? Girls sitting on his lap is banter? Not socialising with his girlfriend when their outside is banter? Blocking the girls in front of his girlfriend then unblocking them behind her back is banter?

You’re delusional.
You must be fun at parties
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You must be fun at parties


That’s your response? lol

I’m disappointed.
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That’s your response? lol
It's clear it was just banter let him be a lad rather than chastise him
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It's clear it was just banter let him be a lad rather than chastise him


I’m disappointed.
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I’m disappointed.
What a shame that
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What a shame that


Really disappointed.
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Really disappointed.
Too bad I'm sure you will be more disappointed knowing that I'm female
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