[M18] I’ll stay single for my whole life

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That’s my main fear too. I think being in a relationship is something EVERYONE should experience at least once. I think nobody can say “relationships are not worth it” to a single guy/girl… simply because the person itself has got to find it out on its own. It’s plenty of insecure people that live in very happy relationships nowadays… the “love yourself” way doesn’t work that well.

I think being single and not wanting it is the worst feeling on earth. I personally feel like trash, like a waste… seeing all other guys dating and having happy relationships with girls. It’s painful.

2 weeks ago i met a girl really randomly. She was with a classmate of mine, so it was easier for me to get to know her. We could only see each others with masks, but she followed me on instagram later ( i have no photos there ). In the next days, we chatted a bit, i asked her out and she accepted.

We had a very nice evening. We went to a restaurant, had dinner, drank something, and then i brought her back home. Everything was great, we even planned for another date. She then ghosted me and blocked me, but everything was alright during the date, and we laughed a lot. My severe stuttering problem didn’t even bother cause it never appeared that evening.

I’m now in a depressive state. I’ve NEVER been good at socializing and getting to know new people. i never had a relationship and now that i had a good chance, she didn’t like me back. I don’t know how to go on, also because i don’t know how to meet new girls/people ( meetup is full of people in their 40s and nothing else is available cause dating apps are full of superficial people)

I’m really desperate, please i need help
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Yep, you will with that attitude. Christ man, you're only 18 not 48, get a grip. You have many decades of life and personal growth left, you're far from being out of the race, you're only just starting to run it. If everyone gave up after one bad experience then everyone would be single until death.
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That’s my main fear too. I think being in a relationship is something EVERYONE should experience at least once. I think nobody can say “relationships are not worth it” to a single guy/girl… simply because the person itself has got to find it out on its own. It’s plenty of insecure people that live in very happy relationships nowadays… the “love yourself” way doesn’t work that well.

I think being single and not wanting it is the worst feeling on earth. I personally feel like trash, like a waste… seeing all other guys dating and having happy relationships with girls. It’s painful.

2 weeks ago i met a girl really randomly. She was with a classmate of mine, so it was easier for me to get to know her. We could only see each others with masks, but she followed me on instagram later ( i have no photos there ). In the next days, we chatted a bit, i asked her out and she accepted.

We had a very nice evening. We went to a restaurant, had dinner, drank something, and then i brought her back home. Everything was great, we even planned for another date. She then ghosted me and blocked me, but everything was alright during the date, and we laughed a lot. My severe stuttering problem didn’t even bother cause it never appeared that evening.

I’m now in a depressive state. I’ve NEVER been good at socializing and getting to know new people. i never had a relationship and now that i had a good chance, she didn’t like me back. I don’t know how to go on, also because i don’t know how to meet new girls/people ( meetup is full of people in their 40s and nothing else is available cause dating apps are full of superficial people)

I’m really desperate, please i need help
Ignore whatever mean comments come around here. Don't lose hope. Be outgoing. Love yourself first. Have more reasons to be confident. Think of whatever good stuff you have right. It might not lift your spirits up for now, but it's a good start.
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That's alright, you are still way young, and there are lots more people you will meet in upcoming years.
Just keep working on feeling comfortable socialising and your confidence as another user has mentioned.
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Well done for arranging and enjoying your date. It will be the first of many. Just do not expect every one to result in the young lady swooning into your arms at the end.
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(Original post by Justaboutalive)
That's alright, you are still way young, and there are lots more people you will meet in upcoming years.
Just keep working on feeling comfortable socialising and your confident as another user has mentioned.
Support from family and friends as well as good-hearted strangers is very important too. Anyone like him at one's wits' end deserves sympathy and compassion instead of mean rebuffs.
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That’s my main fear too. I think being in a relationship is something EVERYONE should experience at least once. I think nobody can say “relationships are not worth it” to a single guy/girl… simply because the person itself has got to find it out on its own. It’s plenty of insecure people that live in very happy relationships nowadays… the “love yourself” way doesn’t work that well.

I think being single and not wanting it is the worst feeling on earth. I personally feel like trash, like a waste… seeing all other guys dating and having happy relationships with girls. It’s painful.

2 weeks ago i met a girl really randomly. She was with a classmate of mine, so it was easier for me to get to know her. We could only see each others with masks, but she followed me on instagram later ( i have no photos there ). In the next days, we chatted a bit, i asked her out and she accepted.

We had a very nice evening. We went to a restaurant, had dinner, drank something, and then i brought her back home. Everything was great, we even planned for another date. She then ghosted me and blocked me, but everything was alright during the date, and we laughed a lot. My severe stuttering problem didn’t even bother cause it never appeared that evening.

I’m now in a depressive state. I’ve NEVER been good at socializing and getting to know new people. i never had a relationship and now that i had a good chance, she didn’t like me back. I don’t know how to go on, also because i don’t know how to meet new girls/people ( meetup is full of people in their 40s and nothing else is available cause dating apps are full of superficial people)

I’m really desperate, please i need help
Watch 'Jigsaw' by daniel sloss, Netflix
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That’s my main fear too. I think being in a relationship is something EVERYONE should experience at least once. I think nobody can say “relationships are not worth it” to a single guy/girl… simply because the person itself has got to find it out on its own. It’s plenty of insecure people that live in very happy relationships nowadays… the “love yourself” way doesn’t work that well.

I think being single and not wanting it is the worst feeling on earth. I personally feel like trash, like a waste… seeing all other guys dating and having happy relationships with girls. It’s painful.

2 weeks ago i met a girl really randomly. She was with a classmate of mine, so it was easier for me to get to know her. We could only see each others with masks, but she followed me on instagram later ( i have no photos there ). In the next days, we chatted a bit, i asked her out and she accepted.

We had a very nice evening. We went to a restaurant, had dinner, drank something, and then i brought her back home. Everything was great, we even planned for another date. She then ghosted me and blocked me, but everything was alright during the date, and we laughed a lot. My severe stuttering problem didn’t even bother cause it never appeared that evening.

I’m now in a depressive state. I’ve NEVER been good at socializing and getting to know new people. i never had a relationship and now that i had a good chance, she didn’t like me back. I don’t know how to go on, also because i don’t know how to meet new girls/people ( meetup is full of people in their 40s and nothing else is available cause dating apps are full of superficial people)

I’m really desperate, please i need help
Plus you can't be sure if a woman is the right match for you, so you'll do better to get into the getting-to-know-each-other phase with as many girls as you can.
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Watch 'Jigsaw' by daniel sloss, Netflix
How's that supposed to help him?
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Support from family and friends as well as good-hearted strangers is very important too. Anyone like him at one's wits' end deserves sympathy and compassion instead of mean rebuffs.
Very nice, as long as they aren't trolling i usually adopt that method.
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That’s my main fear too. I think being in a relationship is something EVERYONE should experience at least once. I think nobody can say “relationships are not worth it” to a single guy/girl… simply because the person itself has got to find it out on its own. It’s plenty of insecure people that live in very happy relationships nowadays… the “love yourself” way doesn’t work that well.
Wrong. If you have this mindset, it's most likely that you haven't made enough of an effort to improve yourself. Find some hobbies/interests so you can pick up new skills. This will give you a sense of accomplishment and make you feel better about yourself so you won't feel the need for a woman as much.

You said you've never been good at socialising but only person that can change that is you. Go out there and make new friends, socialise with people more often. I'm not sure if you have many friends but building friendships would be good for you. As long as you're surrounded by some good company, you'll feel better, doesn't necessarily have to a relationship. If you can't make yourself happy first then no one else can.
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(Original post by Justaboutalive)
Very nice, as long as they aren't trolling i usually adopt that method.
What's his username anyway? I can't help him if he doesn't show who he is.
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How's that supposed to help him?
It's a comedy show but he speaks about relationships and why you shouldn't just be in a relationship for the sake of it. He puts it very well.
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All I'm hearing is that someone had a nice date and things didn't work out in the end?

That's... how dating works. Most people you chat to won't want to date, most people you date won't want to hook up with you. Heck, you won't end up in a serious relationship with everyone that you hook up with!

You managed a successful date during COVID and overcame any worries you had about your stutter being an issue. That's literally a fantastic start, just keep going!
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What's his username anyway? I can't help him if he doesn't show who he is.
Who knows, he wants to be anon lol
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It's a comedy show but he speaks about relationships and why you shouldn't just be in a relationship for the sake of it. He puts it very well.
I thought it was a horror flick, as per IMDB. Still, I won't blame anyone for wanting whatever benefits Romantic relationships can offer.
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Who knows, he wants to be anon lol
With users here being more than likely to mock and dismiss his plight, posting a rant like this here doesn't seem to work.

Better to look for someone for help privately.
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I thought it was a horror flick, as per IMDB. Still, I won't blame anyone for wanting whatever benefits Romantic relationships can offer.
No thats a different thing, also called Jigsaw, but thats why i added 'by daniel sloss' to differenciate
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No thats a different thing, also called Jigsaw, but thats why i added 'by daniel sloss' to differenciate
I see. I'm older than the OP, although I've been making do with my single status. Gotta appreciate its benefits even it seems to be fewer than being in a relationship does.
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(Original post by SlaveofAll)
With users here being more than likely to mock and dismiss his plight, posting a rant like this here doesn't seem to work.

Better to look for someone for help privately.
I think that's what TSR is for tho lol, to post and have it open for others to help and respond.
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