My bf and me had 3sum now I feel sad and angry

Me and my boyfriend have loved the idea of having a 3 sum for ages and we finally found another girl off a swingers site ( I know right )We went for drinks it’s was fine she was lovely we all got on. We go back to ours we all start gettin down to it, but I started to feel like I was just in the way he seemed to be more all over her than he seems to be with me in general, really passionate intimate type kissin etc which bothered me more than him actually having sex with her. It was early hours of the mornin and we were all drunk I though the plan was that she was goin to get a taxi home after we’d done the deed but she slept the night. In his arms. Him strokin her and bein all over her while in just layin there unable to sleep because of it. I kept getting up and down to get a drink etc and every time I did I’d walk back in and they were all over each other kissing fingering etc I feel really hurt by it it was supposed to be for me to enjoy another woman but now it’s made me feel like **** and pissed off at him has this happened to anyone else 🥺

(edited 3 years ago)

Reply 1

Anonymous #1

Maybe next time you could try a 3 sum with another guy instead?😂

Reply 2

username5326522

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And what did you learn? Don't have threesomes

Reply 3

Tlrx

OP

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Original post by Anonymous

Maybe next time you could try a 3 sum with another guy instead?😂

That’s on the agenda trust me haha

Reply 4

Tlrx

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Original post by Moonlight rain

And what did you learn? Don't have threesomes

The idea and the reality definitely weren’t in alignment 😂🤦*♀️

Reply 5

GabiAbi84

21

Well first of all “it was supposed to be for me to enjoy another woman” is not what a threesome is about unless those were the terms that you discussed.

“I thought the plan was” -also, if you’re not clear on the “plan” then you need to communicate better.

And secondly, you tried it you didn’t like it so make sure you talk it over and take it from there.
Not everyone can handle having threesomes-nothing wrong with that. But no one is at fault here.

(edited 3 years ago)

Reply 6

ANM775

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Original post by Tlrx

Me and my boyfriend have loved the idea of having a 3 sum for ages and we finally found another girl off a swingers site ( I know right )We went for drinks it’s was fine she was lovely we all got on. We go back to ours we all start gettin down to it, but I started to feel like I was just in the way he seemed to be more all over her than he seems to be with me in general, really passionate intimate type kissin etc which bothered me more than him actually having sex with her. It was early hours of the mornin and we were all drunk I though the plan was that she was goin to get a taxi home after we’d done the deed but she slept the night. In his arms. Him strokin her and bein all over her while in just layin there unable to sleep because of it. I kept getting up and down to get a drink etc and every time I did I’d walk back in and they were all over each other kissing fingering etc I feel really hurt by it it was supposed to be for me to enjoy another woman but now it’s made me feel like **** and pissed off at him I don’t know what to do 🥺

Sorry you are feeling this way but his behavior was to be expected tbh

he's never had her before so naturally he's going to make the most of it.

If someone gives you a new playstation game for an hour do you spend that hour focused on the playstation game you've had in your collection for months?

Reply 7

Anonymous #2

Someone always feels this way after a threesome that's why when I had a threesome i was single

Reply 8

Anonymous #3

You’re selfish and a hypocrite. It’s fine for you to do that to the girl but not your boyfriend?

Reply 9

Warudobarudo

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Original post by Tlrx

Me and my boyfriend have loved the idea of having a 3 sum for ages and we finally found another girl off a swingers site ( I know right )We went for drinks it’s was fine she was lovely we all got on. We go back to ours we all start gettin down to it, but I started to feel like I was just in the way he seemed to be more all over her than he seems to be with me in general, really passionate intimate type kissin etc which bothered me more than him actually having sex with her. It was early hours of the mornin and we were all drunk I though the plan was that she was goin to get a taxi home after we’d done the deed but she slept the night. In his arms. Him strokin her and bein all over her while in just layin there unable to sleep because of it. I kept getting up and down to get a drink etc and every time I did I’d walk back in and they were all over each other kissing fingering etc I feel really hurt by it it was supposed to be for me to enjoy another woman but now it’s made me feel like **** and ****ed off at him has this happened to anyone else 🥺

Ngl this is my opinion, you shouldn’t even had a threesome in the first place. Sex is something that two people have to form bigger bonds in relationships, feeling good with them. A threesome complicates things and now he’s in decision who he really enjoyed sex with usually picking favorites (which from what I can tell it was her). Reading this hurt me, knowing that after sex he’s still having intimate physical stuff with another girl, he probably already forgot about you in that moment. Breaks my heart when I see things like this, but tbh you really just asked for it, and no one was at fault. Oh shoot this was 3 years ago lol anyway, I hope you are doing okay. Wondering if you are still with him? Anything happened? I’m sure after that everything doesn’t seem the same. May the Lord guide you.

(edited 1 week ago)

My bf and me had 3sum now I feel sad and angry

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