Anxiety about flatmates

I’m starting in September and I have a irrational fear that I’m going to end up on my own in a flat or I’m not going to get on with my flatmates. I want to go to uni for the social life and to make friends mainly so I’m really worried I won’t get on with the people I’m with

I have booked through Unite students and on the app it says I’m the only person in my flat so far. What are the chances nobody else moves in??

Reply 1

jazzyman123

15

Don’t worry about it, I was completely the same!

The reason it’s just you in the chat is because they haven’t downloaded the app or logged into it. You’ll most likely have roommates so don’t worry about that. When it comes to not getting along with them, you’ll be fine because like you they’re in the same boat as you with not knowing anyone or being nervous.

If I was you I would just enjoy the summer and prepare for university because I spent ages just worrying about the same thing and it was just a waste because these people have become my best friends!

(edited 2 years ago)

Original post by Anonymous

I’m starting in September and I have a irrational fear that I’m going to end up on my own in a flat or I’m not going to get on with my flatmates. I want to go to uni for the social life and to make friends mainly so I’m really worried I won’t get on with the people I’m with

I have booked through Unite students and on the app it says I’m the only person in my flat so far. What are the chances nobody else moves in??

Hi Anonymous,

I was with Unite whilst I was in halls, and they were really good for letting you move flats if you didn't get on with people or were on your own. Like @jazzyman123 said, it's probably because they haven't downloaded the app yet so it's not showing you having flatmates. Have you found a facebook group for your accommodation? That's how I found my flatmates before going to uni.

Lucy

Reply 3

Anonymous #1

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Original post by hallamstudents

Hi Anonymous,

I was with Unite whilst I was in halls, and they were really good for letting you move flats if you didn't get on with people or were on your own. Like @jazzyman123 said, it's probably because they haven't downloaded the app yet so it's not showing you having flatmates. Have you found a facebook group for your accommodation? That's how I found my flatmates before going to uni.

Lucy

Thanks Lucy, that's reassuring

I'm in a few Facebook groups and I'm in a discord group for the uni. I haven't found any flat mates but apparently the flat I'm moving into is is the current year's party flat! Bodes well I suppose haha

Reply 4

BennyD

12

You'll be fine I'm sure! Been at a Unite for last couple of years now. What I would suggest though, because they are particularly scummy about it, is make sure you take photos of everything, any marks, scuffs and dents you see. Be extremely anal about it. When they attempt to charge you for things, and they will attempt to charge you for things, you can provide them evidence.

I can't recommend their app for inventory. My experience was that they lost the photos.

Reply 5

University of Portsmouth Student Rep

Official Rep

16

Original post by Anonymous

I’m starting in September and I have a irrational fear that I’m going to end up on my own in a flat or I’m not going to get on with my flatmates. I want to go to uni for the social life and to make friends mainly so I’m really worried I won’t get on with the people I’m with

I have booked through Unite students and on the app it says I’m the only person in my flat so far. What are the chances nobody else moves in??

Hi!

I lived in unite halls in my first year. Before I moved in I was the only person in my flat until a week before we all moved in I found out. Don't worry you definitely won't be alone.
Unite are also really good at getting contact with the uni in case you need to move flats for whatever reason.
I personally didn't see the majority of my flatmates. I had the same anxiety as you have. What I did was just go round other peoples flats. These were people that I met in freshers with one of my flatmates and I use to socialise at theirs. It was a blessing in disguise, as it meant I could concentrate on work in peace at my flat and weren't disturbed by pres etc. In freshers, I just joined a group chat for our halls and met people through that and went to their pres and flat parties. Also, joining a society is the best way to meet people. On society nights out I use to join their pres and go out together and that's how I met a lot of my uni friends, so I would definitely recommend joining a society.

I hope this helps!
Chloe - Official Student Rep :smile:

Reply 6

Lydia Taylor (YSJU Student Ambassador)

Official Rep

12

Original post by Anonymous

I’m starting in September and I have a irrational fear that I’m going to end up on my own in a flat or I’m not going to get on with my flatmates. I want to go to uni for the social life and to make friends mainly so I’m really worried I won’t get on with the people I’m with

I have booked through Unite students and on the app it says I’m the only person in my flat so far. What are the chances nobody else moves in??

Hello,

I second that everything everyone has said about other people not accessing the app. This has happened to friends of mine. You could see if anyone is on your university Fresher's Facebook page in the accommodation that you could get to know. Just be careful with what details you share on a public forum.

You really don't need to worry, circumstances in which people don't get on with their flat mates are much less common. You are all in the same boat when you arrive and you all have the accommodation and university in common. All of the Freshers events allow you to get to know each other and even taking a day off to watch a film and eat pizza can bring you so much closer.

My first year flat mates are friends for life and I made so many brilliant memories with them. It can be so scary at first but you eventually find a rhythm and can't imagine living without them!

Lydia :smile:

Reply 7

napqueen

8

Hi,

Im sure you will be fine, i didnt get on with my first year flat mates and asked to move and now have friends for life. My advice is if you arent happy in your halls ASK TO MOVE, there is such a variety of people out there to meet at uni. dont put up with the first people you are put with for the sake of it because living with people is hard, you want to atleast like them. On the flip side though- you may have great flat mates and hit it off from the get go. Try not to over think, best of luck :smile:

Reply 8

University of Liverpool Student Rep

11

Original post by Anonymous

I’m starting in September and I have a irrational fear that I’m going to end up on my own in a flat or I’m not going to get on with my flatmates. I want to go to uni for the social life and to make friends mainly so I’m really worried I won’t get on with the people I’m with

I have booked through Unite students and on the app it says I’m the only person in my flat so far. What are the chances nobody else moves in??

Hi there,

I hope you are well :smile:

Firstly, try not to be so hard on yourself! It's not an irrational fear at all, in fact many people feared the same thing when starting university - I know I certainly did!

What really helped me calm myself down was knowing that University is a very big place! I was quite lucky as I really got on with my flatmates in first year, and we've become great friends. However, I always used to tell myself that there were other ways to make friends - so getting involved in societies, going to events, speaking in tutorials etc. The thing about university halls is that you can choose to be as 'communal' as you want, so if you don't get along with your flat mates, you're still able to have your room and your 'area' of the kitchen - you can think of it as living alone with lodgers!

I'm sure everything will be fine, and try not to fear something that hasn't already happened yet - you never know what the future may entail!

Best of luck to you.

Ana
University of Liverpool Rep.

Reply 9

University of Sunderland Student Ambassador

Official Rep

11

Original post by Anonymous

I’m starting in September and I have a irrational fear that I’m going to end up on my own in a flat or I’m not going to get on with my flatmates. I want to go to uni for the social life and to make friends mainly so I’m really worried I won’t get on with the people I’m with

I have booked through Unite students and on the app it says I’m the only person in my flat so far. What are the chances nobody else moves in??

It's totally normal to feel this way. I had a ton of anxiety before I started and was really panicking about who I'd be living with and if I'd get along with them. I personally got along great with my flatmates and so did everyone I know, but even though there is a chance that you may not get along with them, it's not the end of the world. You'll meet people on your course, through any clubs or societies that you join, and just from being on campus in general. Take every opportunity that comes your way and say yes to all the social events that are often organised by your SU to ensure you feel involved and just enjoy it!

With regards to finding out who you are living with, have you tried contacting the accommodation team to chase if there are any updates? I joined a few Facebook Freshers groups before I started and this helped me find not only my flatmates but others who were in the building too which helped me create some connections before I even started.

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