Crush cancelled on me last minute

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There’s this girl at my work who I’ve been messaging pretty frequently. We set up a date at a cocktail bar but when it came to the day she cancelled. Her reasoning was that she was tired from work. I do believe her by my concern is that I don’t think being tired isn’t really a reason to cancel.

I understand that sometimes we are to tired to function but usually if I’m excited for something then I would still go regardless of how tired I was. This leads me to believe that she wasn’t all that excited in meeting up.

If she isn’t interested in me then I don’t understand why she can’t just tell me. It’s not like she can ignore me cause we literally work at the same place and take the same bus to work. I’m really confused on her intentions.
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Nah maybe she had a *****y day at work, or wasn't in the mood? It can happen, have you rearranged another date?
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(Original post by Justaboutalive)
Nah maybe she had a *****y day at work, or wasn't in the mood? It can happen, have you rearranged another date?
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Not yet
just give her a bit of time, and maybe schedule smth else when you are both free
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I’m pretty sure that’s a valid reason. Instead of whinging, just understand where she’s coming from. You are thinking about it too much; some people can take tiredness, others can’t. As Justaboutalive says, book another date. If it continues or what not, the whole “tired”, maybe try booking a date when she doesn’t have work. This way, there would be no room for that excuse, at least hypothetically speaking. There’s no evidence to suggest, currently, that she doesn’t like you. If she continues then maybe start to take the hint.

Hope this helped.
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(Original post by Anonymous)
There’s this girl at my work who I’ve been messaging pretty frequently. We set up a date at a cocktail bar but when it came to the day she cancelled. Her reasoning was that she was tired from work. I do believe her by my concern is that I don’t think being tired isn’t really a reason to cancel.

I understand that sometimes we are to tired to function but usually if I’m excited for something then I would still go regardless of how tired I was. This leads me to believe that she wasn’t all that excited in meeting up.

If she isn’t interested in me then I don’t understand why she can’t just tell me. It’s not like she can ignore me cause we literally work at the same place and take the same bus to work. I’m really confused on her intentions.
'Her reasoning was that she was tired from work.' - this is her BS excuse and indicates low interest. If a girl isn't enthusiastic to see you, if she cancels last minute, she ain't interested.

'If she isn’t interested in me then I don’t understand why she can’t just tell me' - Because they don't want to hurt your feelings, hope you'll understand that she isn't interested, and because she's worried about your reaction.


Ask her out once more next week. If she cancels again, move on.
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I think it indicates that she isn’t really interested, especially since she didn’t even suggest another date.
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(Original post by Occitanie)
'Her reasoning was that she was tired from work.' - this is her BS excuse and indicates low interest. If a girl isn't enthusiastic to see you, if she cancels last minute, she ain't interested.

'If she isn’t interested in me then I don’t understand why she can’t just tell me' - Because they don't want to hurt your feelings, hope you'll understand that she isn't interested, and because she's worried about your reaction.


Ask her out once more next week. If she cancels again, move on.
Why do people do this? Cancelling last minute is going to peoples feelings a lot more then just saying you’re not interested. I understand some guys don’t take no for an answer but if she really thought I was one of those guys then why would she even agree to go out with me in the first place?
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(Original post by YaliaV123)
I think it indicates that she isn’t really interested, especially since she didn’t even suggest another date.
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Cancelling last minute is the most annoying thing ever. I don't think she's interested in you that much
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Why do people do this? Cancelling last minute is going to peoples feelings a lot more then just saying you’re not interested. I understand some guys don’t take no for an answer but if she really thought I was one of those guys then why would she even agree to go out with me in the first place?
Try not to overthink.

Fact is she cancelled the date because she isn't interested. You can try next week, but if she cancels, it's time to move on.
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I’m pretty sure that’s a valid reason
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I’m pretty sure that’s a valid reason
It's an excuse to not go on the date.

Even if I had driven for 10 hours, only slept for 2 hours, and had a date with someone I like, I would make the effort.

'I'm tired' is 'I'm not interested' 101
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