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How do I man up and get over my depression?

People tell me to man up and get a grip of myself for being depressed? How can I do this?

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start with self love, a lot of people are often depressed because they don't love themselves enough
Get a frequent serotonin release via regular exercise. Find perspective in looking at issues wider than your own immediate concerns. Write a daily journal to process your thoughts. Know that it will pass.
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Thanks guys for the advice
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who is telling you to man up? how long have you been depressed and have you sought any kinda professional help for it?
If it's been going on for years and nothings worked you should go to the GP and ask about antidepressants.

I had depression since I was a teenager and started taking antidepressants when I was 22 and it literally cured me immediately lol. Went from completely numb to feeling like a happy kid again.
I’m no expert on this, but one thing for sure is “manning up” is the last thing you want to say. I can feel the self-criticism in you among other similar things when you say that.

Perhaps, it’s good to just take a step back and let yourself know that you are no weaker for having depression as it wasn’t in your control and it certainly doesn’t make you less of a man. Perhaps it’s noteworthy that even the “manliest” of men are just as vulnerable to depression as you are.

Be kind to yourself and love yourself, as Jesus even himself said! :smile:
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I know
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Original post by Joleee
who is telling you to man up? how long have you been depressed and have you sought any kinda professional help for it?

I’ve been depressed for a few years
Sorry you get told to man up. You don't deserve it
Original post by Anonymous
I know

Ignore that fool.

Depression and suffering mental health wise is extremely common, there's nothing to be ashamed about. Some of the most successful and powerful men have seen therapists.

It really helps, I suggest you seek help. Telling yourself to man up or ignore your problems will only make them worse. You don't want to reach breaking point.
Original post by Sgt.Incontro
Ignore that fool.

Depression and suffering mental health wise is extremely common, there's nothing to be ashamed about. Some of the most successful and powerful men have seen therapists.

It really helps, I suggest you seek help. Telling yourself to man up or ignore your problems will only make them worse. You don't want to reach breaking point.

I just get scared that people think I act like a child for feeling sad. But thanks for the advice
Original post by Chicken.M.
If it's been going on for years and nothings worked you should go to the GP and ask about antidepressants.

I had depression since I was a teenager and started taking antidepressants when I was 22 and it literally cured me immediately lol. Went from completely numb to feeling like a happy kid again.

Some GPs are too trigger happy to prescribe antidepressants, yours sounds like that. You probably should have first tried counselling or psychotherapy to fix the root cause, rather than just numb yourself with drugs. A qualified psychiatrist would have been more informed to make the right decision on whether to treat you with drugs or not. Most drugs are poor for your health in some shape in the long run.
Original post by Sgt.Incontro
Some GPs are too trigger happy to prescribe antidepressants, yours sounds like that. You probably should have first tried counselling or psychotherapy to fix the root cause, rather than just numb yourself with drugs. A qualified psychiatrist would have been more informed to make the right decision on whether to treat you with drugs or not. Most drugs are poor for your health in some shape in the long run.


I did try all those things first actually lol. I had depression since I was a teenager and took antidepressants when I was 22 as nothing else worked.

The stigma against antidepressants is extremely harmful tbh. If I had taken them when I was a teenager it would have saved me 8 years of misery. 8 Years of depression is far more harmful to the body than drugs that you take for a couple months that will literally cure you.
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Original post by Anonymous
How old are you?

Why?
Original post by Anonymous
Ignore people saying being told to man up is wrong as well, these people are right, you can't be depressed its embarassing and you have to just grow up sometimes


Why don't you get out of anonymous? You're probably a troll getting a kick out of creating a stir. But you're encouraging the OP to make wrong decisions that can negatively affect their wellbeing, so you must have some serious issues yourself.

Original post by Anonymous
I just get scared that people think I act like a child for feeling sad. But thanks for the advice

Children usually don't think this deep. Depression affects adults more, so there's nothing child like about it.

I suggest you see a GP about your issues. Good luck.
Original post by Chicken.M.
I did try all those things first actually lol. I had depression since I was a teenager and took antidepressants when I was 22 as nothing else worked.

The stigma against antidepressants is extremely harmful tbh. If I had taken them when I was a teenager it would have saved me 8 years of misery. 8 Years of depression is far more harmful to the body than drugs that you take for a couple months that will literally cure you.

Fair enough, you didn't mention that to begin with, you gave the impression that you went straight to the meds.

You are completely right in saying 8 years of depression is bad for the body, there's countless studies linking it to various medical conditions. I'm glad you're better now.


It doesn't work like this.
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Original post by Anonymous
I’ve been depressed for a few years


that isn't good my friend :hugs:

if it's been that long i would honestly suggest speaking to your GP for advice. often there is a chemical component to depression; like your brain isn't getting the right chemicals or neurotransmitters. if that's the case, 'manning up' won't be a solution cuz your brain needs actual medical assistance to fix whatever is going on.

https://www.verywellmind.com/the-chemistry-of-depression-1065137

your GP can also refer you to counselling if that interests you, or you can refer yourself through the NHS. ngl tho it's a long wait to get in (like 6 months :frown:).

whatever you do, do not listen to bozos who tell you you beat long-term depression by 'manning up'. that's a ridiculous statement made out of ignorance on how mh works :yy:
At least in my experience, cut down technology; literally turn smartphone into a 'dumb phone', close social media accounts, quit porn, stop eating rubbish food and alcohol. then get a gym membership, learn to cook, read, meditation, sleep better, get some new clothes and haircut, socialise more, be mindful of what entertainment consume ; so listen to a variety of music, watch classic films etc. imo drugs can only go so far, if you jerk off and play video games all day it won't work

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